Heard such a version of the story of "The Wolf Comes".
A boy was on his way out of school when he was besieged by two wolves.
The boy was forced into a dead end, and at the critical moment, the boy shouted in a hurry: "Monkey, monkey!" ”
Unexpectedly, the shouting attracted a lot of villagers who came to see the excitement.
Seeing a lot of people running suddenly, the wolf fled in a hurry, and the boy was able to relieve himself.
Think about it, if the boy shouted "the wolf is coming", what would the result be?
It seems that there is no way out, but in a different direction, it ushered in life.
Life is the same, great joy and great sorrow may only be a corner.
Turn the mindset and good luck will come
There is such a little story.
Professor Fogg did not sleep well and was often woken up by the air conditioner that was turned on in the middle of the night.
At first, every time he was woken up, he was upset and then couldn't sleep for a long time.
Later, he began to think that instead of complaining irritably every time he was woken up, he could devise a habit of relaxing his face and neck muscles when he heard the air conditioner turn off.
Gradually, he found that the noise was less annoying.
He uses the sound of the air conditioner as a prompt sound, and when he is woken up by the sound, he relaxes himself, and often falls asleep in the process of relaxing.
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This is known as the "pearl habit": turning what would otherwise be annoying into a nice hint.
William Ward once said, "Pessimists complain about the wind, optimists wait for the wind to change, and realistics adjust the direction of the wind." ”
People who are discouraged when they encounter something will always be anxious in advance and always feel that everything is not going well.
People with an optimistic attitude will find sweetness in the bitterness, and can always find a turning point and turn the situation around.
Many times, the direction of fate is in the palm of your mind.
When faced with life's problems, if you look at them in a negative light, you will magnify their difficulty and make the situation worse and worse.
When you can look at everything in a positive way, your life is already quietly changing.
In our lives, we will always encounter situations that seem terrible and cannot be solved.
Since there is no way to change the thing itself, it is better to readjust your mentality to break the deadlock and turn defeat into victory.
Every turning point in life happens in the process of changing your mindset.
When feelings turn a corner, happiness is right
There is a saying that is very true: "All 'resentment' arises because of the expectation of the other party." ”
Therefore, if you want to have a long-lasting relationship, the first thing you need to do is to lower your expectations for your partner.
My best friend often complains to me, and when it comes to her husband, she is not satisfied.
said that her husband's work did not improve, and there was no promotion and no salary increase;
When it comes to life, she complains that her husband works too much overtime and doesn't even have a serious weekend.
After listening to her words, I couldn't help but sigh: "You are so happy, before you take on the responsibility of raising a baby, your husband has worked so hard for your life." ”
My best friend listened and was moved.
Since then, she has rarely been heard complaining.
Later, when I chatted with her again, I felt her determination to run a small family with her husband.
I once heard a saying: "To get married is to live with a person's shortcomings." ”
If you always look at each other with a magnifying glass and hold on to each other's shortcomings, then this kind of marriage will not go far to a large extent.
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But in the face of wrong feelings, we must also know how to turn and stop losses in time.
Plato said, "If you are not happy, if you are unhappy, then let it go." The most regrettable thing in life is to easily give up what should not be given up, and stubbornly insist on what should not be insisted on. ”
In the TV series "Do You Know If You Should Be Green, Fat, Red and Thin", Minglan Youyang's sister Shulan married the down-and-out talent of the Sun family.
Sun Xiucai not only used the Sheng family's dowry to spend all day and wine outside, but also beat and scolded Shulan at every turn, saying that she couldn't give birth to children.
Her mother-in-law was also arrogant to her and treated her like a subordinate.
Thanks to Minglan for coming up with a way to make Sun Xiucai reconcile with Shulan.
is like what Minglan said in the play: "Once you are in the poor alley, you should turn around in time, you can't wait for a lifetime to spend and regret it too late."
The longer you get stuck in the wrong relationship, the harder it will be to extricate yourself.
Treat the wrong feelings and people, learn to turn around, instead of consuming yourself, it is better to let go and find your own world again.
When the mind turns a corner, things go smoothly
In the vast ocean, there is a blue-gray mackerel, which is long and flattened, and has delicious meat, which is loved by fishermen.
It's actually very easy to catch it, just put a rough-eyed fishing net into the water, and the fisherman will definitely swim into the net if he sees the mackerel's "strong personality and does not bend".
Once the mackerel with a strong personality strays into the fishing net, it will only rush forward more vigorously because it does not know how to turn, but it will be firmly trapped by the mesh and eventually become a meal on the plate.
Like mackerel, many people are trapped for life as they walk towards the alleys.
"Thinking Breakthrough" wrote: "There are only people who have not figured it out, and there is no road that cannot be taken." ”
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Life is the same, there are no hurdles that cannot be overcome, only bends that cannot be turned.
My friend, Brother Chun, his original dream was to become a painter.
In order to pursue his dream, he soaked in a painting class since he was a child, and also went abroad for further study after college.
After more than 10 years of hard work, his work has received some recognition, but it is still far from his dream of becoming a painter.
Later, he took a different path, combining painting with clothing and became a designer.
With his love for painting and his perception of beauty, his clothes were deeply loved by the public, and he gradually made a name for himself in the industry.
The host once interviewed Mr. Zhou Youguang, a famous linguist in mainland China and the "father of Chinese pinyin".
When asked about the secret of the longevity of centenarians, Mr. Zhou said, "If you want to think about everything, you have to look forward." ”
The host asked again: "What if I can't open it?" ”
Mr. Zhou laughed and said, "Don't you want to open when you turn a corner!" ”
The ancients said: "If you are poor, you will change, and if you change, you will be able to do it for a long time." ”
When the road doesn't work, take a different path; When you can't figure it out, try a different way of thinking; When you are depressed, think about it.
Turn a corner, change directions, and everything will come to an end.
Zhou Guoping once said: "Life is originally flawed, and you need to compromise in life." Refusing to compromise and not getting along with yourself is actually a kind of foolishness and ignorance of life. ”
If a person encounters a hurdle that he can't overcome, and still holds the obsession of "not hitting the south wall and not looking back", then in the end he can only hit his head and bleed.
In Shi Tiesheng's "Me and the Altar of Earth", he wrote "a wall".
Rocking in a wheelchair, no matter where he went, he was blocked by the wall.
When he was angry, he hit the wall, and the wall did not move, but he touched a nose of ash.
It was only in the end that he gradually understood: "Man is to accept the limitations of destiny, to accept incompleteness, to accept suffering, to accept the existence of walls." ”
In fact, you and I have such walls in our life journeys.
In the face of life's difficulties, stop blindly competing.
The road of life does not come to the end in a straight line, and there are often nine twists and eighteen bends along the way.
When we have the wisdom to turn around, we can see a different kind of scenery.
Take a turn in your life and become a better version of yourself.
Author: Yin Worm, I love the quiet power of this text, and I also love the deafening power of this text.