"If you always think about what you have lost and never forget it, you will defeat yourself."
Hao Scarlett in the movie "Gone with the Wind" (also known as "Gone with the Wind") has been trapped by love all her life.
Trapped in the dream love network he weaved, he thought he had found the love of his life.
After asking for nothing, he is paranoid and guards a hopeless love.
It becomes a pity to miss the people around you who treat you sincerely.
Paranoid hopeless love
will only consume themselves
Scarlett is the daughter of the owner of Tara Farm, and has been pampered since childhood.
She is very charming and is loved by many boys.
The boys want to win her heart and be proud to dance with her.
But Scarlett had only one person in her heart, Ashley.
From the moment he visited her house, Scarlett fell in love with him, simply and without thinking, she wanted him.
Ashley was a man of a different kind.
He loves to read and write poetry, is handsome, has a deep personality, and has nothing to do with entertainment and pastime.
This enigmatic personality sparked Scarlett's curiosity and deepened her love for him.
In the past two years, he has often accompanied Scarlett to various balls and picnics.
Her instincts told her that Ashley loved herself, too, and that she believed that he would propose to her one day.
Just when Scarlett fantasized about making her dream come true, she suddenly got the news that Ashley and her cousin Mei Lan were engaged.
This is undoubtedly a bolt from the blue.
She was completely stunned, and after repeated verification, she was not reconciled, and dressed up to attend Ashley's engagement banquet.
After she confessed her heart to Ashley, she hoped that Ashley would change her mind and elope with her.
But unexpectedly, Ashley not only rejected Scarlett, but also said:
Two completely different people, love alone cannot make a marriage happy.
This made Scarlett feel that her vanity and self-esteem had been hurt.
She was indignant and unceremoniously responded with a slap in the face.
Scarlett tasted frustration for the first time, and reality let her down.
She didn't get the lover she wanted, and the painstaking plan became a failure.
She was in pain and anxiety, and her heart was tormented all the time.
has always been held back by this feeling, ignoring the real emotional needs of the heart and not realizing it.
She peeked at Ashley's letter to Melanie;
When she heard that Mei Lan was pregnant, she was like a knife, as if Ashley was her husband and had done something unfaithful to her.
Scarlett has been holding on to the obsession in her heart all her life, and she doesn't care whether she is right or wrong.
Just foolishly insisted.
Later, Scarlett did everything possible to find various opportunities to meet with Ashley.
In order to keep Ashley by her side, she resorted to all kinds of means to achieve her goal.
Even after marrying Rhett, who loved her the most, Scarlett's heart was still with Ashley.
Indulging in unrealistic fantasies also brings bitter consequences to yourself.
The saddest thing for a woman is to be trapped in an unworthy relationship and consume herself.
Knowing that there is no result, he still insists on going his own way.
Spending his life in a swamp with no end ruined his own happiness.
Marriage becomes an instrument of desire
Destined not to be happy
Scarlett was rejected by Ashley, unable to accept this harsh reality.
I don't want to be ridiculed by other ladies for my courteous behavior.
She wants to save face.
Once a woman's vanity has triumphed over reason, she will be reckless.
It was at this time that Melan's cousin Charles showed her his heart.
A shy boy who wants to marry her.
After weighing the pros and cons, in order to take revenge on Ashley and not let others laugh at her, she immediately agreed to Charles's marriage proposal.
In just two weeks, she hurriedly became a wife.
But less than two months later, Charles enlisted in the army and died of illness on the march, leaving her survivors.
Although Charles's death did not bring much grief to Scarlett.
But the carefree girlhood is gone.
Only then did she realize that this extremely hurried and hasty marriage had brought all kinds of constraints to her life like a nightmare.
If the first marriage is a young and ignorant impulse, just take it as a selfish preparation.
Then the second marriage is a blatant sword snatching love, reduced to a tool to surrender to life.
After Charles's death, Scarlett accepted Melanie's invitation to live in Atlanta.
It didn't take long for the war to spread.
After the fall of Atlanta, Scarlett led his group back to Tara Manor in the midst of the battle.
Unexpectedly, his mother has died, his two younger sisters are bedridden, and his father has become insane under a series of heavy blows.
Money, black slaves, and food were lost overnight.
The lazy and luxurious life of the past has left her, and Hao Scarlett has instantly changed from a noble lady to the only pillar of the family.
For the survival of the family, Hao Scarlett led the whole family to do hard labor and farm work non-stop.
Food and clothing have not yet been settled, and they are extorted by the 300 tax levied on Tara Manor.
This made her both helpless and frightened.
In order not to destroy the Tara Manor.
Scarlett Hao is desperate, like grasping a life-saving straw, using coaxing and flattering tricks to snatch her sister's fiancé Frank.
Successfully paid the tax.
However, life after marriage is not a happy one.
Scarlett is bent on making more money from the lumber mill's business.
Show up every day, run for business, and ignore the gossip of others.
And Frank is not satisfied with her behavior, and only wants her to be at home with her husband and children, and the two often quarrel.
A marriage for the sake of material compromise is destined to be unsatisfactory.
Later, Frank died at a political rally, and the marriage ended in tragedy.
Two marriages, one for gambling and one for money.
There is no emotional affection, only pure purpose.
The marriage that looks like a divorce did not bring fun to Scarlett.
She has never enjoyed being understood and cared for.
Hao Scarlett never gives up in life and moves forward bravely in the face of difficulties, but she is ignorant in her marriage and does not know herself clearly.
After losing Ashley, she thought she would never fall in love with anyone else.
It's the same with marrying that man, who only uses marriage as a tool to satisfy his own selfish interests and becomes a victim of marriage.
Once marriage becomes a tool of desire, it harms others and oneself.
Only a marriage with the same three views will be happy
Of the men Hao Scarlett has dated in her life, only Rhett knows her best and understands her.
In the days when she was uneasy and struggling, she was the only person she trusted the most.
In this respect, the unrealistic Ashley is far from being comparable.
Although she and Rhett eventually became husband and wife.
But Scarlett has always been stuck in her own emotional cognition and has not realized Rhett's love.
The same response was given to this passionate love.
Scarlett and Rhett first met at Ashley's engagement banquet.
This man who has been watching her, when she heard that his reputation was not very good, she subconsciously repulsed her.
And in the study, her confession to Ashley was unfortunately overheard by Red.
It made her even more annoyed, sarcastically sarcastic that Rhett shouldn't have eavesdropped on their conversation, and sarcastically sarcastically that he was not a superior person.
During her stay in Atlanta, Scarlett ignored her status as a new widow and openly participated in social activities for high-sounding reasons.
Wearing a black veil, she can't dance or wear beautiful clothes, which makes her feel extremely lost and unfair when she has always been the center of the stage.
The longing in his eyes seemed to breathe fire.
Rhett saw her heart's desire and took the initiative to invite Scarlett to dance.
This was exactly what Scarlett wanted, she couldn't suppress the ecstasy in her heart, and the two went on the dance floor together.
There is no more precious affection in the world than to understand.
Zhang Ailing said:
Because you understand, you are compassionate.
Brad knows how to release Scarlett's sincerity.
completely ignores the so-called moral norms, and just wants her to be free.
From this point of view, they are all the same type of people.
I don't care about the world's eyes and the criticism of others, I only live my true self.
When the war spreads to Atlanta, Scarlett is determined to return to her hometown, and she feels that only Rhett can help her.
Sure enough, it got what I wanted.
Brad borrowed horses and carriages.
With them, Scarlett made it all the way through the flames of war and returned to Tara Manor with great difficulty.
Whenever Scarlett needed help, Rhett would come to her side in time to give her comfort and strength.
After her second marriage ended, Rhett proposed to Scarlett as soon as she was released from prison.
I don't want her to be busy and sacrifice herself for life anymore.
His strength and determination made Scarlett irresistible, and the two lived happily ever after their marriage.
Red never restricts Scarlett, she can still do her own business.
Loving someone gives her full freedom.
In this marriage, Scarlett Hao tasted the joy of marriage.
She didn't need to hide herself in front of Rhett, everything was shown nakedly.
Scarlett and Rhett are equally selfish, proud, and disregarded for the world.
Brad loves the real Scarlett.
It's a pity that when this precious love was placed in front of her, Hao Scarlett didn't cherish it.
After Melanie's death, she said to Ashley:
"Everything about herself went with her".
Scarlett suddenly realized that Ashley had always loved Mei Lan.
Her years of persistence are just the moon in the mirror, and it has also opened her heart knot.
And Scarlett finally understands that the person she loves most is Rhett.
Over the years, Rhett has unknowingly occupied her heart.
Whenever she was in trouble, Rhett always did his best to help her out.
Give care and attention to the nuances, and let her do what she wants to do.
If it weren't for the obsession with Ashley, Scarlett's marriage would have been very happy.
She and Rhett have the same three views, just like what her father said:
"The same type of people are happy when they are together."
Scarlett didn't understand the profound meaning of this sentence at the time, and just blindly immersed herself in her own world.
As "Mr. Love" said:
In fact, a lot of love, a lot of can't let go, it's just because of unwillingness.
The more you can't get it, the more persistent you are.
So much so that he was blinded by the fog and missed the most worthy of love.
When Scarlett recognized the reality, Rhett's heart was already exhausted by her torture and she was determined to give up the relationship.
Scarlett couldn't regret it.
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The movie "Gone with the Wind" is an epic of women's growth.
Similarly, the original work "Gone with the Wind" can also be called a classic work of women's growth, and it once sold well all over the world.
Following the ups and downs of fate, Scarlett Hao has grown spiritually, in life, and in love.
But her experience also makes people learn a lesson from it, obsessed with unobtainable feelings, after all, it is a dream and ruins her happiness.
Only by seeing yourself clearly and cherishing the people in front of you can you get a pass to happiness.