The "little fool" in marriage
My name is Su Jin, and I grew up in a family full of books. His father was a historian and his mother was an art teacher. Influenced by my parents since I was a child, I have developed a gentle and introverted personality, and at the same time, I have learned how to maintain a pure heart in a complex world.
After graduating, I chose to stay in my hometown to teach at a university and live a simple and fulfilling life. It wasn't until that chance that I met Lin Feng, a man who made my heart flutter.
Lin Feng is a colleague of mine, he is a young physicist who is brilliant and mild-mannered. We met at an academic exchange meeting, and I was deeply attracted by his speech and demeanor. After spending some time together, we developed a deep affection for each other and finally decided to spend the rest of our lives together.
Life after marriage is full of sweetness and warmth. Lin Feng is a considerate husband who always gives me support and help when I need it. However, as time went on, I found myself overly sensitive and clever in certain things, and I was always able to see through Lin Feng's intentions and thoughts at a glance. This keen observation made me seem comfortable when dealing with family affairs, but it also made me gradually ignore Lin Feng's feelings and needs.
One night, we were watching a movie at home. I inadvertently mentioned some of the difficulties Lin Feng had encountered at work recently, and he seemed a little frustrated. I immediately began to advise him, analyzing the root cause of the problem and how to solve it. However, before I could finish my words, Lin Feng interrupted me: "Jin'er, I know you are very smart, but sometimes I really wish you could accompany me more and listen to my voice." ”
I was stunned, realizing that I had ignored Lin Feng's feelings in the process of pursuing perfection. I suddenly understood that the way to get along in marriage is not only about wisdom and talent, but also about mutual listening and understanding.
Since then, I have been trying to "play dumb" in my marriage. When Lin Feng encountered a problem, I no longer rushed to give a solution, but patiently listened to his thoughts and feelings. I will comfort him with gentle words and encourage him to face difficulties bravely. Gradually, I found that Lin Feng became more confident and cheerful, and our relationship became closer.
Once, Lin Feng suddenly proposed to go on a trip. I originally wanted to choose my destination according to my preferences, but on second thought, I decided to "play confused" for once. I smiled and said to Lin Feng, "My dear, this trip is up to you, I believe your choice will definitely make us have an unforgettable vacation." ”
Lin Feng was very happy after listening to my words, and he began to plan his itinerary with great interest. From choosing a destination to arranging accommodation and transportation, he does it all himself. During the trip, we taste local food, enjoy beautiful landscapes, and experience different cultures together. This trip made me feel Lin Feng's carefulness and thoughtfulness, and also made me cherish the relationship between us even more.
In addition to traveling, I began to "pretend to be confused" in other ways. When Lin Feng wanted to try new dishes, I no longer found fault with the taste, but encouraged him to try boldly; When Lin Feng wanted to learn new skills, I no longer questioned his ability, but gave him full support and encouragement. These seemingly trivial things made Lin Feng feel my trust and understanding, and also made our marriage more harmonious and happy.
However, "pretending to be confused" is not really confused, but a more intelligent way to deal with problems in marriage. I learned to give Lin Feng enough space and support at critical moments, so that he can freely express his thoughts and feelings; I also learned to cherish every moment with Lin Feng with a grateful heart in ordinary days.
One night, Lin Feng suddenly said to me, "Jin'er, do you know? I really appreciate your 'little fool'. Because you have always been able to tolerate my shortcomings and shortcomings, I feel endless warmth and happiness. I smiled and responded to him, "Actually, I also appreciate your tolerance and understanding. It is precisely because we love each other and support each other that we have been able to go through so many years of ups and downs. ”
At that moment, I understood that the "little fool" in marriage is not a negative attitude, but a positive state of mind. It makes us cherish each other's feelings more and know how to get along more; It also makes us go further and further on the road of marriage and become happier and happier. Now that we have gone through many years of married life, we are still in love, and I believe that as long as we continue to support and understand each other in this way, we will be able to spend more wonderful times.