In other words, there is a "AITAH (Am I a Jerk)" section on Reddit, where netizens often complain about some short bloody stories of parents, which are often quite outrageous.
Recently, another lady came here to post a complaint, which caused controversy among netizens. The story is called: "I asked my husband to return my engagement ring because he paid with our joint account, am I a jerk?" 》
Here's the story.
The lady and her husband got married a month after they got engaged, and the two had a wedding that was not luxurious.
During her honeymoon, her husband gave her a 2-carat artificial diamond worth $8,000.
Because the couple is not wealthy and is still saving money to buy a house and a car, her husband told her that he bought the ring in installments with a credit card.
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But she later found out that the installment that her husband said was practical for the joint account of the two of them, that is, she had to spend money for the ring herself.
Now the wife was unhappy, and the two had a big fight.
She shared the views of two people with netizens:
In the husband's opinion, the wedding ring is considered the cost of the marriage of the two, so the wife should pay the money, and as a woman today, the wife should not hesitate to bear it equally with him.
But in her own opinion, the wedding ring should be a gift from her husband, regardless of whether men and women are equal or not, in most cultural backgrounds, wedding rings are gifts, so how can the person who receives the gift pay for the gift?
What she couldn't understand the most was that her husband had never discussed with her the difficulty of buying a ring, and if he had told her in advance, she would definitely not have agreed to buy it.
Whether it is a house, a car or a diamond ring, this is the joint property of the husband and wife, and it should be agreed by both of them before it can be purchased.
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After learning that she would have to pay for it, she didn't want the ring anymore, so she asked her husband to return it.
The woman later explained that she did keep telling her husband that she wanted a beautiful ring, but that she deserved it, because their wedding was done sparingly, so she wanted a gorgeous ring that symbolized their love.
But her husband didn't discuss it with her, but directly embezzled the joint funds of the two, and after she found out, he was furious, scolded her for sexism, and demanded an apology.
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I don't know what everyone thinks, but netizens have already quarreled about it.
Many people think that this lady is too vain:
"I was on your side when you said, 'Husband and wife need to agree together,' but you said you 'deserved' the ring, and I didn't understand."
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"You are indeed a bastard.
You are married, there should be no such thing as 'your money' and 'my money'.
Even if he bears the debt for buying the ring alone, the money will not be able to be spent on your life, in fact, it is all the same.
You want an expensive ring, but they're not free. ”
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"She said she wanted a beautiful ring, she just wanted to be pampered, forgetting about her husband's financial difficulties and that's it."
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But there are also netizens who are on the side of this lady:
"I think she's right.
If the husband can't afford it, even if the wife wants a beautiful ring, he should have something to say. The problem was not that she had spent half of the money, but that he had forcibly put the debt on her head without even informing her, and was angry at her surprise.
Plus, he's either been lied to or he's lying.
I checked the artificial diamond ring, and it was basically less than half of the price he quoted. Some people in the comments said that she had a very good 2.5 carat man-made diamond ring, and it only cost $6,000, so why is this 2 carat one more expensive than $2,000?
Finally, it's a not-so-good thing to say, it's a long-standing tradition that the person proposing pays for the ring. If the husband wants to break this long-standing tradition, he should at least let the recipient of the ring know in advance, because she also needs to pay part of the cost of the ring and should have a say in terms of style, cost, etc. ”
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"She should perhaps apply for revocation on the grounds of fraud.
First of all, a diamond ring of this size will certainly not cost $8,000, which means that the husband has either been cheated or lied about the money. I bet it's the latter.
Secondly, he withdrew money from the joint account, which she did not know.
Apparently the husband did this from the beginning, and some of the money had gone to unknown places.
If she couldn't be sure that the money was actually used to buy the ring, it was likely that he had spent it somewhere.
It's too late now, she needs a lawyer. ”
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"A 2-carat diamond ring isn't worth $8,000, what the hell did he do with it? It seems that you don't really have joint property. ”
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Of course, no matter what happens, I feel that the life of this little couple will not go on......