Li Shangyin once said: The crowd looked for him thousands of times, but suddenly looked back at the person but was in the dim light. In the vast sea of people, the world's eight or nine billion people, I don't know how many times to look back, to find their own sincere feelings, this is the love of each other.
"The mountains are edgeless, the heaven and the earth are together, but dare to be with the king" writes the determination of lovers to stay together for a lifetime, "the king is regarded as a rock, the concubine is regarded as a reed, the reed is as tough as silk, and the rock has no transfer" expresses the sincerity of life and death. The most hopeful thing for every pair of lovers who love each other is probably to accompany each other to old age and enter the palace of marriage.
However, when love enters the real stage of staying together, and all the beautiful imagination faces the mundane things such as firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea in real life, love seems to gradually lose its original deliciousness, and becomes dull and tasteless.
The more famous example, the author thinks is the pair of lovers in the TV series "Huanzhu Gege", the fifth elder brother and Xiaoyanzi. In the first two parts, the two people had to be together after many difficulties and dangers, and finally got what they wanted, but in the third part, they drifted apart in ordinary life, and finally ended gloomily.
This ending is truly shocking and heartbreaking. In fact, many times it is easy to fall in love and difficult to stay together, such as the founding lieutenant general Wang Jinshan and his original partner Han Xiuyan, who experienced the war years of life and death, and finally broke up after the peace era. After Han Xiuyan raised seven children, he ended up being lonely all his life, and the ending of the two was really embarrassing.
Iron-blooded lieutenant general - Wang Madman
In October 1915, Wang Jinshan was born in a poor family in Huang'an, Hubei, and began to herd cattle at the age of eight, and began to work as a long-term worker at the age of thirteen.
Because he was oppressed by the landlords and old money, when the spring breeze of revolution blew to Huang'an, Hubei, he immediately signed up for the Red Army, when he was not yet 15 years old.
Wang Jinshan is famous for not dying in wars, there is a way to wear shoes and are afraid of bare feet, Wang Jinshan is the barefoot.
There was once a fight with a Kuomintang big man, both sides did not have hot weapons, completely relying on their own conditions to compete, Wang Jinshan because of perennial malnutrition so far from the other party's body shape, but he was very fierce, stunned to push a Shandong man who was a head taller than himself off the cliff, won the victory, and it was from this time that the soldiers gave the "Wang Madman" nickname.
In mid-to-late October 1937, the higher authorities deployed a part of the troops to set up an ambush in Qiqian Village in the Niangziguan area of Shanxi Province to attack the Japanese army. This part of the force is the troops led by Wang Jinshan, in the battle he very quickly wiped out more than 300 heavy troops of the Japanese 20th Division, while his troops only suffered more than 10 casualties, and the captured booty was enough to move for a day and a night.
Two days later, he returned to the same place and set up an ambush again, ambushed more than 100 Japanese soldiers, and even carried out two more ambushes in the next three days, annihilating more than 400 Japanese troops, seizing a large number of weapons, ammunition and equipment, and breaking the routine of no longer being defeated.
For this reason, a British military scientist listed this battle as one of the world's top ten classic tactics, and it was precisely because of his combat bravery and wit that he was awarded the rank of lieutenant general in 1955, when he was only 40 years old.
Arduous years
Wang Jinshan's courage and wit were a hot figure in the army at that time, and many unmarried women secretly wished for love, although his original partner Han Xiuyan was not so, but after hearing his deeds, he also admired this young hero very much.
Soon their fate came, and it was also in 1937 that when Wang Jinshan, who was only 22 years old, participated in the Shentouling ambush and fought with the Japanese army in Lucheng, he was hit in the lungs by shrapnel and sent to the field hospital of the 129th Division in Niuju Village, Licheng for treatment.
And the nurse who changed the dressing for him at that time was his later original wife Han Xiuyan, but Wang Jinshan didn't know it at the time, only knew that he didn't dare to speak loudly when he saw this delicate and gentle girl.
You must know that Han Xiuyan was born in a large family in Qingyuan County, Hebei Province, and he has known that Dali and Wang Jinshan are worlds apart since he was a child, and Wang Jinshan is a hero he worships, and he is even more shy. The ambiguous atmosphere of the two was quickly noticed by others, and later under the matchmaking of their comrade-in-arms Chen Xilian, the two fell in love, and they became husband and wife the following year, achieving a good story.
However, the married life of the two at the beginning was actually very dangerous, but the relationship between the two was very firm, even if she was pregnant, Han Xiuyan followed Wang Jinshan to live without complaints, and gave birth to seven children to Wang Jinshan, and Wang Jinshan was also very protective in the face of such a reasonable wife, and the relationship between the two was gradually sublimated in the war.
Raising children alone
But the good times did not last long, after the establishment of New China, without the blessing of external factors of the war, only faced with the life of ordinary couples such as firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, the couple did not continue to walk.
may have faded the brilliance of a battlefield hero, Wang Jinshan's shortcomings have also been infinitely magnified, Han Xiuyan is also a very strong woman, she hopes to teach her husband to be the husband she wants, and Wang Jinshan's side, after leaving the battlefield, he has to start to deal with daily maintenance work, and he has to take care of his own learning tasks, so it is inevitable that he will be left out in the cold to his wife.
In addition, he also felt that his wife was getting stronger and stronger, and his own temper exploded at one point, so the family gradually became a battlefield for the two, and it was normal for a small quarrel to be made every three days and a big quarrel for five days. The relationship between the two gradually died out in this quarrel.
Later, Wang Jinshan made a mistake that a woman could not forgive, he cheated on his original sister, Han Xiuyan, who knew the news, was close to collapse, and she sued Wang Jinshan to the Organization Department with a complaint, and the relationship between the two broke down.
After the relationship between the two broke up, Wang Jinshan was delegated to transform because of his style, and Han Xiuyan began to shoulder the responsibility of taking care of the seven women, and the two have never met, even if Wang Jinshan was transferred back to Nanjing in 1969, he did not meet with the original partner, although he took the children between the two to himself, although the two once loved each other so much.
When Wang Jinshan died, he even left a will not allow Han Xiuyan to attend his funeral, but he cried Han Xiuyan's name when he was dying. Han Xiuyan has always lived alone, and he never saw Wang Jinshan again when he was alive, and he also chanted Wang Jinshan's name before he died.
Brief summary:
The relationship is so inexplicable, I don't know when I started a relationship, and I don't know when this relationship will end. Maybe sometimes there is still residual affection for the other party, but the final direction of events is really unacceptable.
The final ending of Wang Jinshan and his original partner is inevitably embarrassing, it is easy to fall in love, and it is difficult to stay together, but the lovers who have experienced so many hardships and have never been separated finally lost to reality.
In fact, judging from the final direction of their relationship, their problem lies in the maintenance of their relationship. In times of war, because everyone has to save their lives, there is no time to take care of other things, and when the era of peace comes, after becoming a family, it is even more important to pay attention to ways and means.
Family members should pay attention to communication, can not blindly impose their own ideas on others, as the saying goes, do not do to others what you do not want, when we can communicate calmly and things, we will get a perfect ending.