In life, every woman will inevitably encounter two major "enlightenments".
The first enlightenment often occurs during adolescence, when the transition from a girl to a woman.
Once they reach puberty, girls experience great changes in their hearts and physiology, a new perception of sex and intimacy, an unconscious desire for independence, and a gradual separation from their parents' attachment relationships.
Although this stage of enlightenment makes them experience frequent frustrations and pains, it also makes them realize that their innate sense of independence and autonomy is the awakening of female power.
The second enlightenment often occurs after a woman gets married and has children.
Many women are obsessed with their husbands and children as soon as they enter marriage, serving their husbands and children wholeheartedly, and burying their needs deeply.
It wasn't until many years later that they suddenly woke up and found that their lives had almost been hollowed out, their marital relationships were alienated, and their careers were halted.
Some women will choose to escape from reality and continue to bury themselves deeply, but many more women will desperately struggle to be born again, which is the second enlightenment.
The difficulty and pain of the two openings are completely different.
The first time is like a fledgling chick breaking free from its eggshell, faltering but full of hope; The second time is like a shattered wing, and the process is lonely and long.
Some people say that a woman only needs to open her mind once in her life, which is naïve.
Two enlightenments are indispensable, and only after two times can you really grow into a woman.
The first opening of the mind allows the girl to win independence The first opening of the girl is often accompanied by the onset of puberty.
For them, this period is like opening the door to a new world, and their hearts and bodies are undergoing earth-shaking changes.
15-year-old Mu Mu has experienced such a "transformation". Since she was a child, Mu Mu has always been a so-so girl who is content with the status quo.
She doesn't have much desire for many things, let alone take the initiative to fight for anything, and her whole life is dominated by her parents.
Until one day, Mu Mu suddenly kept silent to his parents, became withdrawn and introverted, and behaved strangely.
It turned out that she happened to see her parents' condoms and realized that her parents would do "that kind of thing". This made the whole world almost collapse in her heart, and she began to question everything her parents had taught and even began to rebel.
Although the parents were anxious, the smart man still realized that this was a sign of the daughter's first "enlightenment".
The girl has temporarily lost her mind and reason, and has no way to control her emotions, so she needs her parents to let go temporarily and let her experience and comprehend the world alone.
In this way, Mu Mu took the initiative to leave the house and mingled in some sloppy and dirty circle of friends.
Although she has suffered many injuries there, such as being taken advantage of by a boy, being bullied and bullied by her classmates, and so on.
But she still learned new things about sex and love there, and finally re-examined herself.
Half a year later, Mu Mu returned home after being completely tidy and sincerely apologized to his parents.
The parents looked at the new brilliance on their daughter's body, although they still couldn't stop sighing, but they also faintly cheered for her.
There are not a few women like Xiaoping, and they have truly become an independent individual through the second enlightenment and won back their own lives.
The two openings are difficult, but they allow a woman to win independence and be reborn, which is the cornerstone of a happy life.
An independent woman, no matter what environment she is in, can survive and show her strength with ease.
In contrast, women who stay in a single role and have no independent personality are destined to do nothing in society and the family, and be passively manipulated.
Independence is fundamental to women's happiness For most people, independence means freedom of choice and the ability to dominate oneself.
And this is an important foundation for a happy life.
Only when she is independent can a woman truly live according to her own wishes, rather than passively obeying the arrangements and expectations of the outside world.
For example, after independence, she can choose her career path independently, without having to be considered by others
"Women should be housewives"
； She is free to decide whether to marry and have children, without having to listen to the urging of her elders; She can also pursue whatever she likes as she pleases without being restricted.
It can be said that independence gives women complete control over their own lives, making them real individuals and not vassals of others.
It is precisely because of this state of freedom and autonomy that women can avoid being passively coerced by life, so as to actively pursue their own path to happiness.
Happiness, on the other hand, is often built on the basis of independence.
A woman who is dominated by others and lives passively, even if she seems to be "happy and happy" on the surface, will inevitably feel empty and anxious inside.
Only when she has an independent personality and can make her own decisions about her life will true happiness be born.
As Chu Ya once wrote:
"The grass is also cut, why is it ugly in the mud?
The clear stream is also in the steps, where to stop?
Only by being independent can we be uninhibited and independent, and only then can we be comfortable. "
Although life is revived, as long as you are independent, you can control yourself and live your life without constraints, which is the highest happiness.
Independence is the need for social development In addition to the individual level, independent women are also a major driving force for the development of society as a whole.
In modern times, the elevation of women's status and the awakening of their rights stemmed from their gradual independence, rather than passively dependent on men.
In traditional societies, women generally lack independent economic ability and social status, and they have no way to support themselves, but can only rely on men, so they cannot really determine their own destiny.
It wasn't until the industrial era that women's employment became widespread, and economic independence allowed them to take control of themselves and fight for more equal rights.
It can be said that when women truly become independent individuals, rather than family vassals, they can fully display their talents in the economic, political, educational and other social fields, and become an important force to promote social change and civilization progress.
For example, the contributions of contemporary female scientists, entrepreneurs, politicians, etc., to society are obvious to all.
Even at the family level, independent women can be the pioneers of change.
Mothers who think independently and take the initiative to live tend to raise the next generation that is more assertive and critical.
If the mother remains passively dependent, it is inevitable that this way of thinking will be passed on from generation to generation, hindering the progress of the whole family and society.
It can be seen that women's independence is not only related to personal happiness, but also closely related to the progress and development of the whole society.
From this point of view, women should and must be independent, which is no longer an optional choice, but a natural life issue.
Women have two opportunities in their lives, the first is to be independent, and the second is to regain themselves.
The two openings were difficult, but they helped women to finally win the state of independence.
Independence is not only the cornerstone of women's personal happiness, but also the demand for the continuous progress of the whole society.
For every woman, she should take the initiative to embrace these two opportunities to open her mind, so as to show her strength and live her life in society and family.