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The title page opens lightly, and a picture jumps onto the page: she, radiant and charming.
Mayer Musk, standing in the fashion industry as a supermodel, was crowned the "Queen of South African Beauty Pageants" at the age of 21, and the years have not diminished his elegance, and he is still shining on the stage at the age of 72.
Crowned with a double master's degree in nutrition, with an honorary doctorate, and half a century of experience in nutrition counseling, her professional achievements are remarkable.
As the mother of three remarkable children, Elon Musk - "Iron Man of Silicon Valley", the driving force behind Tesla and SpaceX, is also from her knees.
However, behind the glamorous is an unknown ups and downs.
The marriage broke down, he raised his three sons alone, his career was full of twists and turns, and his life trajectory had several ups and downs.
Fortunately, time is the best witness.
Meyer, who crossed the threshold of seventies, wrote his own gorgeous chapter with indomitable attitude and lived the appearance of his dreams.
The book "Life by Me" is her mental journey and the crystallization of wisdom.
Reading between the lines, she candidly shares the courage and wisdom of rebirth in the face of adversity, showing a life journey that shines from the ashes.
The core message is loud and clear:
The road of life is inevitably bumpy, with countless falls, countless journeys through the night, but please believe that the power of recovery will increase day by day, and the light will eventually come.
Mayer Musk, using his own example, vividly illustrates this creed.
If you lose your ego in your marriage, you should stop it in time
Meyer's childhood was steeped in the warmth of family, with courteous parents and a sense of harmony between siblings.
However, this woman, who grew up under the nourishment of love, encountered nine years of ups and downs on the journey of marriage. A sentence circulating on Zhihu seems to foreshadow all this: "The happiness and unhappiness of marriage have actually been seen before marriage." ”
Meyer's unhappy marriage is actually a seed of misfortune planted before marriage.
At the age of twenty, Meyer broke up because he couldn't tolerate his boyfriend's frequent infidelity.
However, a year later, the ex-boyfriend returned with a wedding ring, pleaded to get back together and proposed.
Meyer firmly refused, but the other party did not stop there, and instead weaved lies to her parents, pretending that Meyer had agreed to the marriage.
At that time, the lack of communication became a breeding ground for misunderstanding, and Meyer's father, without having time to verify it, mistakenly believed the news and, out of good intentions, decided to hold Meyer's wedding on the same day as his sister's wedding, in order to increase the double happiness.
Meyer, who works far away, was filled with panic and indignation when he received this sudden marriage notice.
Faced with this situation, her inner lack of confidence and concerns about her family's reputation made her reluctant to choose to retreat.
As the preparations for the wedding progressed, the fiancé's true nature became more and more revealed: irritable, irritable, and disrespectful to Meyer.
Although Meyer had the urge to flee in his heart, he was hindered by a lack of courage and thought that the time had passed and it was difficult to turn back.
If Meyer had been able to turn back the clock and resolutely reveal the truth when her father sent a telegram, or bravely express her refusal at a critical moment in the preparations for the wedding, the trajectory of her life might have been a different story, and she would have been spared the haze of this painful marriage.
But there are no assumptions in reality. As a result, Meyer embarked on a nightmarish married life that lasted for nine years.
Before the sweetness of the honeymoon faded, Meyer suffered her first domestic violence, which became a dark prelude to her married life.
After that, violence and invective were like nightmares, day and night.
During the first three years of her marriage, Meyer gave birth to three children in succession, and even on the eve of childbirth, she was forced to do heavy physical labor.
The short break between contractions is not caring, but the scolding of "laziness" and "vulnerability".
When her father died, Meyer was left alone and without a single comfort, and her husband's mind hovered only over the amount of the inheritance.
As the years passed, he further restricted Meyer's contact with his family and even deprived his children of the right to see their maternal grandparents.
When the family was full of guests, he did not hesitate to publicly humiliate Meyer, cruelty, even throwing punches and kicks despite the presence of the children.
In the cage of this marriage, love has become an absolute sound, leaving only endless violence, manipulation and abuse. Meyer's soul sank into the abyss of despair several times.
However, the dawn of awakening has finally arrived. She once naively thought that patience could be exchanged for the other party's transformation, but the cold water of reality made her sober: the only one who can change her fate is herself.
After a long period of struggle and reflection, she resolutely decided that in order to protect herself and her children, even if she had nothing, she must take the brave step of divorce and free herself from this sea of suffering.
"If your life is filled with fear of the other person, you have to plan an escape and find a way out," she said resolutely.
When a relationship can only bring you endless pain, you must do everything in your power to escape from that haze as soon as possible.
Hardship is not a desperate situation, and true despair is the loss of the courage to escape. Only by having the courage to break free from the shackles and dare to stop losses in time can a new chapter of life unfold. ”
Find yourself and redefine your life
After the divorce, Meyer regained his freedom, but faced a severe test in life: financial tension and raising three children alone.
But she embraced the challenge as a starting point for her own quest, saying, "I have to be myself eventually." ”
So, she embarks on a journey to explore a new life, looking forward to a turning point.
While working hard to raise his family and children, Meyer climbed to the academic peak, pursued a graduate degree in nutrition, and gradually began to develop a nutrition consulting business, quietly illuminating the way forward.
Meyer's body is filled with a family-inherited passion for adventure – optimism, tenacity, the courage to face challenges head-on, and the embrace of every opportunity to start from scratch.
At the age of 41, she moved her family to Canada for the future of her children, a migration of dreams and sacrifices.
In the country of maple leaves, she not only successfully obtained the qualification of registered dietitian, but also obtained a research position at the University of Toronto.
Four years later, at the age of 45, Meyer challenged himself again and moved to San Francisco, USA, to start a new chapter.
In order to establish a solid foundation in the United States, at the age of 48, she relied on unremitting self-study and hard work, and finally obtained the qualification of registered dietitian in the United States, writing another chapter of bravely chasing her dreams.
Meyer's life is a history of migration across borders and cities. Across three countries and nine cities, every move is a restart to a new life, and every challenge – from financial hardship to career barriers to the rebuilding of her social circle – is a test of her resilience.
In the face of the hardships of blocked loans, shattered real estate dreams, and competing with the younger generation, Meyer never flinched, but chose to face the challenges head-on and overcome them one by one.
"There is no shortcut to life, career, and even health,"
"Perseverance, optimism, and sincerity to others are our weapons," she says. ”
Her love for life and unremitting pursuit of her career made her grasp the rudder of her destiny and become the master of her own life.
This tenacity and positivity are deeply imprinted in the hearts of her three children. Elon Musk publicly praised: "Mother is my hero, and every achievement I have has come from her teachings and influence." ”
Meyer admits that although he has not been able to give his children constant companionship and has never given up self-growth because of parenting, this has just cultivated the children's character and habit of self-reliance and self-reliance.
The results speak for themselves: Elon Musk, founder of Tesla and SpaceX; Kimball, the builder of the restaurant chain's empire; Tosca, on the other hand, has a career in Hollywood as an independent producer and director.
The true essence of education may be reflected in this - using one's own life as a model, living bravely and truthfully, and showing children how to become the protagonist of their own story.
This is not only a word of words, but also an example of teaching, and it has the most profound impact on children.
Live your own life, it's never too late to start
In the journey of life, we often feel anxious about aging, afraid of aging, and worried about whether there is still time to pursue our dreams. However, Meyer's life trajectory proves that it's never too late to start as long as you have a dream.
As her three children matured and spread their wings, she was filled with emotion: "I finally had my own free time. ”
The passage of time has not made her sink into the past, nor has it stopped her from moving forward.
On the contrary, she sees it as the starting point of a new life, embracing life with enthusiasm and undying curiosity, showing extraordinary vitality.
At the age of 60, Meyer put on his coat again and stepped onto the dazzling stage of the haute couture show.
At the age of sixty-nine, her charismatic figure dominated the four billboards in Times Square in the United States, shining brightly.
She completed her autobiography "Life by Me", which quickly became a global phenomenon, translated into more than 20 languages, and inspired readers around the world.
At the age of 72, she has become a regular on the red carpet, frequently appearing on the covers of top fashion magazines such as "VOGUE" and "Bazaar".
Today, although she is seventy-five years old, and her silver hair has witnessed the passage of time, her eyes are still sharp, full of energy, and radiant.
In addition to continuing to work in nutrition consulting, she enjoys exploring the unknown, being at the forefront of fashion, and enjoying the joy of global lectures and modeling.
The key to Meyer's graceful approach to aging is that she makes each decade of her life more exciting than the last.
Time is silent, but it is the fairest, it carves traces on everyone's face, but it also witnesses the stories of those who are brave and brave in their dreams.
As Meyer firmly believes: true wonderfulness is never limited by age.
The journey of being lost to the control of one's own life is a journey of awakening that is both obstructive and distant.
Meyer, undoubtedly a model of luck. In the exploration of the trough of life, she not only found the source power to rebuild herself, but also realized the gorgeous transformation of the essence of life - a real transformation.
The core lies in her father's teachings that are deeply rooted in her heart: "The harder you work, the luckier you are." It became an inextinguishable beacon for her to move forward.
The stage of life is magnificent, no one is immune to the baptism of wind and rain, and the scars have become the mark of growth.
However, as time passes, we will eventually realize the true meaning: the rift in life is where the light shines.
Under the illumination of that ray of light, the scars of the past are not concealed, but bloom with a unique light, witnessing resilience and rebirth.
What's even more convincing is that those dazzling and charismatic characters are all indestructible and fearless braves.
It is this courage and tenacity that allows them to live the life they dream of and achieve extraordinary lives.