My name is Wang Xing, I am 65 years old this year, and I can get nearly 6,000 yuan a month for my pension, which is quite good in our small county.
My wife, she retired three years before me, and her pension is more than 3,000. Combined, life is quite nourishing.
I'm a person who doesn't like those vain socials, so I love fishing.
After retiring, I have a lot of time and can go to the river almost every day and fish with my fishing friends.
Fishing friends are all the same age, and naturally there are only a few topics: children, wives, bodies, and pensions.
I like to talk about things at home, and when I talk about my son and wife, I always look proud. But when it comes to pensions, I have to keep a low profile.
My wife told me that I should not tell outsiders about my pension, especially my son.
She told me that the pension was only more than 2,000, which was enough to spend.
Although I don't understand why my wife is so careful, I believe her after so many years of husband and wife.
Every time my fishing friends asked about their pension, I smiled and said, "Hey, it's not much, more than 2,000, enough to eat and drink." ”
I remember my wife's instructions firmly.
The pension thing is like a little secret between the two of us, and when others ask about it, I just say haha and pass.
My son has never suffered since he was a child, and my wife and I have never let him suffer. When his grandparents were alive, they doted on him even more, and we wanted to discipline him, and the old man always protected him.
I remember when my son was a child, as soon as he made a mistake, my wife and I were just about to speak, and his grandparents stood up.
Said that he was still young and ignorant. In this way, it is difficult for us to say anything more.
After a long time, my son also figured it out, and hid behind his grandparents whenever something happened.
We don't have to worry about my son's studies, his grades have been good, and he was admitted to university, and my wife and I are very proud.
But after graduating from college, he went to a big city and wanted to make a name for himself. My wife and I were both happy and worried.
A few years have passed, and the son has not made a name for himself in the big city, but has come back in disgrace. We thought, let's come back, at least the family can be together.
In order to let my son have a stable job in his hometown, I asked for connections everywhere and finally found him a good job.
I can get more than 5,000 a month, which is very good in our small county.
But my son was not satisfied, and always said that he was tired from work and had little salary, so he asked me to help him find an easy job.
I was so angry in my heart, how hard it took me to help him find this job, but he didn't appreciate it. My wife and I are really heartbroken for him.
In the end, it was my wife who relented and asked my son to apologize to me, and the matter was over.
My son's marriage is a big deal, and my wife and I are not less worried. arranged several blind dates for him, but he was always picky and disdainful.
Later, he finally found a girlfriend on his own, and the two got along well, and my wife and I were also relieved.
The bride price requirements at the woman's family are a bit high, but seeing that my son likes it, my wife and I gritted our teeth and agreed.
We bought a house for our son, and we also helped him pay off the mortgage, and we also paid the bride price.
On the day of our son's wedding, my wife and I finally breathed a sigh of relief.
But the good times didn't last long, and after the daughter-in-law became pregnant, the wife and son had to take care of her often.
After the birth of the grandson, the wife was even more busy helping to take care of the grandson. My wife and I thought that this would reduce the burden on our son and daughter-in-law and allow them to work with peace of mind.
Unexpectedly, the daughter-in-law didn't appreciate it, and all the work at home was thrown to his wife.
Almost all of his wife's pension is used in his son's house. My wife and I felt a little uncomfortable, but for the sake of our son and grandson, we put up with it.
It wasn't until the grandson went to kindergarten that the wife was a little more relaxed.
My wife and I thought we could enjoy our retirement now. But my son and daughter-in-law are still not satisfied, and they always want to take money from us.
That day, my son suddenly called and said that my daughter-in-law had made a good dish and asked us to come over for dinner.
When my wife and I heard this, our hearts blossomed, and we thought that our son finally knew how to be filial.
When I arrived at my son's house, I smelled the smell of food as soon as I entered the door. My son welcomed us into the house, and my wife and I were warm.
At the dinner table, everyone talked and laughed, and the atmosphere was very harmonious. My wife has always reminded me not to mention my pension.
Halfway through the meal, my son asked me coldly, "Dad, are you retired?" I chuckled in my heart, thinking that this kid had finally got the point.
I replied, "Retreat, retreat." ”
The son then asked, "How much is your pension a month?" I felt a little uncomfortable, but I still followed my wife's instructions and said, "Not much, more than 2,000 and less than 3,000." ”
The son apparently didn't believe it and said, "Can't you?" I remember that Uncle Zhang has a pension of 4,000. "I'm a little weak-hearted,
But he still insisted: "Really, I made a little mistake before I retired, and my position was demoted, and my pension was naturally less." ”
My wife was also beside me and said, "Yes, we have almost emptied our family funds for your marriage over the years."
We are also helping you pay off the mortgage, and now that your father's pension is less, can you see if you can repay the mortgage yourself? ”
When the daughter-in-law heard this, her face suddenly became ugly, and the atmosphere at the dinner table became awkward.
The daughter-in-law didn't say much, just said that she was full and went out with her grandson.
It was only then that the son revealed his true purpose, and he and his daughter-in-law wanted us to contribute some money to help them alleviate the family's expenses.
I'm a little disappointed, but I understand their struggles. I discussed it with my wife, and finally decided not to give them money for the time being.
I looked at my son with mixed feelings. I said, "Son, you two have a salary of more than 10,000 yuan a month, and after deducting expenses, it is not a problem to have four or five thousand a month."
Why are you short of money? You send money to your parents-in-law every month, thousands a month, why didn't you think about giving us some money? ”
I yelled out all the unhappiness of the past few years, and left my son's house with my wife.
Before leaving, I saw that my son and daughter-in-law's faces were red for a while and white for a while, and I felt a little relieved, but also a little sad.
On the way home, my wife kept praising me for doing the right thing, saying that it should have been done a long time ago.
My wife and I decided to go out for a walk, travel, and breathe.
We all knew in our hearts that this trip was not only for relaxation, but also for thinking about how to go in the future.
We went to the beach, and the troubles in our hearts seemed to slowly disappear with the waves.
Sitting on the beach, holding a handful of fine sand in her hand, the wife said, "Is it wrong for us to spoil our son so much?" ”
I sighed, my son has grown up, and we always try our best to give him the best, for fear that he will be wronged a little.
But looking at it now, the son doesn't seem to be as sensible as we imagined.
The wife said: "Are we too doting on him, making him take everything for granted?" ”
I think my wife is right. We always want the best for our son, but we forget to teach him to be independent. We gave him fish, but we didn't teach him how to fish.
We can no longer carry everything for him as we did before. My son is already an adult,
On the way back from the trip, my wife and I were in a much lighter mood.
The son's awakening came a little suddenly, but it was also reasonable.
On that day, my wife and I had just returned from a trip when our son came to the door. He stood in the doorway, carrying a basket of fruit in his hand, guilt written all over his face.
"Dad, Mom, can I come in?" My son's voice trembled a little, and my wife and I looked at each other, and we were a little surprised. We nodded and let our son in.
The atmosphere in the room was a little awkward, and the son kept his head down. After a long while, he spoke, "Dad, Mom, I want to tell you something." ”
My wife and I listened quietly, and my son took a deep breath and said, "I know, I've made you worry a lot over the years.
Jobs, houses, children, and money that shouldn't have been asked for you, I... I'm so ignorant. ”
My son's words moved me and my wife a little, and my son continued: "I've been thinking a lot about it these days, and I've talked to my daughter-in-law. We decided that we would work on our own in the future and stop worrying about you. ”
My son really grew up, I patted my son on the shoulder and said, "Son, you can think so, Dad is very pleased." We believe in you and you can do it. ”
The wife also wiped her tears and said to her son with a smile: "Yes, son, we have always believed that you can be the pillar of the family." ”
The son nodded vigorously,
From that day on, the son really changed and stopped asking us for money.
The daughter-in-law also began to help with housework, and together with her wife and son, she kept the house in order. My wife smiled and said, "Now, I can finally enjoy Qingfu." ”
We also began to enjoy our lives. My wife joined the community dance team, and I went fishing with my fellow friends. Our lives become full and happy.
One day, my son came to us with a passbook and said, "Dad, Mom, this is the money that my daughter-in-law and I have saved, and I will deposit a sum in it every month in the future, which is to honor you." ”
My wife and I looked at the passbook and almost burst into tears.
The son has really grown up, he knows how to be filial to his parents, and he knows how to take responsibility.
We believe that as long as there is love, understanding, and support between family members, there is no difficulty that cannot be overcome.
Do you think I'm doing the right thing?
(The story in this article comes from life, but it is higher than life, please read it rationally.) ）