In our lives, there are actually many people who speak without going through the brain. These people said in front that their brains were in the back, and if they continued to communicate, they would not grow "rivers of blood".
A person with a faster mouth than a brain will be considered a knife-mouthed tofu heart in an intimate relationship, but in the eyes of strangers, it is a "time bomb" that cannot be approached.
To be a person, we must understand that in the face of different people, we must say different things, some topics can be discussed, and some topics must not be discussed. Calling people in wheelchairs to play football, inviting people with incomplete tones to show their singing voices, whether they have malicious intent or not, will make others want to lose their temper.
You can't get along too closely with people, and many times many people just because they feel that they have a good relationship, so they will chat with friends and become rivals.
Smart people know how to communicate with others and don't say things that are out of place in inappropriate situations.
As human beings, we need to understand that no matter how good the relationship is, don't talk about the following 4 topics, it's really stupid.
Don't talk about other people's gossip
Noble people don't gossip about others behind their backs. Gossiping itself is a sign of a lack of upbringing.
Talking about other people's gossip behind their backs, although it can quickly shorten the psychological distance between the chatters, it will also leave the impression of poor character on the other party.
As the saying goes, "Sickness comes from the mouth, and misfortune comes from the mouth." "A lot of the troubles in life are actually caused by not being able to keep your mouth shut.
When chatting with others, no matter how good the relationship is, try not to talk about other people's privacy and gossip.
Talking about other people's gossip is an irresponsible behavior, and when an individual talks about other people's privacy, he or she unknowingly reveals his or her own opinions and emotions.
More often than not, gossip damages the person's reputation. Whether it's someone who is labeled negatively or someone who gives someone a bad review, their reputation will be tarnished for a long time.
It's really stupid to talk about other people's gossip behind your back.
Don't gossip about friends
In the complex interpersonal interactions, everyone encounters various temptations and challenges.
Sharing is an innate human habit, especially between friends, who often release stress through small talk.
However, when chatting, it is inevitable to talk about other people's private topics, and some seemingly innocuous gossip can actually hide mysteries, which can not only make people fall into endless disputes about right and wrong, but can also lead to the breakdown of friendships.
Not gossiping about friends is the wisdom of a person. After all, everyone looks at things from a different perspective, and their inner feelings will not be the same. Some people will exaggerate the facts and take them out of context, while others will be calm and rational and will not easily reveal secrets.
People should learn to improve their self-cultivation, not to easily participate in gossip, let alone spread gossip, but when interacting with others, they will not speak impulsively, especially gossip about friends, it is best not to say.
As we all know, words are like water that has been spilled, and once a person starts gossiping about his friends, he will leave an unreliable impression on others.
Don't talk about the glory of the past
As the saying goes: "A good man doesn't mention the courage of the year." "In the hustle and bustle of the world, many people like to talk about the glory of the past and try to prove that they are really good. But this is not a sign of wisdom, and if you are not careful, you will be labeled as "bragging".
Talking too much about past glories in a crowd can easily turn people off, after all, everyone has their own brilliance, and if a person keeps showing off his success, it will undoubtedly make others feel stressed and uneasy.
Be a man who understands that yesterday's sun can't dry today's clothes. Let the past pass, whether it is brilliant or confused, it is useless to talk about it.
The true wisdom of a person is to know how to be silent at the right time. Don't show off your achievements too much, and prove your worth with your actions.
As the old saying goes, "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." "Only when people are down-to-earth can they convince the people around them.
No matter how good the relationship is, not talking about the glory of the past is respect for others. Only when people know how to let go of the glory of the past can they free up their hands to win the beauty of the present.
Don't talk about future plans
As the old saying goes: "Profit can be shared but not alone, and seeking can be few, but not many." "Tell us that a person who enjoys exclusive benefits is easy to attract resentment, and a person who loves to share strategies too much often causes trouble.
The path of life is full of uncertainties, and it is best to bury your plans and future in your heart, and it is not a good thing to love to share too much.
Relationships are complex and delicate, and individuals can inadvertently disrupt their plans if they often tell others about them.
You shouldn't discuss your future plans with too many people, after all, everyone has a different position.
If you want to take control of your own life, you need to have strong beliefs, not to waver easily, and you don't need to listen to other people's opinions frequently.
The story of "Pony Crossing the River" tells us a profound truth, we must believe in ourselves at all times, and only by trying it ourselves can we understand whether we can do it or not.
No matter how good the relationship is with people, don't talk about future plans, the more you expose, the greater the obstacles.