When the ship of marriage encounters wind and waves, and the man betrays the harbor of promise, as a wife, the pain and struggle in his heart can be imagined.
However, in the midst of emotional turmoil, we should not be driven by impulses, but should calmly examine the relationship and face this sudden change in a more rational way.
Marriage is like a well-drawn picture, and when there are flaws in it, we may be able to repair it, or we may need to re-examine its value.
The man's derailment is undoubtedly a crack in the picture scroll, but this does not mean that the whole painting has lost its value.
At this time, as a wife, what we need is time, calmness, self-reflection, and thoughtful consideration for the future of our children.
Tolstoy famously said, "When there is life, there is happiness." ”
Before deciding to stay, we need to ask ourselves: Is there any chance that this marriage will be repaired? Does this man deserve my trust again?
Do we have a common future to look forward to? If the answer is yes, then we should give each other a cooling-off period to allow time to test the authenticity of the relationship.
Wang Xiaobo said: "Blindly brave and diligent, not necessarily edification; On the contrary, it is better to think calmly in the plain to solve the problem. ”
During the cooling-off period, we can re-examine our view of marriage and think about our own shortcomings and faults in the relationship.
At the same time, we can also observe the man's reaction to see if he is truly remorseful and willing to put in the effort to repair the relationship.
However, if after the cooling-off period, we find that the marriage is irretrievable, then we should also be brave enough to face the reality.
But before that, we need to be well prepared. We need to plan the future for ourselves and our children, and ensure that our life after divorce can be stable and orderly.
It's not just for ourselves, it's for the growth and future of our children.
When we make the decision to divorce, we need to keep in mind that divorce is not a failure, but a choice. We chose to end this unhappy marriage and choose to pursue a better life.
At this time, we should face the future with a positive attitude and believe that we and our children can get through this difficult time.
In this process, we also need to pay special attention to the child's feelings. Children are innocent, and they should not fall prey to their parents' emotional problems.
We should try to minimize the impact of divorce on our children so that they feel loved and cared for by their parents.
Shen Sanqu said: "My original family has never given me a sense of security, and I can't talk about spiritual backing. ”
We must not allow our children to repeat our mistakes, but strive to give them a warm and stable environment to grow up in.
In the process of dealing with marital crises, we also need to learn to be tolerant and forgiving. Tolerance is not conniving at a man's betrayal, but forgiveness of oneself.
Forgiveness is also not about forgetting a man's faults, but about giving yourself a chance to start over.
We need to understand that everyone has their own shortcomings and shortcomings, and that problems in marriage are not one-sided responsibilities.
Only when we learn to be tolerant and forgive, can we truly let go of the pain of the past and embrace a better life in the future.
In conclusion, when a man betrays a marriage, we don't have to rush to make a decision. We should give each other a cooling-off period to see if the relationship can be repaired.
If it is irretrievable, then we should be brave enough to face the reality, be fully prepared, and plan the future path for ourselves and our children.
At the same time, we should pay special attention to the feelings of our children and minimize the impact of divorce on them.
Finally, we need to learn to be tolerant and forgive ourselves a chance to start over.