After their children enter primary school, many parents do not feel that their children are stressed. Parents are very confused, there is good food, there are beautiful clothes to wear, there are people to pick up and drop off from school, where does the pressure on children come from?
Whether in life or studying, as long as there is difficulty, there will be pressure.
For example, if a child wants to get good grades, but he doesn't know how to do it, this is a difficulty that many students encounter, and if the learning difficulties are not solved, there will be pressure.
Another example is that the child has a small conflict with his classmates at school, but the problem has not been fundamentally solved, and the child is often troubled by this kind of social problem, which will also bring a certain amount of pressure to the child.
If stress is too high, it can affect the quality and duration of your child's sleep. It may also affect the child's appetite and lack of appetite for eating. Some children may also be moody.
Therefore, after the child goes to school, we should not only care about the child's grades, but also care about the child's psychological state, including the people and things around the child, and help the child smoothly adapt to the campus environment of the primary school.
These pressures come from the outside world, and some of the pressures come from the depths of the child's heart. Say
Children usually learn very well, but they always fail well in exams, and can only play about eighty percent of their usual level. If we look at the "Yerkes-Dodson Curve", we will find the "culprit" that affects children's test scores.
The "Yerkes-Dodson Curve" is a curve in psychology that reflects the relationship between stress and performance.
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Through this curve, we can know that only people can perform at their best in a moderately stressful situation. Without pressure, people will not be interested in doing things; If you are under too much pressure, you will feel fatigue and emotional tension, and you will not be able to perform at your best.
How can we help children learn to manage their stress?
In our daily lives, we can compete more with our children. As long as it comes to the game, there will be wins and losses. Driven by the mentality of wanting to win, the child will have a certain amount of pressure. Multiple training sessions can develop the child's ability to regulate and balance stress within a moderate range.
Therefore, stress is a double-edged sword, and when used well, it can help children perform well in exams. Stress is also a whetstone, which can stimulate people's potential and exert greater energy.
If the stress is too much, how can you help your child relieve the pressure?
10 parents, 9.9 hope that their children will get good results in the exam! Sometimes talking too much and paying too much attention will inevitably put pressure on the child without knowing it. When children are stressed, it not only affects learning, but also is not conducive to physical and mental health. How can I help my child decompress?
1. Understand your child's emotions. While we emphasize that children should be less focused on grades, it is difficult not to care about your test scores as a student. As parents, we first accept our children's low emotions. Let children feel cared for by their parents. After the child has adjusted his emotions, he and his child will find a way to solve the problem in front of him.
2. Talk to your child. Sometimes the words hidden in the heart are pressure, and when they say it, it is air, coupled with the moderate enlightenment of parents, the mood is immediately cheerful. Of course, if the child does not need enlightenment, only the listener, then go with the ears and leave the mouth in the room.
3. Adjust your learning objectives. The importance of cultivating ability is greater than the importance of achievements. If you don't get good grades, it doesn't matter, you can improve your academic performance by improving your learning ability. Also, if the goal is set too far, then lower the goal a bit. By achieving small short-distance goals, children will be given a sense of accomplishment.
4. Studies have shown that exercise can help children release stress. Parents may wish to accompany their children to run, ride, play ball, etc., and release the accumulated pressure in their hearts through moderate exercise.
Facing your child's stress correctly and making your child physically and mentally healthier.
There is another situation, some children are usually very good, but they are nervous when they take the exam, how to help the child relieve the psychological pressure of the exam?
This may be a manifestation that children pay more attention to test rankings and test scores, hoping to get good results in exams, but not so much self-confidence. When your child sits in the exam room, there may be sweaty palms and rapid heartbeat. This is that the psychological pressure of the child is too great.
Children who behave like this and are unable to concentrate and think can actually have the opposite effect on achieving good grades.
Let's teach children the easiest way to breathe and regulate the tension before the exam.
The method is simple:
1Place your hands on your abdomen and breathe in the abdomen.
2The belly is bulging when you inhale, and the belly is deflated when you exhale.
3. At the same time, pay attention to the exhalation time, which is slightly longer than the inhalation time for 1 or 2 seconds.
If you do it three or four times, the carbon dioxide in the body will be fully released, there will be enough oxygen supply to the brain, the mood will be calmed, and the tension will be relieved.
Whether it is daily study, or the upcoming mid-term exam, or the college entrance examination in a month, let us teach our children the way to relieve pressure, so that children can travel lightly and achieve the best results with the most peaceful mind.