"Many times, we are often chafed by our silent personality, which is like a thorn that pokes at our hearts and makes us feel heavy inside." - Mu Yun
We all know that "talking" is a very good personality, because it can bring us a lot of convenience, such as at work, good words can be appreciated by the boss; in life, good words, can be appreciated by friends.
"Talking" does give us benefits, but more often than not, silence is a sign of maturing.
Mr. Lu Xun said in "The Literature of the Revolutionary Era": "The eagle catches the finches, and it is the eagle that does not make a sound, and it is the sparrow that squeaks and shouts; the mouse catcher of the cat, the cat who does not make a sound, and the mouse who squeaks and shouts; as a result, it is still only eaten by the one who does not open his mouth." ”
<h1>Silence is golden</h1>
When we try to surprise ourselves by "being able to talk", we may forget the happiness that silence brings us.
I used to be a taciturn person, but since I joined the work, I have to make myself special because I have to talk about business frequently, so that I can make my work smoother.
But just because I became no longer silent, I often said something bad, and there was a saying that "evil comes out of my mouth" often happened to me.
There are times when I say something that I don't feel like a problem, but when I hear it in their ears, I feel disrespectful to him. This leads to emotional fluctuations in the other party, who were originally chatting happily, and suddenly felt that the other party was bored with themselves.
<h1>There are roughly two types of silence</h1>
The first: introverted
That is to say, there is this type of social phobia, dare not speak, dare not say their own ideas when chatting with friends, afraid of others saying that their ideas are not good; do not know what to say, because they can not interject, so they have to be silent.
This type of silence actually needs to be changed, because introverted silence is not to communicate with others, and when there is no such situation, it is easy to be ignored by others.
The right way to treat this type is: see more, listen more.
Read more: Read more books, you can get a lot of things in the book, you can arm your brain, and you won't be stuck in a chat with others and don't know what to say.
Listen more: When others are chatting, you must participate in it, even if you don't say it yourself, but you have to get what you want from the other person's mouth, understand the way they speak, and then transform it into what you want to say.
The second type: selective type
That is, selectively when to say and when to be silent, this type is what we need.
This type is often respected by many people because he can discern the right time to speak and make the other person feel comfortable.
So silence has to choose this type.
Franklin: "No animal is more diligent than an ant, yet it is the most reticent." ”
<h1>epilogue</h1>
It is better to argue with voice than to argue with silence. It is better to argue with words than to argue without words. ——Lin Yutang, "Wordless Criticism"
Silence is like an oasis in the desert, igniting life.
Thanks for reading! See you in the next issue!
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