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In the circle of mothers, mother-in-law has also become a hot topic of discussion among countless mothers.
There are always mothers in the circle who complain about their mother-in-law's badness with their mothers, and they are all saying that their mother-in-law is not. It is also easy to instill some bad views on new mothers, in fact, many mothers are wrong at the beginning, if they do not wait to get along with their mother-in-law and hold the idea of "do it if they don't obey", the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to manage well.
Every family and every mother-in-law is different, and whether your mother-in-law is good or not has to get along with herself before you can feel it.
I believe that many mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law get along with each other from a good starting point, but many mothers have radical thoughts and extreme thoughts, which will cause their mother-in-law's behavior to be disgusted by themselves.
Last week, there was also a mother in the group who complained: As long as I saw my mother-in-law, I felt very uneasy, and I felt particularly depressed in the same room, although my mother-in-law did not interfere with herself, but she still had that kind of psychological discomfort, is this intuitive?
In fact, such a reaction is because the mother herself has an extreme view of the position of mother-in-law, which will lead to such feelings for the mother.
Some mothers also said that their mother-in-law always interfered in their own lives, and since she was pregnant, she liked to take care of herself, and her mother also thought that her mother-in-law was bullying her.
In fact, there is no malice in empathy about the mother-in-law's starting point, after all, after pregnancy, many things must be paid attention to, and the baby in the womb must not be affected, which is also for the good of the mother and interfere with the mother's life.
But if the mother's impression of the mother-in-law is not very good, it will naturally have bad thoughts.
Therefore, when getting along with my mother-in-law, many mothers are wrong at the beginning, and we must not have the impression of having evil thoughts and extreme thoughts about my mother-in-law without living and working together.
From getting married to being a mother, these 5 points can help you identify a good mother-in-law, if the mother-in-law does it, her heart is really not bad
01 Basic etiquette with your mother's family
A good mother-in-law can also reflect the basic etiquette.
When you get married, you will have a bride price, and if your mother-in-law can follow the local customs of her daughter-in-law or her mother's family, such a mother-in-law is also a good mother-in-law.
If the mother-in-law is prejudiced against her daughter-in-law, she may make excessive demands on the issue of etiquette when it comes to marriage.
deliberately making things difficult for her mother's family, but she wants to save face and save money, completely ignoring her mother's face, such a mother-in-law will be relatively selfish.
02 Do not favor your son
After getting married, the mother-in-law's approach to the husband and wife is also completely different.
If the mother-in-law will not favor her son and treat herself as a daughter, such a mother-in-law is also a good mother-in-law.
If the mother-in-law has a bad impression of herself, she will also make a bias towards her son, and there is an unequal view, such a mother-in-law is also narrow-minded in her heart, and it is a manifestation that she is not good for her daughter-in-law.
03 Follow the advice
A good mother-in-law generally follows the advice of young people.
When making a major decision at home, both the daughter-in-law and the son will follow the opinion, and the mother-in-law who can do this still has high hopes for the daughter-in-law.
There are also mothers-in-law who are too strong and do not follow the opinions of their sons and daughters-in-law, which is also a manifestation of strength, and in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, daughters-in-law are also easy to suffer, but such mothers-in-law may not have malicious intentions, and the starting point may be good.
04 Take the initiative to reduce the burden
A good mother-in-law will take the initiative to reduce the burden on the family.
Whether it is to help with the baby, or to subsidize the family, and take the initiative to share the burden of the family, such a mother-in-law is not only very good, but also very smart.
In their later years, they naturally need to rely on their daughters-in-law and sons, so by sharing their pressure, they can also improve their happiness index, and the overall family quality of life and happiness index will also improve.
Such a mother-in-law longs for a high quality of life for her son and daughter-in-law, and hopes to live a better life.
05 Do not interfere in the private life of your daughter-in-law
Since getting married, he has special respect for his daughter-in-law and never interferes in his daughter-in-law's private life.
After becoming pregnant and becoming a mother, it may involve the influence of the child, and the mother-in-law may interfere and intervene, but the starting point is to respond in the direction of the daughter-in-law and the child.
From marriage to motherhood, if the mother-in-law can do these 5 points, the mother should also be happy, such a mother-in-law has no bad intentions, and she is also a good mother-in-law.