finally understood that hurting my nephews and nieces is useless in the end. As a child, I always imagined celibacy as wonderful. It's great to be free and not have to worry about family chores! But when I actually retired and my children grew up, I began to experience the loneliness of living alone. At this time, I remembered my nephews and nieces. When they were younger, I held them and played with them, and I felt like I was playing an important role. But as time went on and the children grew up, I found that I had little to no role in their lives. When the phone called, they were always in a hurry, and the trivial things in life gradually excluded me. I felt a sense of loss in my heart, as if I had been abandoned by time.
Gradually, however, I began to understand. The nephews and nieces now have their own lives, they have their own dreams and pursuits, so naturally they have less time to spend with me, the old uncle. Perhaps, I had set my expectations too high and expected them to snuggle up to me like they did when they were kids. But the reality is that everyone has their own trajectory in life, and I can't force them to always be around me. It doesn't mean that I don't have a place in their hearts, it's just that their lives don't revolve around me anymore.
Perhaps, I can try to accept this reality. Although my nephews and nieces are no longer the whole of my life, I can still find other ways to fill my life. I can make more friends, participate in some social activities, and make my life more colorful. At the same time, I can also try to care for other people, such as the elderly in the community, or some people in need. Perhaps, I don't only find a way to exist in my nephews and nieces, and there are many other possibilities in life.
Finally, I would like to say that although my nephews and nieces no longer live around me as they did when I was a child, I am still their uncle, their family. I will continue to bless them, cheer them on, and I will always support them wherever they go. Because, even though my existence is no longer so important to them, they will always be the most precious existence in my life.