Life is like a long journey, and we are always moving forward in a cycle of making mistakes, forgiving, making mistakes again, and forgiving again. However, we often find that those who forgive themselves easily often find it difficult to gain forgiveness from others. And those who often blame themselves are more likely to be tolerated and forgiven by others.
Self-forgiveness is a form of self-soothing, but excessive self-forgiveness can make people blind and selfish. When we always make excuses for our mistakes, or even ignore the feelings and needs of others, we lose the opportunity to be forgiven by others. Because our actions have made others feel disrespected and unvalued, they are naturally unwilling to give us tolerance and understanding.
On the contrary, those who often blame themselves are often able to win the understanding and respect of others. Because they know their shortcomings and mistakes, and are willing to take responsibility and put in the effort for them. Their humility and sincerity allow others to see their growth and progress, and it is easier to give them support and help.
However, we humans are always very strange, we don't know ourselves, but we always like to interfere in other people's affairs. We are always trying to change the thoughts and behaviors of others, but we ignore our own shortcomings and mistakes. This kind of interference not only makes us miserable, but also bothers and disgusts others.
We often suffer because we are chasing the wrong things. We always want to be recognized and praised by others, but we neglect to grow and improve ourselves. We always want to control the behavior and thoughts of others, but we forget the importance of respecting and understanding others.
Life is a spiritual practice, and we need to constantly reflect and grow. We need to learn to forgive ourselves, but also learn to take responsibility and put in the effort. We need to respect our own choices, but also the feelings of others. Only in this way can we truly understand ourselves and truly earn the respect and understanding of others.
In this complex world, we need to learn to maintain a calm heart. Don't always interfere in other people's affairs, and don't always pursue those illusory things. Let's put more time and energy into self-improvement and growth, let us become better people, and let the world be a better place because of our existence.