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I used to think that interpersonal communication relied on sincerity and respect, and after going through countless detours and tasting all kinds of pain, I found that "people are good and are bullied" is the truth.
Why are good people always being toyed with, used, bullied, betrayed, and hurt?
If you find yourself often targeted by bad people, but you don't know why, it is likely that no one has ever told you the truth about human nature since you were a child, causing you to become a weak person in their eyes.
01: Pushing oneself and others will only encounter incorruptibility and shame
Many people know that human nature is complex and there are many inherent weaknesses.
However, people with benevolent hearts still subconsciously believe in exchanging hearts for hearts, and do not want to think in a bad direction.
This shows that these people lack defense, idealize society, idealize others, and lead to being caught by the other party as an attackable weakness, and unknowingly begin to play and use you when you get along.
After so many times of trauma, we begin to wonder why we are the only ones who have been hurt.
In fact, there is nothing wrong with kindness, and there is nothing wrong with empathy, what is wrong is that we always compare our hearts with our hearts, so that people who are incorruptible and shameful have a chance.
You can't have the heart to hurt others, and you can't have the heart to defend people.
Don't always measure others by your own high standards, because everyone's experience is different, their mood is different, and their needs will naturally not be the same.
We have to allow ourselves to be ourselves and allow others to be others, but we don't need to deliberately communicate with each other, and we don't need to be hurt again invisibly.
Of course, we don't need to inquire about how much good is left in others, and we don't have to think that we can save other people's souls, and we don't think that bad people will suddenly change for the better one day.
02: Timid, you will only encounter inches
People who have to make inches have no bottom line, and they are really insatiable.
Then, in the face of these people who have been throwing rat traps, it will make them even more arrogant.
Because those who look left and right obviously do not have the quality of courage and perseverance, blindly retreating and currying favor will not be able to exchange them with moderation.
Desires are endless, and they will only reap benefits from people who are relatively easier, either for money, fame, or catharsis.
After one or two successful attempts, they will test your courage, and if you still can't hold on, they will be more complacent and use you further to achieve their own ends.
Therefore, in order to protect one's rights and respect from infringement, it is necessary to stand tough in front of them.
Don't be afraid of conflicts and contradictions, stick to your bottom line and position, let them change the inherent impression that we are soft persimmons, and they will not easily bully us in the future.
It is okay to be good and kind, but it must not be without boundaries.
Refusing other people's requests at the right time is not without compassion, but precisely the way we can protect ourselves.
03: People are soft-spoken, and they will only encounter clumsy ridicule
People who like to laugh and ridicule others tend to be the most aggressive at their weaknesses.
Therefore, when people have not yet obtained a certain social status and wealth, they will be used, suppressed, bullied, and even repeatedly harmed.
The days of not showing the edge are long gone, because people were humble then, and now people worship only the strong.
If you are overly cautious, cowardly, and weak when confronted with such clumsy scaunts, you will soon become the target of their wanton mockery.
It's not because they are unlucky that they meet such people, but because they see that they have little power and find an opportunity.
Even if we can't be seen as valuable and capable by others, it is certainly not a reason to be slaughtered by others.
All people are created equal, and it has nothing to do with experience, age, status, or wealth.
We can accept the change in people's attitudes, but we also need to put thorns on our bodies, not to take revenge on others, but to protect ourselves.
In order not to let yourself be played with, you must see the truth of human nature clearly and force yourself to grow sharp.
At the same time, we must also firmly believe that we can grow, constantly improve our cognition and ability, and behave politely and politely in front of anyone, neither humble nor arrogant.
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