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Today's topic: Why do my parents want to bind me with their thinking?
Lu Xun said this in "Writing Under the Lamp", to the effect that as the lowest level of society, they can only be oppressed by other strata, and can no longer oppress other strata, so they can only oppress their wives and weaker sons who are lower than themselves.
Therefore, the more incapable the nest, the more horizontal the nest, the "honest man" who is submissive outside, and his temper is sent at home. After all, there must be a place for catharsis for the fire that is being spent.
Someone will come and tell you right away, and you'll understand when you go back to society.
You are very wrong, your uncle is ostensibly teaching you to eat noodles, and the underlying logic is to tell you that everything is first, it doesn't matter if you are fast or not, the important thing is to be faster than others.
But the key problem is that children try to understand and respect their parents, and parents keep feeling that their children are not growing up. For example, on the issue of childbirth, children can understand the painstaking efforts of their parents to urge marriage and childbearing, but parents feel that their children are young and willful, and they don't know the "consequences of not giving birth".
Because using their theory to raise a baby is the most cost-effective, to be honest, I raised a baby first and was subtly influenced by them!
They have lived all their lives at the bottom of society, and they still want to use this set of bottom logic to educate their children, so don't they continue to be at the bottom.
Because in his whole life, he can't win anyone, but there is only one new life under his management that he can always defeat. Seeing that this new life is getting stronger and stronger with the progress of life, he is about to lose the fight, can he not be in a hurry? Love, no, people who have been bullied have long since smoothed out the ability to love. All that's left is to be on the lookout for whether others will be better than him and whether they can bully him at will. Poor life.
It is normal that many "weak" people think like this, and the parents of the "strong" are encouraged and supported. There are too many in life, the children from the countryside have made money, the parents of the weak are asking their children to build houses in their rural hometowns, and the parents of the strong are suggesting to buy houses in the first and second lines, leaving the small peasant economy and thinking. What you can do is to do your best and give the next generation a different life.
The lower the bottom, the less reflective it is, so there is nothing wrong with saying that "the more the bottom matures, the later it matures", and the bottom layer is ignorant of the structure and operation of the world. If you come from the bottom, establish a reasonable evaluation standard and at least hold on to a string, that is, "don't trust your parents too much".
I was born at the bottom of the ladder and was fortunate enough to be born in the age of the Internet, and I was exposed to many ideas and concepts that did not belong to this class. The changes made made the relatives around me very dissatisfied, criticized and suppressed, and what made me desperate was the emotional and moral weakness and kidnapping. I began to doubt myself and attack myself for being aloof and selfish. Later, I decided to leave the circle and go all the way up. As the subject said, in traditional thinking, it is very cruel, and everyone chooses it.