On the stage of life, marriage is a beautiful and complicated journey. Everyone longs to have a happy marriage, but in real life, we often get lost and confused.
But don't worry too much, I'm going to expose the most essential truths about marriage in three sentences, and these truths will help you no matter who you marry.
1. Marriage is a bumpy road to growing together
When we walk into the palace of marriage hand in hand, our hearts are full of beautiful expectations for the future. But the road to marriage is not always smooth, but full of challenges and bumps.
In this process, we need to understand that marriage is a journey for two people to grow together.
In marriage, we will encounter various problems and difficulties, which can stem from the trivial things of life or from the differences in the personalities of both parties.
However, it is these questions and difficulties that provide us with the opportunity to get to know each other and learn to support and understand each other.
For example, when one partner is under pressure at work, the other party needs to be understanding and supportive; When one partner experiences setbacks in life, the other needs to be encouraged and comforted.
Only with mutual support and understanding can we overcome difficulties together and move towards a happy future.
Psychologists have found that the way couples communicate has an important impact on the quality of their marriage.
For example, positive communication styles, such as listening, understanding, and respecting, can enhance the relationship between couples and increase marital satisfaction.
Negative communication styles, such as accusations, complaints, and criticisms, can damage the relationship between couples and lead to problems in the marriage.
Therefore, in marriage, we need to learn to communicate with each other in a positive way of communication, expressing our feelings and needs, while also respecting each other's feelings and needs.
Only in this way can we build a good relationship as husband and wife and run a happy marriage together.
In conclusion, marriage is a journey that requires both partners to work together.
In this journey, we need to understand, support, and tolerate each other, and manage and protect our marriage with love.
Only in this way can we reap happiness and growth in our marriage.
2. Marriage is an interweaving of responsibilities and emotions
Marriage is never a simple thing, it is not only an emotional exchange, but also a responsibility.
In marriage, we shoulder many family responsibilities, such as financial responsibilities and children's education responsibilities. These responsibilities are not for one party and need to be shared by both of us.
Just like in the TV series "Parents' Love", Jiang Defu and An Jie faced various difficulties and challenges together in their marriage.
Jiang Defu assumed the responsibility of the family's economic pillar and provided a stable life for his family;
Anjie educates her children with heart and creates a good environment for them to grow up. They support each other and share the responsibilities of the family.
However, while taking responsibility, we can't ignore the exchange of emotions.
Marriage is based on love, and love needs to be managed and maintained with our hearts.
In marriage, we need to learn to express our emotions and we need to learn to listen to each other's hearts.
When we feel tired, we need to be brave enough to express our feelings to the other person and let them understand that we need care and support.
When the other party is confused, we should listen to the other person's voice and give the other party sincere advice and help.
Only in the interweaving of responsibility and emotion can we truly understand the true meaning of marriage and build a happy family.
Just like Jiang Defu and An Jie, they have understood and tolerated each other in the long years, and have woven a beautiful married life together with responsibility and emotion.
Only in this way can we go further on the road of marriage and harvest more happiness and warmth.
3. Marriage is the sublimation of friendship
When we enter middle age, the years pass quietly and inadvertently, we will find that the passion in marriage is indeed gradually receding like a tide, and a tacit understanding and understanding that goes deep into the soul slowly breeds in the bottom of our hearts.
In the process, our relationship gradually changed from a passionate couple to a close friend, and then to a stronger and long-lasting marriage.
The formation of this friendship actually contains profound psychological knowledge.
In marriage, it is essential that we trust each other and share experiences.
According to social psychology, trust is the cornerstone of relationships, and it makes us feel at ease and reliable in the other person's world.
At the same time, shared experiences are the bonds that bind us together and allow us to work together in the face of life's challenges.
In marriage, we need to learn to respect each other's choices, which reflects the recognition of individual autonomy.
Everyone has their own unique interests and pursuits, and when our interests and hobbies change, respect each other's choices and give each other enough space and freedom to make each other feel understood and supported.
When we have different ideas, learning to understand each other's ideas and actively seek a mutually acceptable common solution can enhance communication and emotional exchange.
As the famous psychologist Fromm said: "Love is not a simple emotion, but an ability, an ability to respect, understand and care for others." ”
Only on the basis of this mutual respect and understanding can our friendship continue to sublimate, and we can find true happiness and fulfillment in our marriage and walk through the second half of life together.
Marriage is a beautiful and complex journey that requires wisdom and patience to manage and maintain. In this process, we need to learn to understand the essence of marriage, learn to respect each other's choices, and learn to take on the responsibilities of the family. Only with mutual understanding and support can we overcome difficulties together and move towards a happy future.