Text: Marriage counselor Liu Jie
In a relationship, a woman's mind is sometimes like seeing flowers in a fog, which always makes people unable to see clearly.
What they said sounded prickly and unacceptable. But if you think about it, you will see that there is something in their words.
Behind those harsh words, it may be that she has a unique perspective on certain things, or it may be a reminder that there are some issues between you that need attention.
Therefore, when dealing with women, you must learn to listen to the sound outside the strings, don't be deceived by superficial words, dig deep into the meaning behind it, and you can capture her heart.
Especially when a woman says the following three words to you, although it may sound like she hates you, in fact, she may have secretly fallen in love with you.
01
"You're so annoying"
When a woman says to you, "You're so annoying," many men may feel frustrated and even think that they are really annoying.
But in fact, behind this sentence, there may be a special emotion hidden.
Think about it, if a woman has no feelings for you, why would she spend time and energy to "annoy" you? She can ignore you and avoid any intersection with you.
The key to this sentence lies in the context and tone.
If she's saying it in a half-jesting way, pretending to be angry, then it's likely that she's crushing you but doesn't know how to express it.
She may be testing your reaction to see if you will back down. Perhaps you want to see how you respond to her "complaints".
At this time, she said "You're so annoying", and there was a little bit of flirtatation. Why don't you try to respond in a joking way, and it will be easy to see her mind.
02
"I don't need your help"
When a woman says to you, "I don't need your help," she may not really be rejecting you, but testing whether you are sincere with her.
Women often hope that their other half can stand up at a critical moment and shelter her from the wind and rain.
But sometimes, she'll also show an "I don't need anybody" attitude of independence, which is actually testing your reactions.
If you choose to back down in this situation, then she may think that you don't really like her and just want to take advantage of her.
But if you can persevere and prove your sincerity with practical actions, then she will most likely be moved by your persistence.
For example, when she has a problem, you offer to help her. Although she said "no", she did not refuse your help, and she was very happy afterwards.
Then this kind of "don't need" is actually duplicity, just wait to see how you behave.
03
"Don't be presumptuous"
When a woman says to you, "Don't be self-righteous," she may be reminding you to be careful about your words and actions and not to be too confident or arrogant.
This may sound like she is criticizing you, but in fact she cares about you.
She wants you to be a better person, not just a self-righteous person.
Behind this seemingly derogatory language, there is actually her expectation and concern for you.
She may have noticed some of your strengths, but at the same time she saw your shortcomings. In this way, she hopes to motivate you to be better.
At this time, you also need to interpret it with her other words and deeds.
If she says you not to be self-righteous, but she doesn't show disgust with you in action, but is willing to help you and encourage you, then she just wants you to get better.
Of course, behind this getting better is her expectation and affection for you.
Therefore, when a woman says these three words to you, although it may seem like she hates you or belittles you on the surface, it is actually possible that she is secretly expressing her love to you.
As men, we need to learn to listen with our hearts to the true meaning behind a woman's words, rather than just staying on the surface.
As Shakespeare said, "True love cannot be expressed in words, but deeds are the best illustration of faithfulness." ”
When a woman communicates with you in this way, she may want to send a signal of love to you through her behavior.
So, don't give up on that one easily, often "complaining" about you, "rejecting" you, or "criticizing" your woman. Because most likely, she is the one who secretly loves you.