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(Note: This article is purely fictional, if you have similar experiences, it is purely coincidental, please read it sensibly)
My name is Sun Jing, I am 50 years old this year, we have three children in our family, and I am the youngest one.
My eldest brother's name is Sun Min, he is a child who was scolded by his parents for being unfilial, and he is also the eldest brother who cares for me, and my second brother and I have been taken care of by my eldest brother since I can remember.
My second brother's name is Sun Jun, he is only one year older than me, but his parents have been accustomed to him since he was a child, so he has developed his arrogant and domineering character, and we have not dealt with each other since I was a child, but every time I have a conflict with my second brother, I am the one who is taught by my parents in the end.
Some of my parents' practices pierced me like a thorn in my heart, and I couldn't help but reminisce about the past.
The eldest brother has studied since he was a child, and he can be perfect no matter what he does, and the people in the village say that the eldest brother will definitely glorify his ancestors in the future, but the parents don't care if the eldest brother has the talent to learn, they only care about their younger son.
Just because the eldest brother is honest, my parents let the eldest brother who had just finished elementary school go home to farm, leaving the opportunity to go to school to the second brother, originally I didn't have the opportunity to go to school, but I would make trouble, and the eldest brother also spoiled me, so I also got the opportunity to go to school.
After the eldest brother dropped out of school, he helped out at home, and when the farm was not working, he went to the city to do odd jobs to support the family.
In the years when we went to school, it can be said that the eldest brother provided for us, and the happy life that my second brother and I can have today is due to the eldest brother's dedication to us.
It wasn't until my second brother and I finished working in college that my eldest brother got married and separated, he was already 26 years old at that time, and in the countryside at that time, my eldest brother's peers were already fathers of two children, but my eldest brother had just gotten married at that time.
Moreover, in order to take care of his parents after marriage, the eldest brother deliberately chose a house built near his home, and his parents did not give the eldest brother a penny, and the money for the eldest brother to build the house was all saved by the eldest brother working outside the home over the years, except for us to go to school.
The sister-in-law is a virtuous woman, especially filial piety to her father-in-law and mother-in-law, and the eldest brother and sister-in-law have not basically blushed after marriage.
When the people in the village mentioned the eldest brother, no one did not sigh that the eldest brother was really filial, but the parents did not think so.
They feel that as the eldest in the family, they should be like this, and as their children, they should be filial to them, and they feel that the eldest brother is not good enough, and he has no interest at all, and he has always been by his parents' side.
But the parents don't want to think about it, the eldest brother has done all the work in the family over the years, and the eldest brother usually takes them to treat a small problem.
The elderly people in the village are envious of their parents for having such filial children, who not only help the family solve many problems, but also support their younger siblings to study and reduce the burden on the family.
Everyone thinks that in my parents' hearts, the eldest brother is the filial son, but my parents always say that the eldest brother is not in front of their old buddy, and also say that only the second brother is filial to them, and even my daughter is better than the eldest brother.
But the second brother just came back to give his parents a red envelope during the New Year's holidays, and sometimes he didn't even come back, but just asked someone to send some money to his parents.
And every time I go home, I will bring all kinds of supplements to my parents, and they just take a look at the daily necessities and put them in the corner.
Every time my parents get a red envelope from my second brother, I will show off when I meet someone.
said that their second son was filial to them, and he never mentioned the various things I gave them, nor did he say that the eldest brother had been by their side for so many years and cared for them.
When the eldest brother got married, his parents didn't give a penny to the eldest brother, but when the second brother got married, they took out the money that they could buy a house in the city and make a down payment to the second brother for marriage like the god of wealth.
This money includes the salary of my parents after retirement in the past few years, but more of it is the money sent back to the family by the eldest brother who worked outside before he got married, I feel that it is not worth it for the eldest brother, the eldest brother has paid so much for this family, and the second brother of the parents does not remember the good of the eldest brother at all.
If the second brother is usually very filial to his parents, it will be forgotten, and I, as a child, will admit it, but the second brother has not even paid alimony, and his parents sometimes have to rely on the eldest brother for relief.
A few years ago, my mother fell down while walking without paying attention, and my father was too old to take care of my mother.
My second brother and I discussed getting some money for my eldest brother to take care of my mother, or our brother and I could pay some money every month to send my parents to a nursing home.
The second brother always changed the topic when he heard my suggestions, and I understood that the second brother didn't want to give out the money, nor did he want to give out the strength, and he also wanted a good reputation for filial piety.
Although my parents are not very good to me on weekdays, they are my parents after all, so I still sent some money to my eldest brother to make him work harder, take care of my mother, and told my eldest brother that if he can't do it, he will find a nurse to take care of her.
My eldest brother didn't take any money from me, but just told me that he would take care of my mother.
In the end, the eldest brother and sister-in-law took turns to take care of their mother, and the mother would throw her face at her brother and sister-in-law if she had a slight disappointment, or she would scold and scold, and there was also the father's unreasonable trouble, and these brothers and sisters-in-law endured it with a good temper.
But the mother still has to get her sister-in-law to quit the job she had so hard found in the city and concentrate on taking care of her.
This time, she provoked her sister-in-law, she said that she would not take care of her mother at all, and even preferred to spend money to hire a nurse for her mother rather than take care of her anymore, and she didn't even want to enter her parents' house.
After her mother found out, not only did she not reflect, but she also scolded her brother and sister-in-law for having no conscience.
She also doesn't want to think about who takes care of her and her father on weekdays, although the eldest brother as the eldest son will not care about the partiality of his parents, but after a long time, the sister-in-law can also see the partiality of her parents-in-law, and it is normal to have grievances.
The eldest brother still took care of his mother as always, but his mother's health was just right, and his father was sick again, and the eldest brother still couldn't go out to work anymore, but fortunately, in the national policy reform in those years, farming in his hometown also had a lot of income.
The eldest brother has time to take care of his parents and does not affect his income, but because his parents need to take care of him, the eldest brother and sister-in-law have not dared to go far away after many years of marriage, and they have not traveled with their children together, and the sister-in-law has also complained to the eldest brother.
Fortunately, the sister-in-law is empathetic and doesn't care too much about these problems.
The eldest brother and sister-in-law have been taking care of their parents since they got married, and they have been taking care of them for decades, my two nephews are going to college and have not traveled with their parents, and the nephews wanted their parents to travel with them before going to college, but the eldest brother couldn't let go of his parents, so he could only go to the sister-in-law and nephews.
And all these years have passed, my father has passed away, and I have been sick in bed since my father was sick, during which the second brother came back to see my father several times, and each time he left some money and left.
I wanted to take my father into his home to take care of him, but my eldest brother rejected my offer on the grounds that I still had work to do and I needed to rest.
There is no way, I can only transfer more money to my eldest brother and sister-in-law to make my eldest brother and sister-in-law work harder.
After the death of his father, only his mother was left in the family, and the eldest brother was worried that there would be any accidents in his mother's life alone, so he discussed with his sister-in-law to take his mother to the house to take care of him.
Although the sister-in-law had conflicts with her mother, she was sensible after all, so she agreed to her husband's request.
But the mother is not at ease at the eldest brother's house, and there will be a quarrel between the two mothers-in-law and daughter-in-law in three days, and she always says that the eldest brother favors the daughter-in-law, which is too unfilial.
But the eldest brother is also extremely aggrieved, taking care of his parents for so many years, and giving his father a pension to the end, but it is unfilial to his mother's mouth.
Last year, the second brother, who hadn't been home to see his mother for several years, came back to see his mother and bought a pair of warm shoes for his mother, saying that he was afraid that his mother would freeze his feet and specially bought them for his mother.
I also saw those shoes when I got home, they were a miscellaneous brand, no more than 100 yuan.
My sister-in-law also told me: "Since the second brother gave my mother these shoes, my mother wears them every day and tells her sisters that the second child is the most filial to her and knows what she needs, unlike me and your eldest brother who don't know how to buy her a few clothes." ”
I know that my sister-in-law is angry in my heart, and my sister-in-law is afraid that my mother will freeze, so I haven't even bought clothes for my mother for three or nine days before winter, how can I not buy her clothes as my mother said.
In fact, everyone in the village knows that the most filial to our parents in our family is the eldest brother, but because of the partiality of the parents, they always say that the eldest brother is not filial outside, which leads some people to think that the eldest brother is really unfilial.
But it will be found out over time that this is not the case, and some people have persuaded their parents, but their parents have been biased for decades, how can they admit it.
will only say that the second brother is good, the eldest brother is not good, many people have passed these words to the ears of the eldest brother over the years, but the eldest brother has never cared, has always taken care of his parents, and sent them to the end of their lives.
Parents will feel that he is the most filial because of his partiality and a little bit of something sent to his favorite child.
Although my parents are partial to the second brother, I have also tried my best to reverse this concept of my mother over the years, and my eldest brother and sister-in-law have also paid a lot for it.
But after all, it is a deep-rooted concept for so many years, and it is basically impossible to get my mother to change it all at once, but my mother also promised us that she will try to ensure fairness and not take sides in the future.