My mother's next-door neighbor, Aunt Sun, is the person I think can toss the most and let go of a good life, she seems to have a grudge against herself, and she always abuses herself when she has nothing to do.
The result of self-abuse is: now she is almost 70 years old and has become a "single mother" of her grandson, cooking for her son and children all day, tired to death, but from time to time her son yells: "She is self-inflicted!"
My mom and I agree with her son. To be honest, with today's situation, she really blames herself.
Eight years ago, after the death of her wife, she lived with her only son, Cuong.
At that time, Ah Qiang had a girlfriend who had been talking for three years, had a good run-in, and was about to get married.
Originally, we all thought it was a sure love, but we didn't expect a situation to arise when we were talking about marriage.
The girl not only brought a surprise to Aunt Sun, but also a fright!
The surprise is: the girl doesn't want the bride price or the like, the wedding photos are not taken, the wedding is not a problem, the marriage certificate is a formality, and then I am willing to live with Aunt Sun after marriage and take on housework.
To her horror, the girl wanted to marry her grandfather to her aunt's family. and Ah Qiang together to give her grandfather a pension.
The girl's parents died unexpectedly when she was a child, and her grandfather worked hard to raise her to adulthood.
Aunt Sun blew up the temple all at once! The son he raised, why should he provide for others to die?
At that time, my mother also persuaded her: This girl is a rare filial child, this is called affection and righteousness! Just rush her quality, and she will definitely be filial to you in the future! "
"If you marry a daughter-in-law again, there is no one who can't get three or five hundred thousand! And I'm not sure she'll support you in old age! "
But Aunt Sun couldn't listen to it, saying that there were too many things involved in providing for the elderly, and she resolutely couldn't let her son be the big wrongdoer. One cry, two troubles, and three hangings, in the end, Ah Qiang broke up with his girlfriend who had been talking for two years!
After being depressed for a while, Ah Qiang was introduced to an indigenous girl in Beijing.
At that time, Aunt Sun and my mother said: "The girl's parents both run companies, and the girl is also an only child, so her parents want to find a more reliable boy to marry, experience experience, and eventually inherit the family business."
The girl's parents have also met Cuong and are very satisfied. At that time, they said that if Ah Qiang wanted to marry their daughter, they didn't have to care about anything, and they had to give Aunt Sun 500,000 alone, thanking Aunt Sun for cultivating such an excellent uncle. "
When Aunt Sun told my mother, she was so happy! It's a bit of a mother's daughter's price.
But this object turned yellow in the end!
Businessmen are heavy on profits, and it is impossible to make loss-making transactions.
There is a special requirement behind these preferential conditions: the first surname of the child born must be with their family, whether it is a boy or a girl. And people want to write it into the agreement, the kind of fairness.
When Aunt Sun heard this, she almost fainted. Resolutely disagree, her attitude makes Ah Qiang angry.
Ah Qiang said of her: "There are too many things, no matter how you change your surname, your blood is also the inheritance of your family." With this girl, he could have struggled for many years less! "
But in the end, Ah Qiang made a compromise again, because Aunt Sun was the same old thing, crying, making trouble and hanging herself!
I have to say that in today's society, there are more men and fewer women, as long as the boys are excellent, there are still girls to choose.
Soon, the third object, Xiao Zhang, who later really became Aunt Sun's daughter-in-law, appeared.
It fully meets Aunt Sun's standards for a future daughter-in-law.
Both parents are complete, there is a generous retirement guarantee, the family conditions are good, two sisters, can do housework, no special needs, the key is to love Aunt Sun and Wu, since the formal establishment of a relationship with Ah Qiang, that thing has not been bought for Aunt Sun.
Brand windbreakers, high-end silk scarves, all kinds of exquisite gifts, and from time to time I drive my aunt out to visit the scenery, the kind that is closer than my own daughter.
Aunt Sun was so happy, and when she told my mother about this daughter-in-law, her face was full of pride.
But even with such a foundation, Aunt Sun was dissatisfied with Xiao Zhang not long after they got married.
Xiao Zhang loves to spend money too much! I didn't have a total of life, I didn't take off a lot of clothes, I usually feel that the food at home is not delicious, and I can order a takeaway for 180 yuan.
Although she doesn't have to pay for Aunt Sun, and she also knows that she doesn't just spend her son's money, Xiao Zhang's own salary of more than 8,000 yuan a month, as well as her parents' subsidies, but Aunt Sun just feels uncomfortable.
Xiao Zhang said in words: "The current economic situation is not good, we have to pay attention to saving money." "But Xiao Zhang is listening to the left ear and the right ear is rising, what should be the flower.
Aunt Sun was a little angry, and what made Aunt Sun even more angry was that she told Cuong that Cuong didn't take this seriously at all.
"She said she was managing too much, and she didn't spend her money. Let Aunt Sun put her eyes on herself, and don't keep staring at their little couple. "
Aunt Sun began to complain to my mother again, saying that Ah Qiang married a daughter-in-law and forgot her mother, and she didn't understand her old mother's hard work at all.
After Xiao Zhang gave birth to a grandson for Aunt Sun, Aunt Sun had a bigger opinion of Xiao Zhang.
said to my mother Xiao Zhang: "After giving birth to a child, I don't pay attention to my appearance, perm and dye my hair, wear heavy makeup, wear short skirts, and I don't look like a mother." "
began to babble in front of Xiao Zhang all day long, after Xiao Zhang lived with her after marriage, he was already dissatisfied with her more and more strong control, plus the honeymoon period with Ah Qiang and Ah Qiang's relationship had also faded, and her mother-in-law treated herself like this again, she didn't let it go, and the needle tip was on Mai Mang!
The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law had a small quarrel for three days and a big quarrel for five days, and the war continued, which made Ah Qiang very annoying, and the children were also quite affected.
In the end, Ah Qiang and Xiao Zhang divorced again! In Ah Qiang's words: If you don't divorce Xiao Zhang, he will die soon!
This mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not good at stubble! He's caught in the middle, it's so hard to do!
After the divorce, it took a lot of effort for Aunt Sun to get back the custody of her grandson.
My mother thought that Aunt Sun should be satisfied now, right? But Aunt Sun's complaints continued, saying that she had become a "single mother", she was old, her back hurt and her legs were sore, and it was laborious to take care of the children, and she couldn't do without it. My mom was speechless.
Thinking about what she has done over the years, I feel that she is actually looking for abuse by herself, which has affected Ah Qiang and the child.
Ah Qiang, now he has completely lost confidence in marriage! I want to live single forever!
And because the child is not accompanied by his own mother, he is becoming more and more withdrawn!
The relationship between father and son and Aunt Sun is very strained.
Aunt Sun is like Xianglin's sister-in-law every day, and she always loves to cry with my mother about her misfortune, complaining about this and that.
But the initiator is actually herself!
She is too controlling and calculating! Run all the way to the dark!