Text: Marriage counselor Liu Jie
The saddest thing in a relationship is that you love a man with all your heart, but he has another woman in his heart.
No matter who you are, I don't want to be in such a situation. For a woman, this is not only a deception, a blow, but also a deep hurt.
So, how can we see the true heart of a man, how can we judge whether he has carried you behind your back and put other women in his heart?
In fact, many times, we can not believe what men say.
But men's "body" language often inadvertently reveals a lot of information and becomes a "barometer" of emotions.
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The subtleties of body language
Body language, in many cases, is more authentic and judgmental than the words that come out of the mouth.
It's like a silent speech, capable of conveying emotional messages that are more real and deeper than words.
For example, when a man has only you in his heart, his body will naturally approach you, his eyes will follow you, and his movements will be synchronized with you.
Even, when you are together, his standing and sitting postures will unconsciously imitate you.
This consistency of body language is precisely the most tacit expression of people who truly love each other.
But if a man has other women in his heart, his body language will quietly change.
For example, he will appear absent-minded in front of you, his eyes will wander, and even when you touch him, his body will become stiff or subconsciously dodge.
These subtle physical reactions are all signals of emotional changes.
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Body language and inner emotion
"The eyes are the windows to the soul", the same applies to body language.
Men's physical reactions are often more reflective of their true inner thoughts and emotional states.
For example, a man who is with you frequently looks at his phone, replies to messages, or appears distracted when you bring up a topic.
Well, his body language is telling you that he may have other women in mind.
Because, when a man's heart is occupied by another woman, his attention will be unconsciously attracted to her, then he will show a state of restlessness in front of you.
Another example is that a man is very resistant or evasive when he is intimate with you.
Then his body language is also sending a message to you: he may want to keep his distance from you in his heart.
This physical "sense of alienation" is often because he already has other women in his heart.
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How to interpret a man's body language
By mastering the following key points, you can usually interpret the "heart" of a man.
First, observe the man's eyes.
The eyes are the reaction of the mind, and by looking at the man's eyes, you can tell if he is focused on you.
If his eyes are always wandering, or he seems absent-minded when you speak, then he may be hiding something from you, which is often a sign of weakness.
Second, pay attention to the man's movements and postures.
If he is in front of you, always maintain a defensive posture or are reluctant to have physical contact with you.
This kind of body language often means that he wants to keep his distance from you.
Finally, pay attention to the subtle reactions of men.
For example, the change in his expression when you mention emotional topics, the frequency with which he replies to messages, the tone in which he speaks to you, etc.
If there are too many anomalies in these subtle reactions compared to the past, then you need to be more careful.
In love, the "body" is often the most honest "informer".
By observing and interpreting men's body signals, we can better understand men's hearts.
If he has an abnormality, or if he has another woman in his heart, we should respond in time instead of being kept in the dark.
But no matter what, we must learn to cherish ourselves and love ourselves. Regardless of the outcome, stay independent, confident, and strong.
Remember: "Love is a matter of two people, but loving oneself is a matter of one person." "Only when you truly love yourself can you find true happiness in love.