There was once a professor who conducted an experiment: he asked his students to write down the ten people closest to him on the blackboard.
As the game progressed, the smiles on the students' faces gradually disappeared and their expressions became solemn. At the end, the blackboard in front of the students was almost all "parents", "children" and "spouses".
The professor gives one final order, leaving behind the person you think is the most important person in your life.
At this time, many students cried.
At the professor's urging, there was only one "person" left on the blackboard – most of whom left their spouses.
See, in most people's minds, spouses are still more important.
As the classic saying goes: parents will eventually grow old, children will grow up, and only spouses are the ones who spend the most time with us.
It's right for a woman to walk into marriage with respect, and it's not wrong to treat her husband wholeheartedly, but if you want to have a good life, then take care of your husband and don't take your husband too seriously.
1. If you take your husband too seriously, you will be overly dependent, which will make you lose yourself.
When you are in love, do you still think that the man's sentence "I raise you" is very sweet?
If the scene changes, this sentence appears many years after marriage, your face is not there, and you are out of touch with society, he arrogantly says "I am raising you".
At this time, do you feel heartache? Do you regret it?
When you are overly dependent on your husband, it will make you lose your whole self, and even make you lose the capital of life.
In "Disappearing Her", Li Muzi is a rich daughter, she is beautiful, rich and free, but unfortunately, her parents died in a car accident.
However, the shortcomings and regrets in Li Muzi's life have become the "merits" that sparkle in the eyes of the "scumbag" He Fei.
Life is most afraid of deception or not, why not carefully understand Li Muzi's past, flattering everywhere, and using the drawbridge effect to successfully enter Li Muzi's heart.
Li Muzi is a simple-minded girl, after she decided to be with He Fei, she trusted He Fei wholeheartedly and handed herself over to him. Even He Fei used various excuses to ask for money for her, she never doubted it.
However, it is such a girl who loves each other wholeheartedly, but she is imprisoned at the bottom of the sea by the person she cares about the most, and ends up with one corpse and two lives.
Bi Shumin said: "We must learn to rely on our lovers closely and not confusely." ”
We have to be "me" first, and then "we".
In life, we and our lovers should be close and not dependent, and only in this way can we live a happy and safe life.
2. If you take your husband too seriously, you will pay too much, which will make you lose your life.
Seeing this, do you want to say that after all, things like "Disappearing Her" are very rare, and they are an example, and many couples still have to work together in order to be in the same boat.
I admit this sentence, because true heroism is that we should still love life after seeing it for what it is.
But I also want to say a word to female friends: "In the process of giving, don't hold back, otherwise you will lose yourself and miss happiness." ”
Some time ago, there was a picture on the Internet that went viral: a girl was carrying a wedding dress, the hem of her skirt was full of mud, and the girl walked deeper into the mountains with a smile on her face and without hesitation.
I don't know what kind of excellent boy can make this girl so brave.
For the story behind the picture, we don't go into it, just look at the picture, there is no car to pick up relatives, no decent dowry, just a group of people walking in the mud and the messy scene.
The message that netizens liked the most was: You only need a love brain to walk into the mountains, but your children need the strongest brain to get out of the mountains.
I'm not trying to make the girls not believe in love, but to keep a few points for yourself when you give, so that you can live and be able to make a living; Think about the future and give your children some hope.
When you are in love, you are "full of love and water", and when you go to life, you find that life is so hard.
Don't "press" your life on anyone, and don't blindly waste your youth on poverty alleviation.
Tu Lei once said: "There is no rich or poor in love, but marriage must depend on family background." ”
"Love" is a very beautiful and sincere emotion in the world, but we must be cool-headed and restrained when we encounter love.
If at the beginning and beginning of your heartbeat, you put the other party first and plunge into it desperately, then in this relationship, you will most likely lose.
3. When a woman reaches middle age, she should cherish herself even more.
Loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance, all unexpected encounters are on the way, and we ourselves are the first responsible person.
Only when you begin to love and cherish yourself can you gain the attention and respect of others.
Of course, "love" here does not only refer to the material conditions such as eating and drinking well, but to make one's spirit happy and comfortable.
Asir was originally a big figure in the media world, but he retired and all the glory was gone.
But Asir didn't stop working or loving himself just because he was retired. She happened to use this free time in her life to organize her past into a memoir "Twilight Will End".
At this time, Asir was 89 years old, and even suffered from loss of appetite, decreased eyesight, and sluggish thinking.
In Asir's heart, the only way to live the life you like every day is to go to the senior club, dance at the senior club, ask the old sisters for tea, and gossip with old colleagues...... This is the true love of yourself.
The elderly Asir can still say, "If you can grow up well, you can grow old well." In this way, it shows that she is positive and optimistic.
There is no rehearsal and restart in life, we must cherish every moment and every second, love ourselves well, be brave to do what we like, and be ourselves seriously.
Just imagine, if you yourself feel that you are not worthy, and you have a low sense of deity to the outside world, then you still expect others to cherish you?
How is this possible?
Only if you start to care and cherish yourself, the whole world will value you.
When you start to value yourself, you will find that the whole world has changed. People are making way for your world, everyone will be sympathetic to your difficulties, and your family will rush to take care of you.
When you reach middle age, if you want to live a happy life and everything goes well, you must start by cherishing yourself.
Epilogue.
Mr. Yang Jiang said: "No matter what the relationship, the love is consumed, and the fate comes to an end." Blame yourself for your mistakes and exit politely. ”
The years are caressing, and women are middle-aged, don't let the love be as deep as the sea, and revolve around her husband alone.
When people reach middle age, we must learn to maintain ourselves and maintain emotional independence, so that the relationship between husband and wife will be healthier and we can have a hardcore marriage.
The world is vast, let you fly freely, the stage of the heart, and the solo dance can also be bright. Don't let the years quietly consume yourself, shine brightly, and make life more brilliant.
If you want to have a smooth marriage and a worry-free life, you must maintain the necessary sense of boundaries, dare to return yourself to yourself, and have the courage to return others to others.
Only in this way can you truly live your own life on the premise of a happy marriage, so as to make your life more colorful and your marriage happier.
At the end of the article, I hope that each of us can be comfortable between family and work, and achieve a win-win situation between self-growth and marriage management. can not only take care of yourself, but also take care of your husband, live a good life easily, and go to the peak of life.