At 8:30 a.m. on May 9, I sat in the family courtroom as usual, waiting for the parties to the divorce case to arrive.
When I first saw the husband and wife of the parties, I was timid and nervous when I came to the solemn court. Maybe it's the homely arrangement of the courtroom that makes them feel intimate, maybe it's the calligraphy and paintings on the wall that "let love come home" make them feel warm, maybe it's my calm and gentle questioning that makes them let go of their cowering and panic, and as they narrate with quarrels, their life fragments show in front of our eyes......
Both husband and wife are 50-year-old middle-aged people working in Guangzhou, perennial hard work, firewood, rice, oil and salt make each other's feelings in trivial life wear out, emotional betrayal is a fatal blow to the torn marriage, quarrels, abuse, retention, both parties can not let go of the past, redeem themselves, the first marriage ended in divorce.
Seeing that the woman's emotions gradually became excited, her telling slowly turned into complaints and accusations, and the man also changed from forbearance to-for-tat and mean words, I quickly diverted the topic: "Why did I remarry a few years ago after the divorce?"
The man was silent. The woman hid her face and wept bitterly. After a long time, the woman spoke: "A few years ago, my 16-year-old son, who was in the rebellious period of youth, dropped out of school to learn hairdressing. His father and I were not at ease with such a young child, so we went to the barber shop to see the child. On the way home, my son didn't say anything and walked ahead of us with his head down. When I got to the station, my son took my hand with one hand and his dad with the other, put my hand on his dad's, and then turned around and walked ....... Thinking of my son's lonely back as he faded away, I cried all the way. When I went back, I remarried the child's father. "I noticed that the woman's eyes were shining brightly when she recalled, but when she looked up at the man, her eyes were full of resentment and disappointment. I think she must have dissatisfaction with life and her husband, but it should be more about the reluctance of her children and her expectations for the future.
I brought them a glass of water to calm their excitement. Then, taking the ups and downs of life for decades as the starting point, analyze their living conditions, job prospects, son raising, elderly support, and return in their twilight years, guide them to learn tolerance and understanding, tolerance and trust, and help them look forward to the old age scene of their grandchildren, hoping that they can give each other another chance, let go of the past and start a new life. Unfortunately, even though I contacted their son and parents separately to do work, and repeatedly asked them to go back and seriously consider this life-changing decision, after three mediations and exhausted all mediation methods, it still could not change their determination to divorce, and still could not help their son to hold their hands tightly. "Thank you, Judge, for your dedication! I have never met a judge who thinks of us as much as you. The woman said sincerely.
Things that benefit the people will be prosperous. If I'm complaining, I'm thinking about it. For me, this is a very simple civil case, but for them, it is one of the few judicial experiences and major life choices, related to the fate of a family and two people, but also about the healthy growth of children, social harmony and stability, I have the responsibility and obligation to save this family on the verge of disintegration and help them mend the broken family relationship. Even though they are satisfied with the judicial services of our courts and tribunals, I still regret in my heart that they parted ways.
As a family judge, dealing with other people's parents' shortcomings and grievances every day, there are always countless moments shining with the brilliance of human nature and the warmth of the world, and the picture of "children putting their parents' hands together" will always appear in my mind, nourishing my heart, impacting my soul, inspiring my love for work, and making me willing to be a tree, a cloud, and a soul to guide and infect the parties, and light up the lights of thousands of homes with the glimmer of life. I sincerely hope that I, as well as family judges like me, can always use my rich social experience, profound legal literacy, rich judicial experience, and superb ability to resolve conflicts to help the parties and husbands establish an intimate relationship of mutual understanding, mutual trust, and mutual dependence, so as to give their children a happy home, and create a social environment for the society to be supported by the young and the elderly.
A file, a trial, a mediation, a judgment, all gathered into the whole time of our judges. One end of this time is the job responsibility, the other end is related to the joys and sorrows of thousands of families, the responsibility and mission are as heavy as a thousand pounds, and we judges need to use the firm belief of "grinding thousands of blows and still being strong", the spirit of struggle of "not waiting for the whip to be raised", the feelings of "worrying about the world first, and enjoying the joy of the world after the world", and the professional pursuit of "even if the wind rises, I will also ride the wind to break thousands of miles" to serve the people, use judicial judgments to convey positive value orientation, and awaken the light of kindness and humanity with moral conscience. Lead the good fashion of the society with humanistic feelings, resolve contradictions and disputes with the spirit of the rule of law, punish evil and promote good, maintain fairness and justice, keep this beautiful Fangfei April Day, and make the society more harmonious and the world better!