The word "cold" is misunderstood by too many women. Most women regard "coldness" as "indifference" and think that being "cold" to their lover is pushing their lover away.
In fact, the real meaning of the word "cold" is to clearly recognize what you are really interested in, to love what you are really passionate about, rather than to force yourself to do things you don't like.
A woman who is capable of doing this will always be able to adjust her mood in time when faced with challenges, maintain a positive attitude, and achieve consistency both inside and out.
In the relationship between men and women, those women who seem "cold" often become the confusion and unique charm in the hearts of men.
Many female friends do not work with their lovers' indifference, instead finding that men don't seem to care about their feelings and are still addicted to their own world. What is the reason for this phenomenon?
After sorting out, Ximei summed up several points that need to be paid attention to, in response to the "cold" problem reported by some female friends. If you can avoid the following 3 points, men will naturally be tied up.
The cold time is too long
Many women, when faced with a feud between two people, quickly enter a state of cold war and decide to perpetuate it in order to teach men a lesson. This practice may cause unnecessary pain and sadness. We should be more open and communicative to avoid the negative effects of the Cold War.
In fact, this is unnecessary. For a man who truly loves you, a day of your coldness is enough to make him miserable. There is no need to deliberately create distance and indifference, and the care and love for each other should be trusted and expressed with confidence.
If your apathy lasts too long, it can be a disaster for men. As you snub him again and again, he will gradually come to believe that you no longer love him as much as you did at the beginning. It is important to show warmth and love on a regular basis for maintaining a healthy relationship.
If such thoughts sprout and take root in his heart, the estrangement between them will naturally form, and the love between you will no longer be as easy and pleasant as before.
For men who have long since stopped loving you, you can't evoke their emotional swings even if you never come back.
I recommend that you try to keep your cool to less than one day.
A whole day is enough time for you to calmly discuss relationship issues, and you will not be frustrated and disappointed by the love of mutual heart.
vexatious coldness
Men can accept women's justified and cold emotions, but they can't accept women's freewheeling and vexatious little tempers.
For men, everything has its root cause. If he feels that you are not enthusiastic enough about him, then he will naturally reflect on his behavior and improve it. Such an idea is a rational, mature attitude that helps to enhance mutual affection.
If you are always making a man feel alienated for no reason, then he will feel tired. He doesn't understand how to make you happy or what he's doing wrong. So, let's face the problem with openness, lightheartedness, and formality.
Your alienation has caused him to constantly reflect on himself, but he can't find an answer.
It needs to be understood that this pain will continue to surround him, and eventually he will not be able to bear the pressure of this feeling, so he can only leave.
When I was cold to him, I always waited for his apology
When two people have a conflict, many women will hold their breath in their hearts and will never be able to forgive each other.
When the man apologizes solemnly and exhausts his words, the woman will instantly eliminate all conflicts, treat the other person as a treasure again, and truly rebuild the relationship.
When they have conflicts again, they are still immersed in their emotions, expecting men to coax them. This behavior is immature and requires reflection and change.
This vicious circle is very unfavorable and leads to a conflict between two people that can never be resolved. Even though they've been together for years, they can't be a truly perfect match. In any case, we should learn to properly handle conflicts and differences in order to build a harmonious relationship.
We need to understand that good love is based on the joint efforts of two people. When your partner is trying to make you happy, you also need to reflect on whether you are not tolerant enough. In love, we should understand and support each other.
When two people enter the Cold War period, it is very immature not to do nothing, just make the other person angry, and wait for the male to show weakness and apologize. As adults, we should communicate in a timely manner and find ways to save the relationship instead of being dominated by emotions. In this way, we can build healthy love relationships.
Smart women will make good use of this time to calm themselves down, think rationally about the reasons for the conflict with their lover, and finally find a suitable solution to mend their relationship.
Men are obsessed with women, and most of the time women who know how to measure themselves. Only with such a woman can men feel relaxed and comfortable. This is because such a woman knows how to make a man emotionally satisfied.
Summary:
For men, the more cold a woman is, the more attractive she is. This is an inevitable phenomenon in the relationship between men and women, because it is always the nature of men to challenge and pursue.
This passage illustrates the attitude that women should have when it comes to love. They know very well what they want love to be, and they will not compromise because of the exhaustion of their lover, let alone restrain themselves in an inappropriate relationship. This attitude is worth learning and learning from.
They are adept at using "indifference" to constantly adjust themselves, so that men can intuitively see what kind of love they need, and can find out the effort they put in to mend this love.
Many women do not know how to properly manage their apathy, causing their relationships to become increasingly distant from their lovers. This requires some process of learning and self-exploration to reach a state of balance.
Ximei suggests that you should avoid the following three minefields in the cold period: too long cold period, unreasonable coldness, and being angry with yourself and waiting for your lover to give in during the cold period.
Avoid the following three misunderstandings, and you will definitely be able to see the rational solutions brought to you by "coldness", as well as the return and sincerity of lovers.