My colleague Xiaomei is pregnant with her second child and is often asked, does she want a son or a daughter for this child?
Whenever this happens, Xiaomei says that the eldest is a son, and he must want a daughter, how good it is to have both children and daughters! But if it's a son, he's just as happy, and he'll be protected by 3 men in the future!
But I don't know where to start, everyone is not so looking forward to having a son, and I saw a lot of comments on the Internet, saying that having a son is stressful, and I have to earn him money for the bride price and the wedding house; Giving birth to a daughter, there is no pressure, you can lie flat.
There are even netizens who give examples, the couples who raise sons around them are very hard working and working hard to make money, while those who raise daughters are very chic and do not have much desire to make money.
After Wen Wen's father heard it, he instantly felt that his blood pressure had soared, who said that if you have a daughter, you don't have to work hard to make money? Could it be that money will fall from the sky just because I gave birth to a daughter? Or does it mean that the daughter does not need to be cultivated, and she can meet Ruyi Langjun when she grows up and live well?
If the parents who give birth to a daughter feel that "having a daughter, there is no pressure, you can lie down" is really wrong, and it will hurt the child!
01. The "money power" of parents determines the way out for children
I have a friend Xiaomeng, whose family conditions are very good, my father is in real estate, and her family made a lot of money in the years when housing prices rose.
Once, her father asked her about her future plans, and she admitted that she didn't want to take the college entrance examination, and with her current results, she couldn't get into a good university if she took the college entrance examination.
Surprisingly, her father did not object, but turned around and transferred her to an international school that did not need to take the college entrance examination (hundreds of thousands of tuition fees a year). In international schools, because there is no need to take the college entrance examination, the teachers pay great attention to cultivating the comprehensive quality of children, and Xiaomeng is like opening the door to a new world, and has time to participate in various club practices.
Xiaomeng has loved to read various literary books and movies since she was a child, and with the encouragement of her teachers, she also tried to write school stage scripts, poems and essays. Later, one of her stage scripts was loved by teachers and classmates, and she gradually regained her self-confidence, and she began to become cheerful and mature.
While others were still working hard in the classroom for the college entrance examination, she had already tried to contact film investors, prepare and plan for her own campus stage play, and personally participated in the shooting. In the process of preparing for filming, she also found her ultimate development direction, and finally applied to study abroad in a film school.
Looking back on Xiaomeng's life experience, I have to say that her parents' family background "money power" gave her the confidence and vision to choose, so that she could go to college without taking the college entrance examination, and go abroad to study abroad to realize her ideals.
Xiaoya, a neighbor in my hometown, is not as lucky as Xiaomeng. Since Xiaoya was born, her parents felt that they could lie flat when they saw that it was their daughter! thinks that it is good to have a daughter and raise it, you don't have to make too much money, and you can get a bride price in the future.
Therefore, Xiaoya's parents have been in a state of not seeking progress all their lives, and they are drunk today. Later, Xiaoya was not admitted to university, so her parents directly let her go to work in the factory, and within a few years, she married a boy in the same factory.
Let's see, whether there is a way out in a daughter's life depends on the "money power" of the parents. Xiaomeng doesn't want to take the college entrance examination, but her parents have the strength to give her a foundation and pave the way for her dreams; And Xiaoya failed the college entrance examination, so he could only enter the factory.
So, do you think you can lie flat when you have a daughter?
02. Girls with help in their families have a higher quality of life
The quality of life of young girls now really depends on the degree of wealth accumulation of their parents.
I know a girl who was 95 years old, went to take the public examination after graduating from university, and was successfully admitted to a well-established public institution. In order to reward her, her parents bought her a car worth more than 200,000 yuan and asked her to drive to and from work.
In the second year, I bought a three-bedroom apartment for her near the unit, and the location she chose was also a very good elevator room, which was very valuable and the transportation was very convenient.
As for her, her monthly salary is more than 4,000 points, which is not enough for her to buy clothes and cosmetics by herself, and her parents have to pay thousands of yuan every month. Her life is very comfortable, her clothes are basically not the same for a week, and she goes out with her friends after work.
There is also a post-95 girl in my department, who stayed in Chengdu with her boyfriend after graduating from college, and the two got married with credit cards, and now they still live in a rented house.
But both of them are very hard-working and excellent, with a combined salary of more than 20,000 yuan, but the quality of life is far inferior to that girl who earns 4,000 a month.
This girl is full of thoughts about saving money to buy a house and raise a baby, she has said many times that she wants to start a business, and she feels that there is no future for work, but she still commutes to work every day, because she has no money to start a business, and her parents can't help.
Look, two girls of the same age, with a higher income, are not as good as those with a low income. And I don't think the gap between them will be bridged for at least the next 10 years. After 10 years, people have reached middle age, and at this time, there are parents and children, and the quality of life will be enlarged again.
Therefore, I can't understand why some parents think that if they give birth to a daughter, they can lie down with peace of mind?
03. Girls with good family backgrounds are more likely to marry well
In the program "Dialogue", a girl asked: Is it reasonable for a girl to learn well and marry well?
The host, Mr. Wang Lifen, replied: Don't let the sadness of the times become the sadness of your life!
To tell the truth, if a girl has a bad family background, she can't make money, her performance is mediocre in all aspects, and she basically has no chance of marrying well, and it is really not easy to live.
According to the "Post-95 Love Report", objects with a monthly salary of tens of thousands are more likely to be favored; 70% of people believe that dating should be AA. It can be seen that the love of the new generation of young people is very realistic!
The "2017 Survey Report on Your Chinese View of Marriage and Love" shows that some men are very concerned about the economic strength of the woman, and even many men will take the woman's economic conditions into consideration.
For most young girls, most of the financial strength before choosing a mate comes from their parents. When you are knocking on the side and inquiring about the man's family conditions, the other party may also be weighing your family background.
I know a girl, her family background is very ordinary, but she is beautiful and has a good figure, she has been in love with her rich second-generation boyfriend for 3 years, but the man never takes her home, and he does not introduce her to relatives and friends as a girlfriend.
Whenever a girl asks to meet her parents or get married, her boyfriend will use various reasons to get over. Later, less than half a year after the two broke up, the man married a rich second-generation girl.
Look, falling in love can be a lot of money, and once you get married, the man will also choose to be a good match and a strong alliance.
Therefore, in this era, girls from poor families are not very able to make money themselves, and it is already difficult to marry well.
There is a topic on the Internet: In first-tier cities such as Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen, would you find a girl with a monthly salary of 3,000 to marry?
This question attracted the attention of more than 5,000 people and received more than 1,500 answers, and the answer was all the same: no!
Life is hard enough, the girl wants to live a relaxed and comfortable life, and the man thinks the same way!
Parents who have daughters want their daughters to marry a boy with good character and good conditions in the future, but they don't know that boys in such a family will also look at the girl's own conditions and the family background behind it.
Therefore, after my daughter was born, I never had the idea of lying down, and I have been working hard to make money, so that my daughter can have greater confidence in life in the future. We can't stay with her for the rest of our lives, but now we will do our best to give her a good future security.
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