In the past, a young man could not afford to pay a high bride price, and proposed to break up with the woman, but was beaten by his family, and then a Wang Po said that the matchmaker persuaded the man to accept the blind date girl who was 3 months pregnant.
This series of grotesque events that take place in real life makes people wonder what is wrong with this society.
It is said that this is an open era, but it is not like this, don't you even talk about the most basic etiquette?
With the influx of foreign "foreign girls" into China, many bachelors have seen the dawn of getting rid of singles, not only do they not charge a bride price, but they are also very beautiful.
In many weddings, we can see a huge gap in the appearance of men and women. In this regard, many netizens said that they couldn't accept it, saying that it was a flower inserted into cow dung.
People say that men should marry and women should get married, but in recent years, there have been many older leftover men and women in society, which has not only become an exception, but even a problem that needs to be solved by society.
This article was published on China.com on May 5, 2024, about a British girl marrying a guy from Yan'an, Shaanxi Province, who envied others for transnational love
So what is the reason for the emergence of such a social phenomenon? Is it that young people nowadays are not interested in marriage? In fact, there are many complex factors involved.
First of all, the first big mountain in front of them is the problem of high bride price, which has become particularly serious in recent years, and many places have increased the weight, and the man has to pay a high bride price for the daughter to marry.
On the surface, it is said to be a sincere temptation for the man, but in fact he hides his own selfish desires, which undoubtedly causes huge financial pressure on the man, so he needs to borrow money everywhere, prepare a bride price, and even take out a loan for this.
It was originally a happy thing, but it invisibly added a lot of burdens, and some lovers have come to talk about marriage, but they have parted ways for this.
China's current bride price custom has been seriously deformed, and even become a major obstacle for young people to get married, for which there have been many vicious incidents, in this era of money, love seems so powerless.
In addition, with the development of society and the Internet, people have been given the opportunity to contact the outside world, and many female friends have a broader perspective, but this has also caused a lot of trouble.
Women are sensual creatures, and they are more cared for by their parents from an early age than boys, which also makes them lack an understanding of the current situation of society.
This world is very cruel, far from being as beautiful as in the world of novels, and there are not so many "Prince Charming", and many female friends have too high requirements for the opposite sex when choosing a boyfriend.
is even playing with the temper of the children in the family, which makes the men in the country have been on the disadvantaged side of the marriage for a long time, as if the man should naturally give way to the female side.
Recently, there have been many wedding videos circulating on the Internet, and the reason why these videos can have such a high popularity is that the bride in the wedding is from abroad.
They all have good faces, slender figures, and each has an extraordinary temperament, and they can even go to the selection of models, and then look at their marriage partners, which is a bit unsightly in comparison.
Some are short, dark-skinned, and look very immature, while others are too mature, with bald hair, and look very vicissitudes, if not to say that he is the groom, they will even think that he is the groom's father.
No matter from which aspect of the conditions, the two sides are not a good match, and netizens also have a lot of discussions about this, thinking that the man must have the ability to "money", but then it was revealed that these men are not all very wealthy in their families.
On the contrary, there are some ordinary families, so how did they attract the hearts of foreign girls? What was the purpose of foreign girls marrying them thousands of miles away? Is it true that there are defects in the aesthetics of foreign girls, as rumored to be?
In fact, this is related to the difference between domestic and foreign cultures, in China since ancient times, we have paid attention to a good family, and it is impossible for good conditions and poor conditions to come together.
This perception has not changed for thousands of years, and it is deeply rooted in the hearts of the Chinese people, as if if you do not find a family with the right door, such a marriage is destined to be unhappy.
However, foreign countries do not have this statement, but also advocate breaking the shackles of marriage and class. This can be seen from foreign fairy tales, such as Cinderella and Snow White, which are stories of low-level social girls and princes falling in love.
Compared with China, foreign countries advocate the purity of marriage, as long as two people truly love each other, then they can be together without any constraints, and this is more difficult in China.
This article was published on The Paper on March 27, 2024, about experts talking about the difficulty of marriage for older young men in rural areas: we can consider opening up international marriages and introducing overseas young women
Domestic marriage is not only a matter of oneself, it often involves many complex aspects, and all aspects must be taken into account.
In foreign countries, there is no need to be framed by so many frames, and the marriage is completely up to you. In recent years, facing the pressure of huge bride prices in China, more and more people have set their sights abroad.
I hope to be able to find a foreign daughter-in-law, which not only has more face, but also has less pressure and burden, because many places abroad do not charge the bride price.
Even in places like Vietnam, the woman will bring the dowry to the man's home, which is really not better than not knowing, and many people are happy about it.
But it is not easy to marry a foreign daughter-in-law, first of all, you must have the opportunity to live abroad, and secondly, you must master foreign languages, which alone exclude most people.
Secondly, there are also many conceptual differences and differences in life after marriage, in short, every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, for now, China is dominated by domestic love.
After all, we are all descendants of the dragon, with our own profound cultural heritage, we need to pass it on, but at the same time, in the face of the huge bride price, the society should also pay attention to it and correct it.
It also gives the Chinese marriage industry a blue sky and white clouds, so that the Chinese children on this land can fall in love without any pressure and with confidence and boldness.
Information sources:
Official media City Live "Post-00s blonde and blue-eyed British girl marries a guy from Shaanxi, China".
Official media @凤凰WEEKLY "Experts talk about the difficulty of marriage for older men in rural areas": we can consider opening up international marriages and introducing a large number of young women of school age from overseas.