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(Note: This article is purely fictional, if you have similar experiences, it is purely coincidental, please read it sensibly)
Nowadays, more and more middle-aged and elderly people have chosen to leave the city and return to the countryside for the elderly after retirement.
I thought that after returning to the countryside, I would stay away from some rights and wrongs, and live a life like a paradise with unnecessary interpersonal interactions, but is the truth really as beautiful as I imagined?
I don't think so, at least not so good for me and my wife, like most people, my wife and I also chose to return to the countryside after retirement.
This is not a whim, but we have decided a long time ago, it may be that the older we get, the deeper we yearn for our hometown and the countryside!
My wife and I spent more than 20,000 yuan to redecorate the house in the countryside, and then went back with our luggage.
But I didn't expect that on the first day I went back, the two of us had a closed door, because my wife and I hadn't been back to the countryside for so many years, and those relatives also relied on mobile phones to maintain themselves.
We thought, "We're coming back anyway, and we're planning to stay for a long time, so let's bring some gifts and go see those relatives and friends, and ask them for help in case there's something in the future."
We went to the eldest brother and sister-in-law's house first, and I don't know if I know the reason why we are coming, the door that used to be open is closed very tightly today, and no one opened the door after I knocked on the door for a long time.
My wife told me that my eldest brother and sister-in-law were not at home, let's call him later, and come back when they are at home.
When I got home, I called my eldest brother, and I asked him if he was not at home, and I said that I was going to see him, and no one opened the door after knocking for a long time.
The eldest brother told me that he and his sister-in-law were at home, and no one opened the door probably because he was sleeping just now, and he didn't hear it.
I didn't take it to heart, I heard my eldest brother say that my sister-in-law was sick, so I thought about asking if Yan was serious, and it happened that he was also awake, let's go over and take a look.
Before I finished speaking, my eldest brother rejected me, saying don't come here, we are not too young, and it will not be good for infection at that time.
The eldest brother has said so, and I can't have to bother them, so I can only say that I will visit them again next time I have the opportunity.
Later, when I chatted with my fellow villagers, I learned that my sister-in-law was not sick at all, and my eldest brother was also lying to me, and his purpose in doing this was not to see us.
As for the reason, it is very simple, that is, we are back, he can't occupy our house, I heard the old buddies say, the eldest brother has already let the words out, saying that our old house has to belong to his second son in the end.
This we came back suddenly, his wishful thinking failed, he naturally didn't want to see us, and the third brother was the same, because before my wife and I entered the city, the land was handed over to the third brother Dali.
Now he relies on these more than ten acres of land, he eats and drinks without worry, and lives a very happy life, but since I came back, he has always been angry with me, and now I think about it, I should be afraid that I will go back.
But he didn't want to think about it, I have been away from home for decades, and the craft of farming has long been forgotten, and I am almost seventy years old, where can I still plant the land!
Not only did I get away from my biological brother, but I didn't get along well with my neighbors, and after the old neighbors saw me, they said, the pension is so high, what are you going back to the village for, it's to show us that you have a pension, right?
I don't know if it's because I'm thinking too much, or if they're just like that, I even think that there is even more intrigue in the countryside than in the city.
If you talk to them, you have to be 100 points up, and if you are not careful, you will fall into their trap or be trapped.
This is all a trivial matter, I'm afraid that there are so many people who will take your words and tell others, and in the end you will offend people unknowingly, or have conflicts with others.
And there are more people in my hometown, my wife and I have lived in the countryside for more than half a year, and we spent more than 3,000 yuan just on gifts.
It's not whose son is getting married today, or the child is doing a full moon wine, or whose old man has died, in fact, to be honest, we don't have much intersection with others, it doesn't matter if we follow it or not.
But my wife and I didn't want to live in the countryside all the time, we wanted to use this way to get closer to our parents and fellow villagers, thinking that if something happened to us in the future, no one would come.
It's a pity that both of us are wrong, people won't look down on us because of these hundreds of dollars, but they will feel that we should be, or we will ask for them.
In addition to these, the most uncomfortable thing for me is that the medical facilities here are too backward and the transportation is not very convenient.
Once, I had a heart attack, and I couldn't find an emergency doctor, so I called for an ambulance, but because the village was in a remote area, I took many detours to get here.
Fortunately, my son's mobile phone was able to monitor my physical condition in real time, and he called my eldest brother in time, and he found someone to send me to the hospital, which saved my life.
Since then, I've been carrying first aid medicine in my pocket, just in case the ambulance doesn't come in time, I can hold on a little longer.
In addition to medical care, the express delivery and shopping here are also quite inconvenient, because our village is remote and difficult to find, so most of the express delivery is delivered to the town or a relatively large village.
Every time I get the express delivery, I have to run to several places, and sometimes there are lost items, which makes me, who is keen on online shopping, have to change my habits and go to offline shopping malls.
When it comes to shopping, I think one of the biggest misconceptions I have about the countryside is that we only have one big and comprehensive supermarket in town.
My wife and I usually choose to go shopping here, and when I first went there, I thought that the county town would be cheaper than the city, but the truth gave me a slap in the face.
Because I found that the things here are not cheap at all, and some are even more expensive than those in the city, an ordinary dress costs two or three hundred, and I am not willing to buy it for those who have a pension, let alone those who do not have a pension.
What puzzled me the most was that the vegetables and fruits here were too expensive for me to accept, I thought that the vegetables and fruits would be cheaper next to the countryside, but I didn't expect that the prices in the city would be almost doubled.
Unexpectedly, after returning to the countryside, my wife and I became more and more frugal, reluctant to eat fruits, reluctant to buy clothes, and in the end, the money saved was either used for gifts or handed over to the hospital.
My wife told me that it is not difficult to understand this situation, after all, there is such a large supermarket in a small county, and most people choose to shop here.
Otherwise, you can only buy things in nearby stalls or small shops, but if you buy it, you will feel that the quality is not as good as in the supermarket.
After going back, one day I talked about this matter with my old buddies in the past, and the old buddies said disapprovingly, it's all like this, if you want to buy it, you can buy it, and if you don't want to buy it, you can get it, and people will not lack your money.
He also teased me and said, "You are a person who has a pension of several thousand a month, and you still say this, what can we do if we rely on farming to eat?"
I wanted to talk to my old buddies and complain about my grievances, but I didn't expect that he couldn't do without money in three sentences now, and he opened his mouth to say that we have a pension, not like their small farmers......
When I talk to him, I always feel like I go back to the old times, when there was a class system, as if we had a pension and were superior to others.
I think it's getting more and more boring to stay in this countryside, and my brothers don't have the same heart as before, and they are not even as familiar as strangers.
Fathers and fellow villagers, they don't want to be as simple as before, they always want to get some benefits in your two sentences, or get some benefits, the old buddies and playmates in the past are not what they were at the beginning, there is no former scenery, only life is left.
It's not just the infrastructure that makes me uncomfortable, but the most important thing is that I can't accept it, and the beautiful and simple hometown in my memory has changed, and I can never go back to the beginning.
Hometown is said to be the comfort of many wandering wanderers, sometimes feeling tired or painful, go back to their hometown to take a walk, take a look can heal a lot.
But we all forgot that it was just a small stay, and before we had time to feel the real village, we hurried back to the city, so our hometown has always been a beautiful place in our memory.
In fact, for retired old people, it is okay to go back to the countryside to live, but if you want to retire in the countryside, you still have to think twice, after all, the difference between reality and phenomenon is still quite large.
If you like the convenient living conditions in the city, then you may not be able to adapt to the backwardness of the countryside.
If there are still brothers and sisters in my hometown, I think it is a good thing not to go back to the village to care for the elderly, take my example as an example, there are too many interests involved, even if you don't care, it doesn't necessarily mean that people don't care.
If there are no relatives in my hometown, then I think it is even more unnecessary to go back, and I may not be able to get along happily with my old neighbors, and my former playmates may not be able to go with you again, and some of them may no longer be there.
But in the end, whether to choose to go back to the village for the elderly still depends on the real situation and specific conditions of the two people, I just give some suggestions, and the final decision is still to be decided by the two people.
Finally, it is good to have a homeland complex, but don't have too deep obsessions, it's okay to go back and take a look on weekdays and soothe your soul, but if you go back to the countryside to care for the elderly, you still have to think twice before you act, and then make a decision based on your actual situation!
(The story comes from life, but it is higher than life, this article aims to remind elderly users to avoid the problems that may be encountered in their later years through fictional plots, and face life with peace and joy)