"Your world is big, and you can fit a lot of people; Her world is small and full of you. "What kind of companionship can make our mothers happier in a limited amount of time? This is a question that every adult child can't avoid.
May 12 is Mother's Day, the reporter approached several citizens to listen to their stories of creating surprises for their mothers and "fancy companionship to mothers......
Zhang Lixia took her mother for a walk.
He took his mother to and from work
Over the years, for Zhang Lixia's mother Song Yufang, under the care of her son and younger generations, every day is like celebrating Mother's Day.
"Filial piety comes first, no matter what we do, we should put filial piety to our parents first." Since 2014, Zhang Lixia has insisted on taking her mother to and from work, rain or shine, without complaint or regret, in his opinion, this is just a small thing he should do.
In 2014, when her father died of illness, Zhang Lixia and his wife were worried that their mother would be too lonely and unsafe to live at home alone, so they took their mother to their side and decided to take her to and from work.
There are unpredictable circumstances in the sky, and people have good and bad luck. In 2021, my mother suddenly contracted Parkinson's syndrome and lost her ability to take care of herself, and she had to be attended by someone all year round. In order to facilitate the care, Zhang Lixia "settled" a home for her mother next to her office.
"My mother is a little deaf now, but my tacit understanding with my mother is still undiminished. You see, the mother is pointing outside, and she wants to go out and go around. With that, Zhang Lixia dressed her mother neatly and went to the direction of the nearby small park.
Filial piety is a word that relatives often exaggerate Lixia, but in Zhang Lixia's view, this is not the great truth that her mother instilled in herself, but the quality that her mother taught herself. He hopes that he can be a role model for his children and even his employees, just like his mother.
"I remember when I was five or six years old, my grandmother was also paralyzed because of illness. At that time, in addition to earning work and running the family every day, my mother also had to find time to take care of my grandmother. Although the family was poor and the conditions were not good at that time, my grandmother was always clean. This care is 15 years. Zhang Lixia told reporters that he saw everything his mother did to his grandmother, and since then, the seeds of "filial piety" seem to have been quietly planted in his heart.
Back at home, Zhang Lixia took the initiative to massage her mother's legs as usual. Zhang Lixia's son Zhang Zhiheng took a look, as if he was reminded, and began to knead his mother Yang Xiuhua's shoulders. "I want it too, I want it too!" Seeing the interaction between grandpa and dad to his mother, Zhang Lixia's grandson also quickly came over and pounded his mother with his immature fist to grin, and the relatives around him laughed good-naturedly.
Under the influence of Zhang Lixia, whether it is their big family or their respective small families, they have created a good family style of filial piety and love for relatives, respect for the old and love for the young. In the company, driven by Zhang Lixia, a group of typical filial piety and respect for the elderly such as Guo Changhua, a good employee who has taken care of his paralyzed mother for many years, have also emerged.
Xu Jiayang's bouquet of flowers for his mother.
He brought his mother back to girlhood
In the years after graduating from university, Xu Jiayang has been working hard with his wife and father in Beijing due to the compulsion of life, leaving his mother to take care of her little grandson in her hometown.
Usually, video chat on mobile phones is an important link between Xu Jiayang and his mother. In the limited time when she went home, Xu Jiayang would accompany her mother to immerse herself in life, such as accompanying her to buy vegetables, accompanying her to see the scenery, and cooking the black chicken soup she likes to drink; Noticing that her mother was always at home and a little depressed, he advised her to go to square dancing more; Every month, she takes out a part of her salary and saves it to buy pension insurance for her......
"Even if I try to spend as much time as possible with my mother, my mother always tells me to go back quickly and not to delay work." There are only about ten days a year to accompany his mother, which is far from enough in Xu Jiayang's opinion.
Xu Jiayang feels that his mother is a little introverted, "sometimes she is very happy, sometimes she can't figure it out." "Mom put her whole heart on her family, and in order to let her family work hard outside the home, she habitually suppressed her needs.
Xu Jiayang knows that his mother's hobbies are only square dancing, or when his grandson is in kindergarten, he shows his singing voice to the karaoke software on his mobile phone. is like what was said in the movie "Hello, Li Huanying", "For as long as I can remember, my mother is like a middle-aged woman, so I always forget that my mother was also a young girl." ”
This Mother's Day, Xu Jiayang decided to coordinate her work in advance, take a day out, return to her hometown, and take her mother back to girlhood. He hopes to use romantic flowers and Western food to let his mother get away from firewood, rice, oil and salt for a short time, and in turn enjoy the time of being cared for by his family.
A few days in advance, Xu Jiayang and his wife made a "companion strategy": Western food is too expensive, what should my mother do? Let her factor in the atmosphere of the restaurant and the emotional value of the meal; Mom must have never received flowers in that era? Let her experience it this time; What should I do if my mother is not used to using knives and forks? When the time comes, accompany her to use chopsticks to reduce her psychological burden......
And on this day, the mother, who has worked hard for most of her life, seems to be more satisfied than Xu Jiayang imagined.
Xu Jiayang told reporters, "My mother, who has never received flowers, can't put down the flowers in her hand, from the beginning of the uncomfortable, gradually became happy, the corners of the grinning mouth have not drooped, and I drank a lot of red wine for the first time, and the whole face is red." ”
When she got home, the neighbors who were sitting downstairs chatting teased her, "Why is your face so red?" She laughed and exclaimed, "Happy today!" ”
Long-term companionship is the best gift
On the morning of May 10, outside the south gate of Mong Kok Garden Community, Handan District, a middle-aged man pushed a gray-haired old man in a wheelchair and walked slowly on the path outside the community.
The reporter stepped forward to inquire and learned that the man's surname was Zhao, 50 years old this year, and he was pushing his 98-year-old mother for a walk nearby. At this time, they had already walked around the Mong Kok Garden Community, taking the elderly to bask in the sun and breathe fresh air at the same time.
"I am the youngest son, because my wife is old and inconvenient, so I live at my sister's house in Mong Kok Garden, and I will come to accompany her whenever I have time." He said.
Mr. Zhao is the fifth in line, with three older brothers and one elder sister, and on weekdays, several brothers will come over to help take care of the elderly when they are free. The old man's name is Ma Jinhua, who has worked all her life for her five children, and now she can only move her body slowly with the assistance of a four-legged handrail.
Mr. Zhao introduced, don't look at the old mother's age, but there is no problem with the body, such as blood lipids, blood pressure, heart and other problems that the elderly often have, she does not have them, that is, about six or seven years ago, due to the aging of the organs, she began to be a little confused, she couldn't recognize people clearly, and her ears were still a little back, so she had to shout loudly in her ear to hear it.
Sometimes, the elderly will also worry about their own health, noisy for their children to take them to the hospital, "We use a wheelchair to push her, to the nearby hospitals, as long as a few circles in the corridor of the hospital, the old lady will be comfortable, in fact, there is no major problem with the body." He said.
Back at his home in Mong Kok Garden, Mr. Zhao told his mother over and over again to sit on the chair slowly, and then combed his mother's hair, "My father is no longer in his 70s, my mother is inconvenient to move, and I can't do without people around me. ”
On Mother's Day, Mr. Zhao told reporters: "It doesn't matter what gift you give to the old lady, the brothers and sisters can accompany and take care of the old lady, I think this is the best gift." ”
Ren Fengzhu (left) and Li Keqing (right), who are in love with mother and daughter.
It's better than a mother if it's not a mother
At half past five o'clock in the afternoon of May 10, Li Keqing, secretary of the Zhuhenan Community in Handan District, had just finished three coordination meetings with various property companies in the district.
"My mother's care and help to me is better than my care for her." Li Keqing told reporters that she is an only child, but she has two mothers, and her own mother is not in good health, and she has been sent to Shandong to live and recuperate for a while. Her other mother is called Ren Fengzhu, who is Ren's mother in the family home of the wood factory in her jurisdiction, and she calls her "old lady".
"When it snowed heavily that winter, I led the community staff and volunteers to clear the snow for the hospitals, and when it was the turn of the family home of the wood factory, Ren's mother had taken the lead in sweeping the snow in the hospital; During the epidemic, the community work was heavy, and I didn't have time to go back to my home, so my mother wrapped buns, brought them to me, and asked me to eat them while they were hot. Li Keqing recalled.
As long as she has free time on weekdays, Li Keqing will also buy things and take the initiative to visit the old man Ren Fengzhu. She said: "No, today the old lady steamed steamed buns and sent them to me again, although they are not their own mothers, but we care for each other like mother and daughter." Mother's Day is here, and I'm thinking about what kind of gift to buy for my mother. ”
Ren Fengzhu, an old man, used to be an employee of a woodware factory, and now he is 74 years old, with a strong body, and he is still an old party member.
Ren Fengzhu said: "As soon as I went to work, I worked as a painter in the wood factory, and I worked for 32 years, joined the party in 1976, and after retirement, I did what I could in the family home." During the epidemic, the community was busy, and I heard that they couldn't go home, and some staff members were sick, so I boiled some millet porridge and sent it outside, and they came out to get it after I left. ”
At this time, Aunt Li on the side rushed to say: "Fengzhu is the most enthusiastic person in our hospital, she cares about the big and small things in the hospital, the trash can outside the courtyard gate has no lid, she finds a wooden board to cover, and also takes the initiative to clean the hospital, even the bench cushion for chatting and resting in the afternoon, she makes it herself, and she takes it home to ......dismantle and wash it after a long time."
In the conversation, Aunt Li introduced that a few years ago, a neighbor of the elderly had just received more than 4,000 yuan in cash from his children, packed in a purse, and when he went home and went upstairs, he accidentally lost the purse, and the owner and the old couple were in a hurry. Ren Fengzhu and her lover picked up the purse, and after careful number checking and inquiry, the purse was returned to its original owner.
As soon as the words fell, Aunt Li's daughter-in-law came back from outside, holding a few bulging emails in her hands. She took out an embroidered blouse and handed it to her mother-in-law: "Mom, isn't it Mother's Day, I bought you a blouse, and I will try it to see if it fits ......."
The same thing was done by Li Keqing, the community secretary, who said: "A few days ago, I saw that Ren's mother always wore the same top, so I bought a dress for her. I think these feelings of love and respect for the elderly are inseparable from the good family style she has established, and her children and grandchildren will come to reunite every weekend, and the family is harmonious. My mother has always infected the people around her with this positive and optimistic attitude, including me, although she is not my own mother, but she is better than my own mother. ”
Handan News and Media Center reporter Hu Haoliang Wang Dandan