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I remember when I saw Guo Jinan and Ou Qianyi get married when I was a child, my entire dimensional wall was broken, how did Sister Lori, who sang Cherry Maruko "There Are Many Problems Every Day", be with Ah Wang!
But after that, everyone accepted this pair of CPs, because the two of them are really so affectionate, and they even have to share an account on Weibo, and they feel that the two are a "model couple" who will never be separated.
Unexpectedly, this fairytale marriage also broke down this year. When Guo Jinan officially announced his divorce, many people's first reaction was: Ah, they will also divorce?
How can a model couple, who have been in love for many years and have never had negative news, be unable to get through? What kind of hurdle is it that makes people go to a "cliff divorce"?
Loving couple, there are many problems every day?
Let's first review the beginning and end of Guo Jin'an and Ou Qianyi's divorce.
On May 2, Guo Jinan and Ou Qianyi both posted on social platforms, announcing their divorce, mentioning that they had been separated for two years, and the divorce decision was "helpless and difficult".
TVB, which is very good at catching up with hot spots, immediately followed up with the report. pulled out the clip of his 1999 travel program, and found that Guo Jinan had already "tartled" Ou Qianyi at that time, and the other female artists came out of the car by themselves, and when Ou Qianyi got out of the car, Andy reached out to help her intimately~
When asked what he thought was the most suitable place, Guo Jinan said, "The most suitable thing is that she can make cakes, and I will also make cakes when I play Ah Wang."
And Ou Qianyi said that Guo Jinan would hug her when she was unhappy.
Here is one point, many people regard Ou Qianyi as a "childhood goddess" because of the theme song of "Cherry Balls", and they will preconceived that when the two are together, they are "strong women and weak men".
In fact, Ou Qianyi was still a newcomer at that time, and in 1994, Guo Jinan was praised by many people for her villain role in "Laughing at the Storm".
By the time the two got married in 2006, Guo Jinan had taken two emperors, and at that time they got married in a high-profile manner, and they got married at Disney and gave Ou Qianyi a fairy tale dream wedding.
Since then, Guo Jinan has been running wild on the acting road of the TVB male lead, and Ou Qianyi's focus is all on the family, giving birth to a son and a daughter in 2008 and 2011 respectively.
Later, Ou Qianyi revealed that she got married because she was pregnant, but she had an unfortunate miscarriage. Since she got married, she has experienced a total of two miscarriages, so she didn't dare to go to further study during her pregnancy, so she stayed at home, and when her first child was born, she wanted to breastfeed and take care of her full-time.
This state of "male protagonist outside and female protagonist inside" has been maintained for many years, and the two have always shown affection in the face of the media.
After 2015, Ou Qianyi began to have some "comeback" actions, made a cameo appearance in "The Principal of Five Children", and appeared on the show in 2017, saying that her husband Guo Jinan also supported her to come out, as long as she didn't make the same drama.
But a year later, Guo Jinan and Ou Qianyi began to mention in some public occasions that the couple had faced a marriage crisis, and there were roughly several theories:
1. The two focus on bringing children to talk less, Ou Qianyi is the "tiger mother" Guo Jinan is more casual, and there are differences in educational concepts;
2, Guo Jinan fell into depression when filming "Fatal Resurrection" in 2016, and often didn't talk to his wife and children when he went home.
3, Guo Jinan is busy with work, Ou Qianyi still has to study, and her feelings have faded when she meets less.
When it was serious, Guo Jinan thought about divorce, but he felt that "saving is easier to deal with than separating", so he still worked hard to repair the relationship.
Ou Qianyi began to study nutrition almost after marriage, and after 12 years of study, she studied for a bachelor's degree in nutrition and obtained various licenses.
However, these were all passed by in the interview between the two of them "repairing the marriage crisis", and Guo Jinan's real estate of more than 100 million yuan was also attracted much attention at that time, he revealed that the real estate was prepared for his wife and children, and in case of an accident, his wife could sell these buildings.
But Ou Qianyi's name was not written in the house, because Ou Qianyi didn't want to sign those cumbersome documents, and Guo Jinan said at that time, "It's enough for her to have me."
Therefore, this revealed all kinds of problems in marriage, and in the end, they all became "showing affection", and the image of "model couple" was deeply rooted in the hearts of the people, but everyone did not find that in fact, the two of them in the same frame have become less and less.
The last time they got together was to perform together in the 2020 "50 Years of Pop Classics" program, and their performance was not alienated, but when they were interviewed backstage to introduce their wives, Guo Jinan said, "I see her staying at home all day, like mold", and the scene was a little embarrassing for a while.
Ou Qianyi said that her career goal is "may appear as a nutritionist in the future".
In 2023, 43-year-old Ou Qianyi announced that she had graduated with a master's degree and had returned to the workplace as a nutritionist.
She said that the income from going on stage was more but unstable
Pieced together these details, everyone found that behind the "model couple", there are actually many problems, age differences, conceptual differences, and even life goals are different, and the pace is naturally inconsistent.
Misplaced emotions, inconsistent paces
Many cliff-like divorces have a kind of "emotional dislocation" when getting along.
When one party's emotional needs have been ignored for a long time, and even have been compromising and regressing, while the other party has always lived in their own world and felt the dullness of marriage as a matter of course, it is such a long-term "emotional dislocation" that the two finally divorced in a violent quarrel.
Guo Jinan's personality is also a little cold, he once mentioned in the show that he prefers simple things, going to the movies, traveling or something.
The host then asked, "Do you like simplicity, does she like it?"
Guo Jinan's answer at the time was not very sure: "I don't think I will dislike it, I will like it when I am with me." He also mentioned that the two of them would be very happy just cooking and peeling oranges.
Last year, Melody and her wealthy businessman's husband's "divorce without warning" also had this "emotional dislocation".
She once mentioned that the two quarreled when they were newly married, and her husband sent a message to ask her after she worked until the middle of the night, she thought she was going to care, but the other party just asked "Where are my pajamas", so angry that she sent multiple messages and scolded, and the other party simply couldn't read it back.
After many years of marriage, I want to reminisce about the feeling of being in love, and I chatted with my husband, and the other party said, "Why do you go home and talk so much".
These words seem to be a coquettish wife complaining about the daily life of a wealthy family, but she doesn't know that it is her sincere resentment, and she turns the chicken feathers of life into a joke, and when she says that one day she can't stand it, she collapses.
Melody did not explain the reason for her divorce, but she mentioned in last year's "Goodbye Lover" that couples are most afraid of "taking it for granted".
When the other party is required to provide emotional value, the other party cannot do it, and their own requirements will become pressure on the other party, and in the end, both parties will be unhappy.
This kind of unhappiness will accumulate, and when it erupts, it will become a "cliff divorce".
In addition to the emotional dislocation, there is also the inconsistent pace.
Or last year's "Goodbye Lover", Lao Liu and Fu Seoul, a couple who once shared hardships, ushered in another test after Fu Seoul's career soared:
The original balance of the family has been broken, and the relationship needs to be readjusted both at the practical and psychological levels.
There is a part of the adjustment, both husband and wife have to participate, and more often, it is the party who "failed to grow fast" to take the initiative to adjust his physical and mental state.
If either party fails to complete this self-planning and fails to deal with their own psychological imbalance, the relationship will also usher in a "cliff".
Their questions, "Goodbye Lover 3" gives the answer
I'm quite looking forward to Guo Jinan and Ou Qianyi, a pair who can talk about marriage frankly in the next season of "Goodbye Lover".
Unlike the obvious strong women and weak men in the last season of "Goodbye Lover", Ou Qianyi's career is far from the scenery that Emperor Guo Jin'an has come, but there is no inevitable external standard for growing together, and over the years, she has completed a round of spiritual growth through "self-empowerment" and "self-learning".
Speaking of which, Ou Qianyi was an elf-like quirky and energetic girl like Maruko when she debuted, and many people are curious, how could such a energetic girl fall in love with a man who is more than ten years older than herself and give up her career?
It is this kind of girl with a surging heart who will not believe in any "marriage siege", once they fall in love with someone, they will go all out and have no hesitation.
Now Ou Qianyi is forty-five years old, and she is still full of vitality, and marriage has not turned her into a dull yellow-faced woman, probably because she has always been "self-empowering" in her own way.
For example, after having a child, I will go all out to be a tiger mother, roll my energy into the child, and when the child is older, go to study to increase my self-improvement, and take the initiative to make a comeback......
People have social attributes, and they need something more intuitive to feel the value of their existence, and they need to have the opportunity to be seen and affirmed.
The energy given by marriage is no longer sufficient, and we have to find ways to empower ourselves and rethink the subject of independence.
The wonderful thing is that when her energy and emotional value are obtained more through things other than marriage, she will find that a marriage with "emotional misalignment" is simply tasteless, and it is not a pity to give up.
Ou Qianyi mentioned in a program last year that her values are different from Guo Jinan's, mentioning that inspired by a course, the 44-year-old self has about 20 years to do what he wants, reflecting on "living for yourself or for others?"
Obviously, when she asked this question, she had already decided to live for herself.
Although the cliff divorce is painful, it is often easier for the two people after the divorce to discover a new world because they have walked out of the "natural" dead end.
A few years ago, another couple of "cliff divorces" in your circle was like this, the two have been married for 18 years, and after the divorce was suddenly announced, they did not talk about the specific reasons for the divorce in public, but after the divorce, both of them have their own new careers, Kang Zini showed her strength in the insurance industry, and Lin Xiaofeng came to the mainland to appear on the show.
In an interview, Kang Zini lamented that when she was a "stay-at-home mother", she devoted herself to her family, but she lost herself and forgot to talk to herself.
Sister E's conclusion:
Divorce is no longer an insurmountable hurdle in this era, even if it is a "cliff divorce", as long as it does not involve bottom-line issues such as cheating, it should be recovered, or it will be separated, and the pain will be temporary.
What needs to be wary of is those "cliff divorces" that have been planned for a long time.
Do you remember "The First Half of My Life"? Chen Junsheng suddenly said without warning from Luo Zijun: Let's divorce.
Luo Zijun's noblewoman's dream was shattered overnight, no matter how she cried, begged, or made trouble, Chen Junsheng was very resolute, and even the weakness of the child failed to make him change his mind.
For Luo Zijun, all this happened suddenly, but for Chen Junsheng, who had already cheated, it had been planned for a long time, he had already weighed the pros and cons, and the divorce was more like an execution notice issued by one party to the other.
Lei Jiayin played Chen Junsheng, her ex-husband, like a victim, but in reality, such a partner is likely to be an old fox, not only decisive, but also shirk responsibility.
At this time, "cliff divorce" is not only an emotional problem, but also a legal problem, don't blame yourself, see the true face of the other party as soon as possible, think about how to cut the property, and protect your own interests more practically.
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