In the fog of emotion, it is often difficult for us to get a glimpse of what the other person really thinks, especially when men are torn between loving you and giving up on you, and their performance is even more unpredictable.
This complex and delicate emotional state is like an inner storm, sometimes stormy, sometimes calm.
Men, as creatures with intertwined rationality and sensibility, tend to have a more complex inner world than women.
They may really love you, but for various reasons they are hesitant and want to give up.
At this time, you will feel their contradictions and struggles from some of their small actions and words.
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Emotional fluctuations are like ocean waves, sometimes turbulent, sometimes calm and waveless.
When a man is oscillating between loving you and giving you up, his emotional state will rise and fall like the waves of the ocean.
He may be passionate about you, showing his affection with sweet words and romantic gestures; But in the blink of an eye, he will become cold as ice again, ignoring your concern and greetings.
This performance, sometimes enthusiastic as fire, sometimes cold as ice, is actually a true portrayal of his inner struggle. He wants to spend the rest of his life with you, but he is also afraid of the uncertainty and responsibilities of the future.
The French writer Victor Hugo said: "The first sign of true love is timidity in boys and boldness in girls." ”
In a man's inner world, this timidity and struggle is proof that they love you, and at the same time the reason why they want to give up on you.
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Commitment is the most beautiful vow in love, and it is also a way for men to express their love. However, when a man is torn between loving you and giving up on you, his commitment becomes blurred.
He may give you some good promises to look forward to the future; But when you ask when these promises will be fulfilled, he will be vague and even find all kinds of reasons to shirk it.
This vague promise is actually a manifestation of the uncertainty in a man's heart. They want to go hand in hand with you, but they are also afraid of the responsibilities and constraints that come with commitment.
The German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche said, "There is no emotion that is not full of holes." ”
On the road of love, men will also encounter various difficulties and challenges that can make them feel lost and uneasy, which can lead to their ambiguity and shirk of commitments.
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Caring is one of the most basic expressions of love.
However, when a man is torn between loving you and giving up on you, his concern for you becomes in-and-out.
He may care about you in a certain moment, making you feel his warmth and thoughtfulness; But at another moment, he will ignore your presence and be indifferent to your needs and feelings.
This kind of intermittent concern is actually another manifestation of a man's inner struggle. They want to spend quality time with you, but they are afraid that their concern will become a burden.
The English writer Jane Austen said, "Love blinds people, but marriage makes people sober." ”
In men's inner world, they may be in this struggle between blindness and sobriety, not knowing how to deal with their feelings.
In the face of this kind of performance of a man who wants to love you and give up on you, as women, we should remain calm and rational.
Don't be easily fooled by their enthusiasm and concern, and don't give up easily because of their coldness and alienation.
Instead, we should take the initiative to communicate with them, understand their inner thoughts and feelings, and help them find solutions to their problems.
At the same time, we must also learn to protect ourselves. In love, we must not only give sincerity and passion, but also maintain a certain degree of independence and autonomy.
Don't change yourself to suit a man's preferences, and don't compromise to maintain a relationship. Only when we are truly independent and autonomous can we win the respect and love of men.
"Love is an adventure, but as long as we face and cherish every moment bravely, we will definitely be able to reap our own happiness."
May we all be brave on the road of love and find our own happiness and home.