Lawyer Liu Yan has been practicing for 7 years, and he is most afraid of two kinds of cases.
The first is a vicious criminal case in which there is a force behind the interference. Secondly, it is a divorce case, even if it is ordinary in nature, he is still afraid.
Liu Yan said that divorce cases seem simple, but the difficult thing is that people's hearts are wavering. He complained in court, and some couples went to the court to reconcile, and finally asked him to return the money.
"Many times, a divorce petition is just a communication tool for both husband and wife."
The story I'm going to tell today is the second type, but it's not ordinary at all.
The client was 76 years old with terminal cancer. Lying on the hospital bed, she had two wishes, one was to divorce, and the other was to ask her granddaughter to help her write a memorial message, "Remember that grandma sang on the road behind your back, so that you will not be afraid to walk at night." ”
In order to fulfill her grandmother's first wish, the granddaughter found Liu Yan.
With a little more patience, this story is unmistakable.
Event Name: The hardest delegate
Event Number: Crime 14
Witness: Liu Yan
Event time: December 2018
Recorded in January 2019
The hardest delegated
Liu Yan/text
On December 21, 2018, a sophomore girl approached me and asked me to represent me in a divorce case.
She was holding a crumpled piece of writing paper, as if it had been preserved for a long time, with my phone number written on it.
The person concerned is her grandmother, who is 76 years old this year and wants to divorce her grandfather.
In my experience as a lawyer, even if a sophomore girl says that she got married too early and can't get through it and wants a divorce, it is more realistic than divorcing an old lady.
Divorce cases are relatively simple, and the fear is that when the parties are vacillating, the lawyer will charge into battle, and once the court is reconciled, they will unite to let the lawyer return the money.
Especially this kind of elderly lady, whose granddaughters are all adults, and no one takes it seriously when she says she wants a divorce. There's no way I'm going to spend my time and energy doing such a thankless task.
But the girl in front of her repeatedly emphasized that she was serious, "Some things are more important to me than to live." ”
In order to dispel her thoughts, I directly negotiated with her about the money, saying that we usually charge 20,000 yuan for a divorce case. Seeing that she is a student, a discount is not less than 15,000, because her village is far away from me, and she has to reimburse transportation and accommodation and other expenses, and she has to pay for it and then go through the entrustment procedures.
"It's a deal." Unexpectedly, the girl quickly took out 1,000 yuan and an ID card from her bag, "Don't go back on your promise." I don't have that much money on me, can I write an IOU and pay you back in installments? ”
She took out her ID card again: "I'll mortgage this to you too." If I need to use it temporarily, I will exchange it for the school's card. ”
Ordinary people press my ID card to me, and I just think it's a piece of waste paper. But the serious appearance of the girl made me curious. What is the reason why a girl who is still in school insists on divorcing her grandmother so much?
From the ID card, I learned that her name is Xiaohua, born in 2000, and her face in the photo is seriously stretched.
I handed my ID card and money back and told her that if it was reasonable and had a beginning and an end, I would think about it.
Xiaohua took off his hat and mask, "The heating in the café is too big, and it's uncomfortable to cover." I don't usually wear these, but the first time I saw you, I was afraid that I would scare you. I'll tell you about my grandmother, and you'll believe it. ”
I saw that her hair was black, her eyes were bright, her hands were slender and fair, and she should have been a standard pretty girl, but now her face was burned, and her muscles were scars of different shades, and the corners of her mouth were slanted along the scars to form a semicircle.
"If it weren't for my grandmother, I wouldn't have been able to get out of the mountains, and in the crowd, I would be the least brave person to look up." Xiaohua said.
In the past, Xiaohua hoped that he would grow up sooner and his grandmother would be happy sooner, but now it seems impossible. "Grandma was hospitalized, it was terminal cancer, and the doctor said that it would be half a year at most."
"Divorce is grandma's last wish, it should have been fulfilled a long time ago, and no one in the family really cares about her, so it has dragged on until now."
I said to Xiaohua, I took the case, and the rest will end here.
Xiaohua wiped away the tears on the scar: "I want to tell you, this is my sincerity." ”
used to be Xiaohua, who was the best looking girl in the village, but whenever any activity was held, as long as children were needed to participate, she would be the first thing to think of. The dragon dance team let her strike the first gong and shout to the river, "The wind and rain are smooth." ”
Grandma herself is not particular, she wears old-fashioned coarse cloth and is obedient, but Xiaohua next to her is well-dressed, clean and generous. She often washes Xiaohua's hair and combs her hair, ties all kinds of good-looking braids, and applies alabaster to her little face, Xiaohua's face is always pink and tender.
Such a good grandmother, but she has no status at home. She married her grandfather at the age of 16, and she had never met her grandfather once before she started.
On the day of the wedding, my grandmother found out that my grandfather was a pockmarked child, and she showed a surprised expression. Because of this, she was beaten by her grandfather. Grandpa suspected that grandma looked down on him, and in order to regain the so-called face, he gave grandma a dismissal.
A dozen is 60 years.
Grandma was born in a landlord family, and she had to marry a poor middle peasant in order to protect the family from criticism. She is used to seeing her parents being beaten, but she is powerless to resist, and she is used to enduring it.
Grandma didn't get any dignity from her grandfather, she worked up and down, and her juniors didn't take her seriously.
Xiaohua's elder brother has been yelling at his grandmother since he was a child. Once, my brother was playing on the ground, and my grandmother was feeding the chickens in a basin with rice bran. When the chicks saw the food, they rushed to the food and disturbed the brother. The elder brother was dissatisfied, so he took the basin and poured all the rice bran on his grandmother's head.
When he became an adult, his brother bought a van, and whenever there was a market in the town, he would solicit customers and charge two yuan a piece, but as long as his grandmother got into his car, he would drag her down and not allow her to occupy his place.
My brother's behavior of not recognizing his six relatives will also be praised by his grandfather, "This is a person who can achieve great things." ”
Grandma gave birth to a total of 12 children, and only 3 survived - Xiaohua's father and two aunts. The other 9 died of illness, starvation, the oldest was only 6 years old, and the youngest lived less than 2 months.
Since the first six are all girls, grandma has no status in front of grandpa.
Xiaohua's father is the youngest child, and grandpa has spoiled him since he was a child, even if he does something out of the ordinary, grandpa will not talk about him, he will only beat grandma.
The two aunts were treated differently since childhood, and the younger brother could do whatever he wanted at home, and they had to follow their mother outside to collect pigweed, chop wood, dig the ground, and when they came back, the three of them had to carry water and cook, and later they were afraid when they came home.
Only Xiaohua and grandma are in the family, and grandma takes her with her wherever she goes, holds her in her arms, carries her on her back, puts her in a basket, tells stories, sings songs, and travels long distances.
"Grandma is my only lucky star, and I had an accident when she wasn't there." Xiaohua's "accident" refers to the scars on her face. At that time, she was only 5 years old, her grandmother was bedridden, and her parents were working in other places, so her brother who was three years older could only take care of her.
That day, my brother simmered a sweet potato in the kitchen and asked Xiaohua to see if it was ripe for him. Xiaohua walked to the stove, accidentally tripped over a long bench, fell down, and his whole face was stuck in the stove pit built outside, and the charcoal fire was burning.
Faced with Xiaohua's screams, his brother turned a deaf ear. When the grandmother dragged the sick body to follow the sound, a large area of meat on Xiaohua's face was burned, and he couldn't tell whether it was charcoal or black skin, but fortunately he didn't hurt his eyes.
Grandma picked up Xiaohua and ran for two kilometers of mountain roads without stopping, and only stopped the car on the road and took her to the hospital.
In the hospital, every time a white coat walked by, the grandmother would kowtow and beg them to save her granddaughter. Fortunately, although Xiaohua's injury looked a little scary, it was not life-threatening, and he was discharged from the hospital after more than 20 days.
After being discharged from the hospital, her grandfather saw the injury on her face, and first went to the temple and asked for a peace charm for her brother, for fear that his grandson would be frightened, so he just made a cup of sugar water for Xiaohua.
When I got home, my grandmother hugged Xiaohua and never left. Grandpa was upset, he called Xiaohua's parents to the room, and the three of them discussed it for a long time, and as soon as they came out, they said that they would send Xiaohua away.
During Xiaohua's hospitalization, grandpa made a plan, if she didn't die, it would be a burden to stay at home, and there happened to be an old man picking up garbage, who needed a child as a companion to send Xiaohua over to get the best of both worlds.
Xiaohua's parents have no opinion, they think that sending Xiaohua away is a way, and it is not impossible to raise her, anyway, she has been taken by her grandmother since she was a child. But if two old people always want to offend one, needless to say, Grandma Xiaohua is soft-spoken.
got the approval of his son and daughter-in-law, and grandpa notified grandma to send Xiaohua away on the same day, without even a word of discussion, swaggered to the door of grandma's bedroom, looking at the ceiling, "Who, you just pick up a few children's clothes, and in the future, she will have someone else's surname, and everyone will be relaxed." ”
Seeing that grandma didn't take care of himself, grandpa lost his temper, picked up a fertilizer bag and threw it inside, "I'll let you send away this money-losing goods!" Did you not hear or were you deaf? Just use this bag and throw it out. ”
Grandma looked at Xiaohua in her arms, smeared medicine on her face, and said to herself: "I broke two more blisters today." ”
"Talk to you, and you'll play dead. You don't have to stay in this home either. Grandpa rushed into the bedroom, grabbed grandma's hair and dragged it to the ground, grandma didn't dare to let go, fell to the ground on all fours, Xiaohua lay in her arms.
"If you don't send away this broom star, I'll send it, I'm afraid of some cow, ghost, god and snake." Grandpa stepped on grandma's hair, bent down and grabbed Xiaohua's placket with one hand and pulled it out.
Ignoring the pain of her hair being pulled, Grandma leaned forward hard, sat up and turned around to protect Xiaohua. Her actions angered Grandpa again, and he kicked her in the back twice. Grandma cried out in pain.
Xiaohua woke up, cried, and asked her grandmother, "Why did Grandpa beat you again?" ”
"Sister is not afraid, there is grandma." Grandma put Xiaohua down, pulled her clothes, picked her up and walked out of the house.
Xiaohua's parents came over to play a round and said that everything was easy to discuss.
Grandma scolded her father, "You have never been a human in your life, and you have to send away your living daughter." Okay, prepare three coffins, I will chop the old immortal to death first, and then jump down the mountain with this poor girl in my arms, and you will not come and kowtow to me and dirty my ground. ”
"Before, no one believed that my grandmother could say such a thing."
Grandma was 62 years old at the time, married to this family for 46 years, and suffered countless beatings. Every time she was beaten, as long as she could move, she would get up and continue to work, serve her husband and take care of her children.
Neighbors said that she used to be "a pug who couldn't be beaten and couldn't be driven away." ”
This time, the onlookers who came to watch were also shocked, originally they privately discussed to persuade grandma, "After all, she is very talkative, just a girl, and she is still a 'scar wife', and she can't find a good family in this life, just look at where there are disabled people with broken hands and feet in the future, and live together." ”
Unexpectedly, grandma put on a posture of ending up together, and now, no one dared to step forward to dissuade her.
The grandfather, who is usually arrogant and domineering, only dares to squat in the corner and scold, saying that this woman doesn't know whose ghost she is possessed, so find a Taoist priest to exorcise evil spirits another day, and spray her with a few buckets of dung.
Xiaohua said that fortunately she was still young back then, otherwise she would have said to her grandmother, "These people all dislike us, they are going to die anyway, don't work hard, and obey their wishes." ”
From that day on, Grandma did not disobey anyone on this issue.
She picked up an axe and smashed all the pots and pans in the house, leaving no one behind, and then cut off her grandfather's cigarette stick, saying that she would sharpen it and stick it into his throat. ”
Only Xiaohua's words made grandma soften instantly, "Grandma, my face is itchy." ”
Grandma squatted down and hugged Xiaohua's hands and blew on her face, "Sister, don't scratch it with your hands, the itch means that the wound is almost healed, you help grandma scratch her back, grandma's back can be scratched." ”
Xiaohua's injuries are healed, and he also has a scar.
Grandma didn't dare to praise Xiaohua for her beauty, she received all the previous photos of her granddaughter in a tin box and locked it. She was worried about the future days of the doll, and often waited for Xiaohua to fall asleep, looked at the little face, and cried silently at the bedside.
Xiaohua's parents asked her grandmother and wanted not to send Xiaohua to school at all. They were worried that her classmates would bully her, "Besides, even if Xiaohua reads, she will still be discriminated against when she works and marries in the future." After reading the book, she had a lot of ideas, and she blamed this and that at that time, and it was even more painful. ”
Grandma felt that this was her grandfather behind her back, and she was angry, "If someone has pockmarks on his face, he is not allowed to eat, he is not allowed to walk, and he is as rotten as maggots in the toilet?" ”
This is the first time in decades that grandma has mentioned "pockmarks". Before, even if she was beaten to the point that she almost committed suicide by drinking medicine, she never damaged her grandfather's face.
Xiaohua asked her grandmother, when will she be as beautiful as before? Grandma told her that the more she read, the lighter the scars would be.
Xiaohua still went to school. A few days ago, my grandmother was afraid that others would laugh at Xiaohua and scare the children, so she sewed a mask for her granddaughter, revealing only two eyes and a mouth, and embroidered a few beautiful flowers on it.
Afraid that Xiaohua would not wear it, her grandmother told Xiaohua a story to the effect that "the masked people you watch on TV are all very powerful heroes, flying eaves and walls, coming and going freely, and when it is dawn, they can still laugh." ”
Xiaohua was bullied on the first day he went out, and was scolded as "Scar Woman", most of them were children, but there were also adults.
A group of children took off Xiaohua's masks and threw them around each other, watching Xiaohua run around for fun.
Grandma found that Xiaohua either refused to wear a mask or refused to take it off, and guessed that someone was bullying her, so she secretly followed Xiaohua and watched from a distance. As long as she found that someone scolded Xiaohua for being a "scar woman", she rushed over directly.
When she met adults, she really dared to tear their mouths and let the corners of these people's mouths see blood, "If you can beat him, give him a lesson; If you can't beat it, you have to let him see my attitude. ”
Some parents saw their children being beaten, and came to their grandmothers to talk about how an adult could care about a child. Grandma changed her usual attitude, didn't serve tea, didn't apologize, just said, "Your child is a garbage in my eyes, and his parents are not things." ”
In the eyes of grandma, this is not a joke between children, and they must be aggressive, "Those children are scolded a few times, and the hippie smile is over, my sister is bullied, and she shiveres when she sleeps, and she will never forget it for the rest of her life." ”
After several big quarrels, those people no longer scolded Xiaohua in person, but passed on that grandma was a "crazy woman" behind her back, saying that she "eats children". When some children are disobedient, parents will scare them, "Let that crazy woman eat you." ”
Grandma has become a "crazy woman" who is avoided by people in the village, but there are fewer people who bully Xiaohua.
A few days later, the grandmother took off Xiaohua's mask herself, "We don't wear this, my sister has to face the sun and rain like a sunflower." I have to see your expression, even if it's bitter, it's better than pretending not to see. ”
Grandma wanted Xiaohua to take off the mask, so she beat Xiaohua once.
During that time, Xiaohua didn't want to go to school. Although her classmates no longer mock her, she will also have low self-esteem, as long as she leaves her grandmother's sight, she will yell and scream, and even make a noise to quit school, hiding in the pigsty and refusing to come out.
Grandma dragged her out and spanked her, crying as she slapped, "Did I spoil you?" I want you to be a person, not a ghost that everyone is afraid of. If you don't study, you won't even be able to recognize yourself in the future, what's the point of my life. ”
There is a sentence in it, which my grandmother has been chanting until now: "Sister, your life must be against mine to be saved." When I die, what will you be like? ”
When Xiaohua mentions his own affairs, no matter how sad the past is, he is always very calm, and when he talks about his grandmother, he will be emotional.
She said that she was not afraid of death when she was seven or eight years old, and that year, there was a mudslide and landslide in the mountain behind the school, and the classmates all ran outside, and the timid ones cried, and Xiaohua walked unhurriedly at the end.
"If death comes, I can accept it." Xiaohua imagined that death should feel much better than living, "But when I said this word from my grandmother's mouth, I panicked." ”
Xiaohua studied hard, and she wanted her grandmother to forget about death.
No matter how windy or rainy, she was always the first to come to the classroom, and when no one was around, she read aloud, and when someone came, she read silently.
Grandma loves to let Xiaohua read articles in textbooks, and always says, "Grandma likes to listen to these things, you have to talk about them more." But several times she fell asleep and woke up to listen to it again.
Xiaohua knew that her grandmother liked to listen to her read texts, and hoped that she would read well.
Grandma built a small house when Xiaohua was 15 years old.
I heard that my grandmother was going to build a house, and the family jumped out again, explaining that there was a big house, so why waste money and rice, not to mention that according to the rules of the countryside, the daughter who married out could not come back to inherit the property.
Grandma doesn't care about these, "You are afraid of wasting money, but you are not afraid of wasting people, I keep these two rooms for my sister, she can come back whenever she wants, and live as long as she wants, no one can embarrass her." ”
Grandma has been beaten all her life, not because she wants to accept her fate, but because she has nowhere to go. Even if she went back to her parents' house, she didn't stay for three days, and her younger brother's family drove her away, saying that the daughter who married out would not have a reason to die even if she died.
Xiaohua didn't want her grandmother to work so hard, and persuaded her, "I know you're worried that I'll be like you in the future, I have nowhere to go if I am bullied, and now it's different from before, if you can't get by, you will get divorced, hotels are everywhere, and it's convenient to rent a house." ”
"I'm going to buy you a home, while your bones are still hard." The house covers an area of 50 square meters, with two floors, a total of four rooms upstairs and downstairs, and it cost my grandmother half of her life savings.
In grandma's heart, this matter is not negotiable, just like when she saved Xiaohua 10 years ago.
In order to let Xiaohua live like a normal person, grandma tried her best, she repeatedly told the love story of an old friend of hers, saying that the two of them were good, 70 years old, the two of them still slept in the same bed, warmed each other's quilts in winter, and her old man helped wash the dishes after eating.
Grandma racked her brains and struggled to sketch what she thought was a beautiful love, in order to make Xiaohua have a little more longing, hoping that her granddaughter would have normal feelings, even though she had never had one.
A man once said to his grandmother, you leave your man, follow me, eat coarse tea and light rice, and you won't be whipped on your body.
Grandma refused, "To say something that doesn't matter, men like to be heroes, and they feel that they are better than others, and if it really comes to themselves, they have to say two." ”
She couldn't trust anyone anymore.
When the house was completed, Xiaohua was 17 years old and was admitted to university, and her grandmother hugged Xiaohua and cried for a long time.
She took out the photos of Xiaohua who had been locked up before, and said to Xiaohua, "In grandma's heart, my sister has always been very beautiful, and grandma doesn't dare to say it until today, for fear that you will think grandma is a liar." In the future, you will accept that others say that you are beautiful, and you should not blame others when they say that you are ugly. ”
Grandma, who hasn't been on the door for more than ten years, carried a basket of wedding cakes that time, pulled Xiaohua to deliver them door to door, and bowed to them, "I'm sorry for you all these years, my sister is different from other dolls, I have to work hard to protect her." Now that she is almost the same as everyone else, if there is anything ignorant in the future, you as elders should be educated to help educate, please. ”
Xiaohua said that from that day on, she found that the more she looked in the mirror, the more pleasing it became.
On the day he saw me, Xiaohua put on light makeup, put on lipstick, and painted coffee-colored eyeliner very beautifully.
A week before school started, my grandmother saw that Xiaohua's parents hadn't sent the tuition fees over, and they were shouting everywhere to sell the coffin. was so anxious that Xiaohua's parents hurriedly came over to explain, saying that the money had already been transferred to the bank card in Xiaohua's admission notice.
"Got it." Grandma calmly said these three words to her son and daughter-in-law, and in a blink of an eye, she hurriedly pulled Xiaohua to the town to catch the market.
When she arrived in town, she took out the courier bag from her arms and asked Xiaohua to go to the bank to check how much money was inside.
She repeatedly confirmed to Xiaohua that when there were more than 10,000 in the card, she breathed a sigh of relief, saying that she would not take the car when she went back, and she wanted to take a walk with her sister, and there would not be many opportunities in the future.
"You think grandma is that stupid?" Grandma looked cunning, so she wouldn't sell the coffin, "I'm testing your parents, I have already arranged a way back for tuition, and your two aunts promised me a month ago." But sister, since your parents are willing to pay for the tuition, don't blame them in the future, they are not bad, they are just stupid. ”
Xiaohua took her grandmother's hand and said that she went to college, what should her grandmother do when she was home alone.
Grandma pretended to be disgusted and pushed her away, "Even if you go far, I'm afraid that you will nest in this ghost place for the rest of your life, and that will kill me." When you get outside, someone is bullying you, and you have to know what to do. Grandma is old, and she has actually survived such a long journey. ”
Xiaohua said that for so many years, grandma's hair has almost turned white, but her body is straight and straight, she doesn't dare to go down, "I'm afraid that if I hit the ground early, my sister will have no support." ”
In the first few days when she first arrived at school, my grandmother called every day and asked her classmates if they had embarrassed her.
Xiaohua laughed loudly with her roommate, saying that there was nothing to do, and she made a few friends.
Grandma heard her sister laugh so happily, she must not have been bullied, "I'll just say, college students look good." Believe it or not, grandma has also met college students and is a lawyer......"
Xiao Hua winked at me, "Grandma still has that lawyer's phone number!" ”
The lawyer mentioned by my grandmother and Xiaohua is me.
In 2016, I met my grandmother once. At that time, I gave a lecture on law popularization in their village, mainly on domestic violence, divorce, and land ownership disputes.
The people in the audience came because there was a lottery in the middle of the way, and they could receive eggs and rice, and there were few people listening.
But my grandmother listened very carefully, and she not only helped me out, but also asked a few questions - is it embarrassing to divorce? Does a married woman have inheritance rights? After experiencing domestic violence, can I move back to my parents' house?
I told her that there was no shame in divorcing, that the girl had the right to inherit, and that she could move back to her parents' house after the divorce.
My grandmother left my phone number on a piece of paper, hoping that in the future, if something happens, I can answer her phone.
This piece of paper, she handed to Xiaohua when she was hospitalized, "I keep the lawyer's number in the drawer, for fear that someone will occupy your house and not let you live in it." On the day I die, you will carry me in and set your image in the shrine. In this way, they will be afraid of me and dare not come in to occupy the space, sister, don't be afraid, grandma will bless you. ”
"My sister should write a memorial to my grandmother seriously, not only about my bitterness, but also about sweet things, and remember that grandma sang on the road behind your back, so that you will not be afraid when you walk at night."
Grandma has been for Xiaohua for more than ten years, and she has given Xiaohua a complete home alone, but she never cares about her own life. Xiaohua went to college, and her energy disappeared.
"No one cares about her feelings, only that she is pitiful, even me." Xiaohua went home during the winter vacation of 2017 and found out about this problem.
Xiaohua brought gifts to her grandmother, with a beautiful apron, delicate gloves, and a foot bath, which she felt was all she needed. Everyone praised Xiaohua for being intimate and pretending to be a grandmother in their hearts, and Xiaohua was very satisfied with herself.
Until one day at noon, Grandpa suddenly attacked Grandma again, saying that Grandma had not cleaned his rain boots. It was noon, the others had already finished eating, and the grandmother was busy until the end before picking up a bowl of rice. This has been her habit for many years, and she has only been at the table since Xiaohua was admitted to college.
Grandpa slapped him and knocked grandma to the ground with a bowl.
Xiaohua's parents and two aunts are there, and in the face of this situation, they have long been commonplace, so they just glanced at their grandfather, "Dad, it's not right for you to do this, don't always beat her." After they finished speaking, they continued to chat and laugh.
Only Xiaohua was stunned, "My heart is broken, it turns out that grandma has been so isolated and helpless for decades." Everyone knows that it is wrong for grandpa to beat grandma, and every time he is "saying a fair word", no one stands up to stop grandpa head-on. No one really helped Grandma either.
Grandma was beaten for decades in the "justice" that everyone said.
"If grandma just said a 'fair word' back then and told them that this was wrong, where would I be where I am now......" Thinking of this, Xiaohua couldn't bear it anymore.
Grandma was still sitting on the floor picking up leftovers. Xiaohua picked up the rice bowl, smashed it at his grandfather's feet, kicked away the stool in front of him, and in the surprised eyes of everyone, picked up his grandmother on the motorcycle and drove her to the Civil Affairs Bureau.
On the way, Xiaohua said to her grandmother: "Grandma, hold me tight, I will take you to divorce this time." ”
Grandma leaned against her body and said, "Good! ”
It was very windy that day, and Xiaohua and her grandmother's hands were red from the cold, so Xiaohua took her grandmother's hand and walked into the building.
The staff of the Civil Affairs Bureau told them that they could only handle divorce by agreement, and both parties had to agree to sign it.
Xiaohua yelled at the staff, "My grandmother is about to be killed!" "The staff said that evidence of domestic violence must be presented.
"I watched my grandmother being beaten by my grandfather for more than ten years, can't this be considered evidence?" Xiaohua cried desperately.
Immediately after, the family also rushed over, angrily accusing Xiaohua of being unorthodox, studying in college in vain, and being embarrassed and thrown outside.
After scolding Xiaohua, they smiled at the staff again, saying that the old lady was a "crazy woman", who had been delirious for many years, and often did some outrageous things, but this time she was not optimistic.
Xiao Huapestle was there, glaring at them fiercely. Only then did she know how desperate her grandmother had worked for her, and she thought that when she made money, she would definitely help her grandmother divorce the marriage.
Grandma sat on a stool and muttered to herself, "If you want a divorce, domestic violence is a big deal, and there is still a long way to go." Xiaohua understood this sentence, "Grandma is worried about me, she doesn't want me to be like her." ”
Grandma wants to plant the "normal" she has never had in Xiaohua's heart.
In the following year, as long as my grandmother was beaten, she ran to the Civil Affairs Bureau alone, as if she suddenly realized that after being beaten, there was a place to go. Even if she just squatted there and didn't say anything.
Finally, one day, a staff member came to talk to my grandmother and asked her why she had to get a divorce at such an old age.
Grandma said, "I've had enough of being beaten by him, and I don't want to be tortured by him down there." Also, my granddaughter has a little flaw on her face, I'm afraid that someone will treat her badly in the future, come and see if this world can really be divorced. ”
The staff told the grandmother that there are no tied couples, and they can't leave here, so it's good to find a lawyer.
At the beginning of December 2018, grandma was diagnosed with terminal cancer, and when she saw Xiaohua, she smiled, saying that she was happy and mourning, and she wanted to leave happily, the only regret was that she didn't see Xiaohua looking for a partner, "Grandma has a pair of eyes and is not blind, and she wants to help her sister see which boy is so blessed." ”
After knowing that grandma's time was short, grandpa remembered that grandma had served him all his life and offered to take care of grandma for a few days. He also boiled porridge himself, put it to his mouth, blew it cold and fed it to his grandmother.
Grandma had just finished the injection, and she was a little sick to her stomach and couldn't drink it. Grandpa was angry, he was used to his grandmother's obedience, and he never had patience with his grandmother, he threw the bowl on the ground, scolded his grandmother for being cheap, called Hanako, didn't know how to lift, and pulled grandma's face, "If you want to die, die early, don't toss me." ”
Grandma sat up and said to grandpa, "Mazi, my whole body hurts, and it's light for you to hit me." I thought, if my sister finds such a man in the future, how distressed I should be, who will stand up for her......"
Grandma made up her mind again that she must divorce her marriage while she was alive.
In this way, Xiaohua followed her grandmother's wish and found me with her business card.
That day, Xiaohua and I sat in the café all day. I didn't dare to get up or go out, but I couldn't come up with a solution to my grandmother's affairs.
According to the normal litigation procedure, from the filing of the case to the opening of the trial, no matter how fast it is, it will take about two or three months, and there is one of the biggest problems, that is, there is no evidence of the domestic violence suffered by the grandmother, the grandfather has no other bad habits, and the two husbands and wives have not separated.
Even if I insist on suering, like this, it is unlikely that I will be divorced. If you are someone else, you can sue again after six months, but you have to wait for six months, once at a time, there will always be a result, but grandma's time is short.
At the risk of being ridiculed, I contacted an acquaintance in the local civil court and asked if I could handle the special case specially, and I immediately sued, and they immediately held a court hearing and issued a divorce report as soon as possible. I know it's naïve, but I'd like to ask.
The reply I received was the same as I thought: there was nothing special about this case.
When Xiaohua heard this result, he cried silently,
In the evening, it was dark outside, and we didn't speak, so we sat there for 40 minutes.
I tried to say the words "I can't do anything" several times, but when it came to my lips, it became "I'll think of a way." ”
There were fewer and fewer people in the coffee shop, and I didn't dare to move my body for fear that I would run away. I don't even think about it anymore, I just remember what time I got up today, what I ate, who I met, and where the courier went.
Thinking about it, I suddenly recalled that at the meeting yesterday, the director repeatedly emphasized that we should pay attention to our dress, and the lawyers association said that we should buy robes.
I am reminded of the fact that in my daily work, many people can't tell the difference between public security, prosecutors, judges and lawyers. Grandma should be the same, she wants a divorce, not in the legal sense, but in her heart.
I proposed an idea to Xiao Hua, and Xiao Hua's eyes glistened with tears and agreed with my statement.
I could finally stagger out the door.
The next day, on the way to the hospital, Xiaohua kept asking me how to charge. I told her that it wouldn't be more than 20,000 yuan. She wrote me an IOU of 19,000 in the car, and I asked her to keep it first. When passing the toll station, Xiaohua opened the window again and rushed to pay the toll, I said that it was ETC, don't care.
I drove for 3 hours and finally arrived at my grandmother's hospital.
As soon as I got out of the car, I changed into a robe, and Xiaohua said that she wanted to buckle the scarf for me. I could see that she was very nervous, and helped me sort out my clothes several times, half-squatting on the ground to help me pull the corners of my robe.
When I arrived at the ward, my grandmother still recognized me, and when she saw my outfit, she stretched out her hand and wanted to touch my robe, but immediately retracted it.
There were only two people living in my grandmother's ward, and the other patient, an uncle, saw me and asked my grandmother if she was an official in the family.
"I don't know, people are here to divorce me." Grandma gave him a blank look.
Hearing me say that she was going to hold a divorce ceremony, she insisted on dressing up, "I didn't dress up much when I got married, and then I wanted a really good dress, the material was good, I was reluctant to buy it, it was so expensive." ”
I smiled and said, isn't it more expensive than building a house!
Grandma couldn't stop laughing and took Xiaohua's hand, "My sister is the most expensive." ”
I opened my briefcase and took out the divorce agreement from the file bag.
At this time, Xiaohua's parents and two aunts walked in one after another, and my grandfather had just stepped in with his left foot, and when he saw me, he paused and walked outside.
The two aunts pulled Xiao Hua aside, and the three of them quarreled in their hometown dialect.
I was called out by Xiaohua's father, who handed me a cigarette in his hand, "Children and old people are messing around, I didn't expect to alarm you." We are our own people, law-abiding, and we will invite you to have a meal later, and we will delay your time. ”
I didn't answer, and looked at Xiaohua's father carefully, his hair was slightly curly, his figure was fat, and he had a gold chain around his neck, and he looked honest. Xiaohua's mother stood behind him, muttering in his ear and glancing at me from time to time.
I actually don't know what to say, it's cold outside, the wind blows my robe back, and the scarf is crooked, I want to go back to the car to hide for a while, probably Xiaohua was also convinced, and there was no sound in the ward.
I took a small step forward, but I didn't expect Xiaohua to rush out with her grandmother on her back. The two aunts followed, "What do you want to do?" You made such a big deal today, and you want to embarrass the old man's face? ”
"Don't touch my grandma, give the to me and walk away. You all know the righteousness, and my grandmother and I are crazy. How sensible are you? Grandma got married at the age of 16 and was beaten by a man for 60 years, and her children watched jokes, how decent! ”
I walked up to Xiaohua and my grandmother. Grandma raised her hand to let me come closer, and she straightened my scarf.
"I carried my grandmother to school, to Hainan Island, to Beijing, to Shaoshan, just don't be with you hypocrites, I will kill whoever you come." Xiaohua tore his throat and shouted, and there were more and more onlookers.
Somehow, the scene of my grandmother carrying the little girl suddenly appeared in my mind.
Grandma didn't persuade Xiaohua, she leaned her head on the side of Xiaohua's neck, her eyes slightly closed, and her face was peaceful.
I whispered to Xiaohua's father, at this time, don't talk about the so-called face, don't let grandma get her way, Xiaohua will hate everyone here in the future, "I'm just here to take a formality, I'm not a public official, but I think I should do it for the sake of grandma." ”
The three sisters said to discuss, "I'm afraid that my father can't stand this blow, he is a man who wants to save face." ”
Xiaohua kept panting, turned his head and said to his grandmother, "Don't be afraid. ”
I asked Xiaohua to put my grandmother back in the ward first, "They will discuss a result, now is not the past, grandma is no longer isolated." ”
"If you don't discuss a result, either they don't want to come out, or I won't go in, there's no way to compromise." Xiaohua sat on the steps with her grandmother in her arms and shouted inside.
After a while, Grandpa appeared, short and thin, staggering, wearing a Lei Feng hat on his head, without looking at us, and went straight into the ward.
Ten minutes later, they came out, and it was the grandfather who opened his mouth, "You can arrest people, and it's best to divorce." ”
Xiaohua's two aunts cleaned the ward, the bedding was neatly folded, and Xiaohua combed her grandmother's hair.
I briefed the doctor and head nurse about the situation, and they also came to the ward and brought a bouquet of flowers.
I pulled my robe, stood up straight, and faced my grandmother, "I officially announce the divorce of Ms. Yu Xiulan and Mr. Hu Shichang, Ms. Yu Xiulan voluntarily gave up all the property in her name, and Mr. Hu Shichang will bear the joint debts of the husband and wife, no matter how much, and this result will take effect immediately." ”
As soon as the words fell, Xiaohua cried and hugged her grandmother, "Grandma is relieved, you can go wherever you want in the future, you can get up at what time you want, if you don't want to go out, let the sweet potatoes rot in the field, and no one will beat you anymore." ”
The nurse handed the flowers to the grandmother and gave her a thumbs up, "We'll get an injection later, we'll be lighter." ”
Xiaohua's parents and two aunts quietly walked out of the ward. Grandpa crouched down against the door frame, curled up in a ball, and his hat fell to the ground.
I went over and shook my grandmother's hand and asked her to sign the paper. Grandma's hands trembled badly, and after signing it, she looked at it and was not satisfied. Ask me if I can sign it again.
I said yes, and she scribbled her name on it.
Grandpa also signed his name, squatted there, and said, "I won't beat her in the future, some people can't change their personality until they die, and they don't know what life will be like until they die...... "He is already very old.
Grandma was very happy and told me not to talk to that kind of person, but to talk to her.
"Why don't you wear a yellow wig, I want to wear it when I watch TV." Grandma pointed to my hair.
I shook my head, "Grandma, wigs are only worn in Hong Kong, and they wear wigs because they are afraid of baldness." Because at the time of judgment, there is a god who raises his head three feet, and it is not good for God to see that he is bald. I don't go bald, so I don't have to wear it. ”
Grandma laughed for a while and asked me to put my ear to it, the tears on her face were not yet dry, "Does the girl really have the right to inherit?" ”
"Of course, it's better to make a will, and I'll write it to you when I get back."
"In this way, even if I drink Meng Po soup, it doesn't matter."
When I walked out of the hospital, I asked Xiaohua for a lawyer's fee, "I heard that the Civil Affairs Bureau charges 7 yuan for divorce, you can't miss mine." ”
Xiaohua refused, and asked me to collect at least 1,000 yuan. I told her that my grandmother had secretly asked me how much a divorce would cost. I said it was seven yuan, and I didn't want any more, and then I chewed the candy my grandmother gave me and went home.
The next day, I told Chen Zhuo about it, and he told me that the cost of the divorce was 9 yuan.
I asked Xiaohua for another two yuan, and she said on the phone that her grandmother was singing a mountain song to her.
"If someone dislikes the way you look, you leave. Grandma knows that she is divorced, so don't be so stupid. Grandma instructed Xiaohua.
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Grandma has been a "crazy woman" in the village for more than ten years. ”
She regarded her "money-losing" granddaughter as a treasure, and no one was allowed to say that her granddaughter was ugly, and at the age of 76, she still insisted on divorcing her grandfather.
People call her crazy because she behaves differently than others.
But for Grandma, these are not simply rebellions, but she is becoming more and more like herself - not dragged down by the current environment.
Liu Yan told me that my grandmother was born into a landlord family, and since she was sensible, she was used to seeing her parents being criticized and beaten. Those scenes were engraved in my grandmother's mind, and she thought that it was useless to resist, so she chose to go against the grain.
This kind of day is 60 years.
Reversibility can only be a survival strategy, not a way of life.
This strategy is too "easy". When people fall into this kind of environment that they endure constantly, it is difficult for them to pursue their ideal life after a long time.
After having a granddaughter, my grandmother began to pursue this life.
Xiaohua grew up under the influence of her grandmother, and now she is no longer afraid of her scars. In the days when grandma could still see her, she was living a happier life.
(Some of the characters in the article are pseudonyms)
Illustration: East 5th Ring Superman BABA