For most people, marriage is a first foray and a major test. No one comes into marriage with a lot of experience.
In real life, most people are constantly trying and exploring in their experiences, and each of us is constantly summing up experience and understanding the mystery of interpersonal relationships in getting along.
It is understandable why women are confused and overwhelmed with their marriages, lives, and the management of their husbands.
After all, most of the time we instinctively do what we want, because opportunities are not always easy to come by. Trial and error is often impossible.
Of course, we can also understand the accumulation of many wrong experiences behind the casual behavior, which makes the couple's life full of stress and quarrels, but also full of pain and hesitation. This makes people pay more attention to guiding the development of the marital relationship, constantly learning from experience and skills, and taking care of the relationship in a more relaxed and formal manner.
In married life, not having the right way to deal with it often leads to confusion and complexity. Sometimes, what should be simple can become tricky.
It may be normal for a woman who is entering the palace of marriage for the first time to be unable to cope with married life, manage her own family, or understand her husband. This feeling of helplessness can easily make women emotionally disturbed and feel extremely tired.
As a woman, you must understand that a good marriage and a happy married life do not come easily. Instead of putting yourself in pain and regret, learn to change sooner rather than later.
What's the point? It will only lead to endless internal struggles.
One thing we need to realize is that high-IQ women do not stand still, they take the initiative to discover and summarize the experiences in life, rather than being in the novice stage all the time. This self-drive is one of their highlights.
Therefore, female friends, what you need to understand is that the skills of high-IQ women to control their husbands can be summed up in four words - pretending to be stupid and not talking.
First, stop questioning and ignore indifference
Words are sometimes the most powerful tool for proving the truth, but they can also be a weapon to deceive others. Use the power of words sparingly, following the principles of honesty and justice.
Actually, love or not love is clear for everyone, even if the other person does not declare it verbally. This true emotion is revealed in every aspect of life.
We should not constantly ask our husbands "do you love me", which will only cause boredom in men and has no practical meaning. As a wise woman, we should be clear about whether we are loved or not, rather than constantly seeking validation from others. Trusting your feelings and learning to communicate is the key to maintaining a happy marriage.
There's also no need to worry too much about whether your husband will notice every detail of you.
Men are usually thicker than women, and they often fail to notice every detail that women pay attention to. On the other hand, in the face of indifference, the best way to fight back is to ignore it. This may be because apathy often comes from a sense of abandonment or powerlessness, and ignoring it allows us to be more in control of our emotions and reactions. Whatever the reason, we need to learn to be rational and respond to apathy in the most appropriate way.
If he behaves coldly towards you in everyday life, then you can also treat him calmly. Your ignorance and disdain will make him nervous and uneasy.
Second, in the face of his quarrel, pretending to be deaf and dumb
When we live together, we inevitably have differences and contradictions.
Both are independent individuals with their own unique personalities. Due to the differences in lifestyles and ideologies, there will naturally be certain differences between the two sides. After all, individuals are free to think and act, and the similarities and differences between people should also be respected.
In married life, we must learn to be open to the differences between husband and wife. Although there will be quarrels between couples, this does not become a conflict between us. We should accept and understand each other's views with a calm mind, listen carefully, negotiate together, and solve problems together. Only in this way can our love continue to deepen, and our marriage can be stable and long-lasting.
As a woman, whether it is for self-protection or to maintain marriage, you must learn to ignore each other's quarrels and make compromises. This is a skill that we must master as mature and confident women.
In the face of the other person's anger and anger, we should not rush to argue about who is right and who is wrong. At such times, it is more necessary to have a calm mind and a peaceful attitude to alleviate the conflict.
When we are emotionally out of control, we are prone to impulsive words and actions, which tend to hurt our important people and feelings. We need to stay calm at all times and avoid hurting the other person.
In order to avoid being hurt by the other side, the best option is to leave the battlefield and remain silent. Don't care about the words and actions of the other person, and would rather endure a momentary grievance than put yourself in danger. It is a wise and mature approach that embodies the awareness and wisdom of self-preservation.
After calming down, if your husband is still sane and wants to live a good life, it is natural to reflect on his actions and find ways to solve the problem. Now is a good time for you to communicate rationally with him.
When he brags about himself, he pretends to be deaf and dumb
A man is very face-conscious, although when he is at home, he can bow to you, obey your commands, and work hard, but he still wants to be respected and admired by others.
In public, especially in front of his friends and colleagues, he would not admit that he was a man who was afraid of his wife, and even less would tolerate any disrespect for him from any woman.
They have no ill intentions, they just want to maintain their image as men and try to prove their important place in the family.
In this case, women should avoid exposing men's rhetoric and instead learn to remain silent in order to preserve male dignity.
In order to make your man more grateful for your care for him outside, and make him more obedient to you at home, this is a question worthy of our serious consideration.
In fact, men are very easily satisfied, they just want their partner to give them some respect and face.
Female friends, please don't always use arguments to solve problems, and don't put everything on the table to distinguish right from wrong. Let's approach things in a more relaxed and formal way.
Marriage is a relationship of mutual support, and husband and wife should understand and take care of each other. In this process, we should always remember that we are one and need to be considerate and supportive of each other.
Conclusion:
Marriage management is not difficult, the key is to empathize and not care about gains and losses.
In real life, there are many women who cannot achieve happiness, often because they are too calculating and unwilling to work hard to manage their relationship. They always think that it should be the responsibility of the man, or that it is a problem that two people face together. However, the truth is that everyone should give for their affection, and only in this way can true happiness be obtained.
Indeed, being in love is something that both parties have in common. But if you and the other person don't take action, who can start the relationship? It is crucial to take the first step aggressively.
Remember, as long as you get the results you want, then the effort and difficulties you endure in the process are not enough. Take the first step and give it your all for what you aspire to.
In short, to make yourself a woman with a superb IQ and master the subtle way of the husband, you only need four words - pretend not to listen and pretend not to know.