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Skiing together, celebrating the New Year, playing ball, picking up their son from school, buying parent-child shoes, and traveling as a family...... In the more than 100 days since the successful confession, Jiang Jiaru's mother Qiao Shoufen has been sharing her daily life after the reunion on the short video platform.
On January 19, 2024, when the police brought Jiang Jiaru in front of him, Qiao Shoufen hugged him, buried his head in his son's shoulder and cried for a long time. In the early morning of December 3, 2006, 8-month-old Jiang Jiaru was snatched from his home in Tai'an, Shandong, and 27-year-old Qiao Shoufen became a mother looking for relatives and embarked on a long road to find her son.
After 17 years of hard searching, Qiao Shoufen finally realized her wish and became an ordinary mother again. On May 12, she will usher in the first Mother's Day after the reunion: "The most thing is happiness." ”
The first thing I do when I wake up every day is to open the door of my son's room
"At sunset, my father took his children to play ball, and I was a cheerleader, and this was my life." On the short video platform, Qiao Shoufen shared the bits and pieces after the reunion.
In the ten-second video of walking on the street with his son Jiang Jiaru, Qiao Shoufen showed her signature smile, and her happiness also overflowed the screen.
Some people said that she couldn't extricate herself on the way to show her children, and some netizens commented: "Since finding the child, this mother has become younger and more beautiful." ”
"My complexion is really better than before, my mood is much better, and then I don't have heart disease." Qiao Shoufen admitted frankly that after the loss of her son, she was anxious and anxious, and also suffered from migraines, insomnia and nightmares all year round.
Until now, Qiao Shoufen's insomnia has not been cured.
Sometimes, she would have nightmares, which were more or less the same: her son had been snatched away again, and she struggled desperately in the dream, waking up crying and feeling like she was collapsed in bed.
Qiao Shoufen hurriedly pushed open his son's door, and sat next to his son before he felt that this was really a dream. Sometimes, Qiao Shoufen would also tell his son that he had a nightmare, and Jiang Jiaru responded with a smile: "No, it's not all good now." ”
Before and after recognizing his relatives, Qiao Shoufen compared photos
"It hurts. In the past, I was thinking and worrying, afraid that my children would not have a good time outside. Now, it's more about wanting to protect, more nervous. Qiao Shoufen is entangled and contradictory, "Because I really lost it, I cherish it even more now that I have come back." ”
"In fact, this kind of shadow in my heart is difficult to erase." Now, the first thing Qiao Shoufen does when he wakes up every day is to open his son's door, "After all, the child has just come back for less than 4 months, and this process also needs to be slow." I believe it will get better and better in the future. ”
When my son came back from school, he asked, "Where's my mother?" ”
April 21 is Jiang Jiaru's 18th birthday. On his personal account, Jiang Jiaru made his first public appearance after recognizing his relatives, and he was still a little nervous in the recorded video, saying, "In the coming days, I will repay my parents well."
On her first birthday after returning to the family, Qiao Shoufen invited relatives and friends, held a coming-of-age ceremony, and prepared 18 birthday gifts for her son in advance to make up for 17 years of regret.
Qiao Shoufen at his son Jiang Jiaru's birthday banquet
Can the lost youth be replaced?
In the first days of living together, Jiang Jiaru's face, which was often smiling, suddenly froze.
"I don't think I should laugh, I'm not qualified to laugh." This is Jiang Jiaru's answer.
This kind of answer made Qiao Shoufen feel "like a knife stabbed in the heart".
Qiao Shoufen decided to make up for his son's birthday from the age of one
"If the child is not abducted and forcibly taken away by others, (in our family) at least the child can be given a stable childhood." Qiao Shoufen said that from 8 months to 17 years old, Jiang Jiaru's youth was living in panic, "He was restricted by others, and he was bound by others to grow up and educate." ”
Just as Qiao Shoufen can't forget the 17 years of losing his son, Jiang Jiaru has also experienced an unusual youth.
Seeing that his brother was so cheerful and his brother was so naughty, Jiang Jiaru often asked, "Why me?" Why is this the case? ”
Qiao Shoufen comforted while trying to find a way to double the lack of love for her son.
When Jiang Jiaru (second from left) first returned, the family made a collective public appearance
"He (the son) can't just forget it all at once. So he's boring, he's having a hard time. During this time, Qiao Shoufen has been looking for professional psychological counseling for his son, "If the child doesn't vent it, it will be difficult for him to instill some positive energy." ”
Nowadays, Jiang Jiaru will ask when he opens the door every day when he comes home from school: "Where is my mother?" Where did my mom go? ”
"Sometimes when I'm not feeling well, my son will be kind enough to pour me water. Seeing that I had a headache, he didn't let the third child quarrel with me, and let me go to sleep with peace of mind. Talking about the changes in his son, Qiao Shoufen said frankly that he was very content, "I feel his love and his return, and I am very content for me, which is very good." ”
After his son returned, Qiao Shoufen had a lot more smiles on her face
The sons had been planning gifts for their mothers early on
When looking for her son, Qiao Shoufen spent at least 300 days a year running away. After recognizing her relatives, her life trajectory is almost all around her family.
Qiao Shoufen said that the biggest difference after recognizing his relatives is that he is "down-to-earth", "I think he has adapted to this family and officially returned." ”
Recognize relatives at the scene
After recognizing his relatives, Jiang Jiaru felt that his mother had not been easy these years, he went home for the New Year, and accompanied his parents to Jiangxi and other places to thank the police and Du Xiaohua and other caring people who helped his mother find relatives. He also followed his mother to Henan to hold a recognition ceremony and returned to his hometown in Shandong to worship his grandfather.
After recognizing her mother, Qiao Shoufen, picked up her son to and from school, cooked a homely meal for the children, watched her husband play ball with the children, and smiled from ear to ear when she received gifts from her son.
"In the past, I would think about where to find the child, and my mind was full of who gave me clues and how I could verify them. Now, all of these things are gone. Today, Qiao Shoufen worries about what her children eat and what they need every day.
Recognize relatives at the scene
In more than 20 days, Jiang Jiaru will take the college entrance examination, Qiao Shoufen can feel his son's nervousness, "Too much anxiety is useless, it's a big deal to take the exam next year if you don't take the exam well." ”
Although he hoped that his son could stay by his side and go to college, Qiao Shoufen still handed over the decision to his son, "In the end, it is up to him to decide where he goes to school." ”
"No matter how hard and tired I am outside, I will always be their backer and their shoulder." Approaching Mother's Day, Qiao Shoufen's biggest wish is that "the child is safe and sound", "It took us 17 years to get you back, this is the best gift God has given me, and I will definitely cherish it for a lifetime." ”
"Jiaru is very kind, he learned that there were so many children who had lost them, and everyone was obliged to help this group, and he was also a beneficiary, so he wanted to do something." At Qiao Shoufen's suggestion, Jiang Jiaru made a batch of car stickers with her own red envelopes and sent them to volunteer Ma Shuifeng, who will also insist on helping other families looking for relatives. "If there is a need in the future, we will do our best to do this."
On May 12, Qiao Shoufen will usher in the first Mother's Day after the reunion, and the sons have planned to give their mothers gifts early.
"I've never thought about Mother's Day over the years, and I'm not in the mood to celebrate Mother's Day, I was an incomplete mom before." For Qiao Shoufen, this year is different, "I can celebrate my own Mother's Day this year. ”
Jiang Jiaru (first from left) and his brother