Praise others, praise others for details, and make people moved.
A lot of people will say, "You're so beautiful today." ”
"Isn't that nonsense? I'm not that beautiful. ”
He didn't know how to answer this question.
If yes: your lipstick color goes well with your makeup. Teach me what's going on?
This way, he will not only feel that you are complimenting him, but will also be happy to tell you what he thinks. Kill two birds with one stone.
Only people who truly regard you as a confidant will complain about you. When your friend complains about you, don't lecture him.
He doesn't understand that? You still need to say that? He just needs someone to talk to.
Like what......
Friend: "My boss is an idiot who makes us work overtime every day, and I am not satisfied." ”
Reason with friends: I think you need to reflect on yourself, your salary is proportional to your ability, have you ever thought about your situation?
Participant: Well, really, your boss is a freak, so stingy that he has to do so much work! Sure enough, he's a profiteer, and he only oppresses others.
The reason why a friend will complain to you is because he believes in you, and he wants you to be sure of his mood and understand him, rather than reasoning with him when he is upset.
Of course, you can also give advice to a friend at this time.
But if he doesn't want to listen to you, he won't give it lightly. When he is calm, you can talk to him about your opinion, and you can tell what happened to him from your own experience, so that he has a sense of being there.
The easiest way to get closer to others is to talk about what others are proud of.
The premise of this method is that the person concerned has been fully prepared and has known in advance what is more satisfactory and successful to others.
Here's an example: You meet a customer for the first time and learn that he loves writing and has published a best-selling book.
Mr. Zhao has long admired his name. You once published a best-selling book, and I read it and found that your work was great, especially one of them, which benefited me a lot. No wonder books sell so well. He made a lot of sense, he made a lot of sense.
The other party will also be very happy to hear this, and as a result, the strangeness between you will quickly disappear.
When others complain, don't blindly follow the trend, and don't praise people too much.
Like what......
Auntie: Oh, I've gained weight, so I envy your body shape.
Theory 1: Older people tend to get fatter. (Very hateful)
Explanation 2: Don't say that, you're not fat at all, you're still thin. (The other person thinks you are sarcastic about her)
"Auntie, don't say that, you have to work and take care of your family, you are already very good now. "If I were you, I wouldn't be able to get to the point where you are. (In that case, my aunt will be pleased.) ）