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My name is Li Fang, I am 34 years old, and I have just ended my marriage to my ex-husband Wang Tao. The marriage lasted for almost six years, but in the end, for various reasons, we chose to break up peacefully. Wang Tao and I both lived our own lives after the divorce, and although we were a little reluctant, we still let go of each other to pursue happiness.
However, a month after the divorce, I found out I was pregnant. I was blown away by the news. Because some time before the divorce, Wang Tao and I tried to have children, but there was no result. Unexpectedly, after we separated, I unexpectedly became pregnant. It left me in deep confusion, and I knew that this event would complicate my life.
The news of the pregnancy left me with a lot of realities. First of all, the father of this child is obviously Wang Tao, because we were still close before the divorce. However, we are no longer husband and wife, and this child will have a huge impact on both of our lives.
The news of my pregnancy shocked my family. When my mother found out, she repeatedly advised me to go to Wang Tao to see if I could talk to him again. I understood my mother's concerns, but it complicated my feelings. The problem between Wang Tao and me is no longer something that can be solved in a sentence or two. I have to face reality.
On the other hand, my friends also gave me a lot of different advice. Some friends felt that I should tell Wang Tao and let him take responsibility; Some of my friends think that I should make my own decisions and not rely on anyone. I appreciate their concern, but it makes it harder for me to decide what to do.
I thought about it for a long time and finally decided to call Wang Tao. Even though our marriage is over, this child is where his rights and responsibilities lie. I knew that this call would change our relationship and perhaps bring more contradictions and challenges, but I had to make a decision sooner rather than later.
I dialed Wang Tao's phone, and after the phone rang a few times, he answered.
"Hello?" Wang Tao's voice rang on the other end of the phone, and he seemed to be a little confused, because we hadn't been in touch for a while.
"Wang Tao, it's me." I was a little nervous, but I tried to stay calm, "I have something to talk to you about. ”
"Okay, you can say it." Wang Tao's tone was flat, but I knew he was waiting for my next step.
"I'm pregnant." I said the news straight because I didn't want to stall.
"What?" Wang Tao's voice was full of surprise and confusion, "What did you say?" ”
"I was pregnant, and I found out a month later." I repeated, hoping that he would understand what I was saying.
Wang Tao was silent for a few seconds before responding: "This ...... It was a real surprise. Are you sure? ”
"Yes, I'm pretty sure." I answer in the affirmative.
"And what are you going to do?" Wang Tao was obviously frightened by the news, and there was a hint of uneasiness in his tone.
"I haven't decided yet." I honestly replied, "So I need to discuss this with you." After all, it's your child. ”
Wang Tao fell silent again, as if he was thinking about how to respond.
"We need to meet and talk." Wang Tao finally decided, "This issue is too important to be solved over the phone." ”
"Okay, I agree." I say.
So, we agreed on a time and place to meet. This will be the beginning of the problem we face, and whatever the future holds, I know that I have to make a decision as early as possible, both for myself and for the sake of this child.
The agreed meeting time was fast in coming. Wang Tao and I met at a café, which is where we used to frequent. Sitting here makes me feel a little trance-like, as if I have stepped back in time.
Wang Tao arrived before me, and when he saw me enter the door, he nodded at me. I walked over to the table across from him and sat down, and he ordered me a cup of coffee. The brief silence between us made the atmosphere a little awkward. In the end, it was Wang Tao who took the lead in breaking the silence.
"Are you sure this child is mine?" Wang Tao asked bluntly, with a hint of doubt in his eyes.
"Of course it's yours." I replied firmly, "Don't you remember before the divorce that we were still together?" ”
Wang Tao nodded: "Yes, I remember." But I still think it was too sudden, too unexpected. After all, we haven't been successful before. ”
"I was surprised, too." I said frankly, "But now it's happened, and we have to face it." ”
"And what are your plans?" Wang Tao asked, his tone a little nervous.
"I want you to take responsibility." I bluntly said, "This kid is ours, and you should be involved no matter what happens." ”
Wang Tao thought for a while, and then said, "I understand, I will do my best." What are you going to do? ”
"I'm still thinking about whether or not to have this baby." "It wasn't an easy decision, but I had to think about it." ”
Wang Tao was obviously shocked by this answer, and his face showed a trace of uneasiness: "Are you thinking about killing this child?" ”
"I have to think about all the possibilities." I replied, "After all, our marriage is over, and it's not very likely that we'll start a family again." ”
Wang Tao was silent for a while, and then said: "You are right, our marriage has ended, but this child is innocent. If you decide to have this child, I will definitely be responsible. ”
"And how are you going to be responsible?" I asked.
Wang Tao hesitated: "I will pay child support, and I will try my best to play the role of a father in this child's life." ”
"It's basic for kids." I nodded, "But this matter needs to be clear, and we have to discuss together how to take responsibility for this child's future." ”
Wang Tao thought for a while, and then said, "You're right, we need to talk about this issue well. If you decide to have this child, we can discuss the specific arrangements. ”
"Okay, then let's talk about the specific arrangements." I continued, "First of all, I want you to go with me to the hospital for further tests to make sure the baby is healthy. ”
"Of course, I will." Wang Tao replied, "When are we going to the hospital?" ”
"I've made an appointment with the doctor, can you come and pick me up tomorrow afternoon?" I asked.
"Yes, I'll be on time." Wang Tao agreed.
We went on to discuss some specific arrangements regarding pregnancy and the future of the child. Wang Tao said that he would try his best to cooperate to ensure that everything went smoothly. I also sensed that although he was uneasy about this matter, he was still willing to take responsibility. It gave me a little bit of peace of mind.
After the meeting, Wang Tao and I said goodbye to each other and left the café. This conversation made me feel that things are complicated, but at least we are trying our best to solve them. I will focus on ensuring the health of the fetus while continuing to think about future decisions. No matter what happens, I know I have to go on with determination.
The next day, Wang Tao came to my house on time to pick me up and take me to the hospital. He looked a little tired, but he managed to keep his composure. I got into his car, and we didn't talk much all the way, thinking about our own thoughts. When we arrived at the hospital, we walked into the doctor's office.
The doctor, an experienced obstetrician and gynaecologist, examined my body and performed an ultrasound. The results of the examination showed that the fetus was in good health and the doctor told us that everything was fine.
"Congratulations, the baby is healthy." The doctor smiled and said to us, "You'll need to keep up regular checkups for the next few months." ”
After Wang Tao heard the news, the tension on his face relaxed a little. He nodded, "Thank you, doctor, we'll take care of it." ”
After coming out of the hospital, we walked to the car. I felt the need to continue to discuss the matter of the child with Wang Tao.
"Wang Tao, now that the test results are out, the child is very healthy, what should we do next?" I asked.
"We can go for regular check-ups as recommended by our doctors." Wang Tao replied, "As for the rest, I think we need to talk about it." ”
"Yes." I nodded, "We need to make a plan for the future of our children. ”
Wang Tao pondered for a while, and then said: "First of all, we must discuss the custody of the child. I think we should co-parent this child, what do you think? ”
"I agree." I replied, "But we need to be clear about the specific arrangements, such as who the child will stay with, the time of visitation, and so on." ”
"Yes, these need to be agreed." Wang Tao nodded, "The child can mainly live with you, and I can come to visit him regularly or pick him up for a few days." ”
"It's probably the best arrangement for the kids." I agreed, "so that he can get the love of his parents." ”
"As for the financial aspect, I will pay you a certain amount of child support every month." Wang Tao continued, "How much do you think is appropriate? ”
I thought about it for a moment and came up with a reasonable amount. After hearing this, Wang Tao said that it was acceptable. His attitude made me feel that he was still serious about it.
"We also need to make sure that our children's education and medical care are properly arranged." I added.
"Yes, these are important." Wang Tao agreed, "We can continue to discuss in this regard. ”
Over the next few days, Wang Tao and I continued to discuss the future of our children. We agreed on custody, visitation, alimony, and a few other important things. Although we had some disagreements during this period, in the end we were both willing to make concessions for the sake of our children.
During this time, I felt Wang Tao's care and sense of responsibility for my children, which made me feel a little more at ease about my future arrangements. I know it's not going to be easy, but at least we're trying to create a relatively stable environment for our children.
During this time, I also gradually began to adjust to the changes that came with pregnancy. My family and friends have given me a lot of support and care, which makes me feel warm. Although the arrival of this child was unexpected, I gradually accepted this fact and began to prepare for a new life.
As the pregnancy progressed, I began to feel more physical changes and discomfort. Wang Tao was very supportive during this time, he would often call me to ask about my condition, and he would take me for check-ups on weekends. Our communication gradually became a little bit more and more and it made me feel that he cared.
One day, my mother came to see me. She brought a lot of supplements and supplements that I needed during pregnancy, and she also prepared some health supplements for me. I am very grateful for her concern.
"Fangfang, how is your body now? Kid everything is okay? The mother sat on the couch and asked with concern.
"I'm in good health, and my children are healthy." I smiled and replied, "The doctor said everything was fine." ”
"That's good." Mother nodded, "You have to pay more attention to rest, don't be too tired." ”
"I know, Mom." I smiled and said, "Thank you for your concern." ”
The mother then asked, "How is Wang Tao doing recently?" Is he responsible for your business? ”
"He's doing pretty well." I honestly replied, "He will pay child support on time and will come with me for a check-up." ”
"That's good." The expression on the mother's face softened a little, "As long as he is responsible for you and the child." ”
"yes, I think he's doing his best, too." I nodded.
The mother continued, "But be careful not to rely too much on him. After all, you are already divorced, and you still have to think about how to arrange this child in the future. ”
"I understand, Mom." I responded, "I'll keep a clear head and make sure that my child's interests are protected." ”
My mother patted my hand gently, "I'm sure you'll take care of it." No matter what happens, your family will have your back. ”
I looked at my mother gratefully, "Thank you, Mom." ”
That night, I lay in bed, thinking about what was next. My life is changing dramatically, not just because of pregnancy, but because of a new life on the horizon. I know the road will be challenging, but I have to make the best decisions for my child's future.
Soon after, Wang Tao came to see me again. He brought some fruit and nutritional supplements, as well as some supplies that the children might need in the future.
"You see, I went to the mall to buy these on purpose." Wang Tao smiled and took out the things and showed them to me, "Although it is still a little early, I think I have to prepare in advance." ”
"Thank you, Wang Tao." I thanked him for his kindness, "You're really attentive. ”
"It's our kids, after all." "I hope he can get off to a good start." ”
"I want to, too." I nodded, "Although we are no longer husband and wife, I hope we can be good parents." ”
Wang Tao was silent for a while, and then said, "This is the most important thing for children. No matter what happens, I'll do my best. ”
"Me too." I smiled in response.
During this time, Wang Tao and I gradually found a balance. Although our relationship is no longer husband and wife, we both want to create a good environment for our children to grow up. This tacit understanding gives me a little peace of mind about the future arrangement.
In the next few months, I continued to have regular prenatal check-ups, and Wang Tao would accompany me. He acted very caring and tried his best to ensure the health of me and my child. This gave me some new understanding of him, and also gave me some new expectations for the future arrangement.
As the days passed, my belly grew bigger. In the process, my mood also fluctuated with the changes in my body. Wang Tao has maintained a balance during this time, he will not interfere too much in my life, but will also help me in times of need. This attitude of his, I feel at ease.
One day, Wang Tao and I made an appointment to meet at a café. He sat across from me with a smile on his face.
"Fangfang, you seem to be in good spirits." Wang Tao said with a smile.
"Thank you, and so do you." I responded, "How's your work lately?" ”
"It's okay, busy but fulfilling." Wang Tao replied, "But what I care about the most is you and the child." ”
"Thank you for your concern." I nodded, "The child is quite active in the belly and moves around every day. ”
"It's normal, it means he's healthy." Wang Tao smiled and said, "Do you need any help?" You're welcome. ”
"It's fine so far." I thought for a moment and replied, "But I may have to ask you to take care of it in the future." ”
"It's a must." Wang Tao said seriously, "You have to tell me your needs at any time." ”
"Okay." I smiled and agreed.
Then, we started to discuss the child's upcoming birth plan. I was surprised that Wang Tao offered to participate in the birth process of the child, but I was also pleased that he was willing to take on this responsibility.
"I want to be by your side when you're in labor." "This way I can see our children for the first time." ”
"It's a great idea." I nodded, "I also hope you can accompany me in that moment." ”
"Then we'll agree." Wang Tao said with a smile, "When the due date is approaching, we will make detailed arrangements." ”
"Okay." I responded, "Thank you for your willingness to be with me." ”
As my due date approached, my emotions grew nervous. My mother has always been there for me to take care of me, and my friends have expressed their concern for me. It made me feel warm and supportive, but it was also a little worried.
One night, I suddenly felt labor pain in my abdomen. I realized that I might be giving birth, so I immediately called Wang Tao's number.
"Wang Tao, I seem to be giving birth!" I said nervously.
"What? I'll be right here! Wang Tao replied anxiously on the other end of the phone, "Don't panic first, I'll be at your house right away!" ”
After Wang Tao arrived at my house, we immediately rushed to the hospital. In the hospital, I felt Wang Tao's nervousness and concern. He was always there for me, constantly comforting and encouraging me. I felt his anticipation of this child and his concern for me.
In the delivery room of the hospital, I went through a difficult labor process. But in the end, I gave birth to a healthy baby boy. When I heard my child's cry, I couldn't help but cry in my eyes.
Wang Tao also shed tears of excitement. He was holding our child with a big smile on his face.
"Our kids are coming." Wang Tao said softly, "He's so cute." ”
I smiled at the father and son, and felt an indescribable happiness in my heart.
During the few days in the hospital, Wang Tao and I took care of our children together. He behaved very competently, even better than I could have imagined. This makes me feel relieved by his attitude and sense of responsibility.
For a period of time after the birth of the child, Wang Tao still maintained an attitude of actively participating in the child's life. He often came to visit us, brought what the children needed, and also volunteered to take on the task of night feeding and diaper changing. It made me feel his love and care for this child.
My life has also become busier because of the arrival of this child, but at the same time it is full of joy and hope. I know that although there will still be challenges ahead, I am confident in the cooperation between myself and Wang Tao, and in our shared concern for our children. No matter what the future holds, I will strive to provide a loving and caring family environment for my children.
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