I have been writing articles on the Internet for a while, and what struck me the most is that different people have very different views on an issue. The gap here is huge, and the chasm is particularly deep. It's hard to empathize.
I'm talking about something I happened to the other day.
I write a small essay on the Internet, and what I write is basically about the things around me, or what happened to me, as the old saying goes: "If you say too much, you will lose." "People like me who export more than 10,000 bags of salt a day must have a part of the readership.
Therefore, some people are dissatisfied with me, and even abuse me. But my situation here is very special, all the scolding me are private messages, you see that the quality of people is still high, people are not willing to leave comments, that affects the atmosphere, let's talk alone. Heck, I thank you here.
The day before yesterday, a netizen scolded me, he said that you write a small essay, show off that you haven't worked for 20 years, and you can get a pension at some point, you don't have to be cheap and good, hurry up!
After I read this, I was stunned at the time, but when I thought about it, it was really like this, because it was in the system, so after I worked for ten years, I lost my ability to work due to illness, and the unit also paid a part of the basic salary, and when I got old, I also gave a pension, and now I think about it, this is also an advantage in the system.
When we went to college, the two best people in the class all went to foreign companies, so it was my turn to be the third, and I was picked up by the central authorities.
So, this netizen thinks I'm a very lucky person. Well, what do you say? He thinks I'm flaunting my superiority on the Internet every day. Hey, if you want to be dazzling, then I'm dazzling, and we won't explain it!
Press this netizen's letter and don't say it.
I'm talking about another thing, and I'm a person, and all my friends who know me, know that I have a weird problem, and that is that I never give anyone else's wedding entourage.
Of course, some people drag me to his own wedding, or his children's wedding, and we will go too. Eat when you get there, and leave when you're done. But let me pay a penny and give a gift, I will never do it!
However, if the couple I attended the wedding had a baby, I would give it a gift. I have a big box of small gold pendants, such as three or four grams of small peanuts, small lotus flowers, small melon seeds, and some jade string pearls to make a DIY children's bracelet, specially used for gifts, children are very fond of it. So a lot of the old ladies I know joke about their children:
"Get married and have a baby quickly, otherwise you won't be able to get the good things from Aunt Meng. ”
So, why do I never give people a wedding party? Actually, there's an incident.
When I was young, I worked in the unit, and there was an eldest sister in our unit, her daughter got married, and the eldest sister took good care of me on weekdays, so I specially took a Versace watch with me.
At that time, I often went abroad to buy some brand-name things for domestic purchasing, and sometimes I caught up with the event, such as Versace, Prada, Dior and other big brands all released watches, the kind of simple commemorative models, specially given to customers who reached a certain level of points, so I did the international downfall, I have that kind of watch in my hand.
Versace's watch was beautiful, golden, with a Medusa portrait in the middle, and I gave it to the eldest sister, and she didn't seem to say anything at the time, but after a while, I asked her daughter, "Do you like the watch I gave you?" This scene, the scene is a little embarrassing!
I later learned that her mother didn't give him the watch at all, why? I figured it out, oh, I'm not in good health. Because he was not in good health and couldn't have children, he had to divorce his ex-husband. And because of my poor health, I was already transferred out of the business post at that time, and followed a foreign specialist to work as a liaison secretary for him. Delay the future. Other than being lighter, it's not a good job.
In other words, I have faded out of the core business post, and I am a half-and-half person. It can be described as a failure in both career and family, I think that eldest sister regards me as an ominous person, a gift from an ominous person, well, forget it, what if it goes down the watch to my daughter!
What do I want to express when I say this? What I want to express is that in different circles, the evaluation of a person is completely different.
That netizen thinks I'm very lucky, I can't move on the kang without being paralyzed, I don't have to go to work, and I can get a pension.
But in the eyes of my colleagues in the unit, I am a very unlucky, even inauspicious person, all fame and fortune have been lost, you must know that there are many successful people in our group. Of course, there are many people with happy families, but in the eyes of everyone, they all agree that I am an unlucky person!
What I mean by this is to tell you that different circles have different views!
So what I'm going to say next is really incomprehensible to some people, but it really happened in reality.
Before I talk about it, I would like to insert a story, which is also given away for free. It's kind of a coriander with you!
This is what my brother encountered some time ago, my brother's son Big Monkey is a baby with excellent character and learning, in the key school of the imperial capital Haidian. He is a small cadre in the class, and he is quite responsible.
One day, the little squad leader said to his father seriously: "Our class Tongtong is so pitiful, her mother beat her very hard." I really want to help her. ”
This surprised my brother, Tongtong is a very good girl, in Beijing, Haidian, the education 001 highland, she can be rolled into someone else's baby, anyway, let me tell you so, Tongtong in the second year of junior high school, now can do the math paper of the college entrance examination.
But it's so good, why does her mother still beat him? The younger brother asked the big monkey, "Is Mother Tong ruthless?"
The big monkey said, "It's very ruthless, it's not ruthless, it's very ruthless." ”
It turned out that once, their teacher yelled at the students to inform them that they would immediately go to the rehearsal of an event, and the clothes that were temporarily sent down for everyone to change. Girls wear skirts, but Tongtong doesn't change them.
This made the monkey squad leader feel very strange, looking at Tongtong who was crying in a hurry, the big monkey pulled her aside and asked quietly, and in desperation, the little girl lifted her trouser leg.
Oh my God, the big monkey couldn't believe his eyes. According to him, there is a large ridge on the leg, all dark purple.
Tongtong's mother graduated from the University of Political Science and Law, what does Tongtong's father do? On weekdays, it was her mother who came to pick her up. How could such an outstanding high-level intellectual be so ruthless?
Because Tongtong has a good relationship with the big monkey, his younger brother once had a debt to talk to Tong's mother.
My brother also has to say that this baby is a bit evil.
His two small eyes, flashing behind the spectacle lenses, seem to have a hypnotic effect, anyway, after flashing twice, many people are willing to chat with him openly, of course, most of these people are also lesbians.
So it didn't take long for Tongtong's mother to cry bitterly in front of her younger brother, she said that she was under a lot of pressure, and Tong's mother, who was the backbone of the business in a red circle law firm, worked hard to be single and take care of the baby, but the child sometimes did not study well, which made her feel very broken.
In fact, the younger brother knew that Tongtong's mother forced her daughter very hard, went to bed at 12 o'clock every day, and had to get up at six o'clock in the morning. But the younger brother felt strange, why did Tong's mother do this kind of stepmother's behavior as a real mother?
As a result, she didn't confess, Tongtong's mother said that she was also seeing a psychiatrist, and she was also in pain, and she regretted it every time she beat the baby, but she didn't delay the next fight.
Because Tongtong's mother is afraid, if her baby can't be admitted to the three top political and legal schools in the plan, the road to the red circle law firm that she paved for Tongtong will be scrapped, it will be over, and it will be over!
But at the same time, Tongtong's mother also expressed envy for my brother's relaxation. She said: "You see that you can have resources to pass on, unlike us who are middle-class, we always fry in a pan of oil, and you can take a leisurely stroll." ”
In fact, this Tongtong's mother is also proper, with an annual salary of one million, and this is still the case of the recession in the past two years, her family has two suites in Xicheng, one is smaller, more than 50 square meters, and one is larger, 100 square meters. , the days are okay, but this baby mother is anxious, no, no!
The younger brother listened to Tongtong's mother's words and smiled very modestly. He caressed the fried-haired woman tenderly and said:
"The reason why I'm more relaxed is that I'm in the circle where I mix, it's the floor level, and I know that I can't go up!"
The younger brother told Tong's mother very seriously:
"In our circle, everyone's success is nowhere to be found. What intelligence, vision, diligence. It's all. The most important one is fate. I have seen many hard-working and self-disciplined big bosses end up empty-handed and even in debt. And I also saw many bosses who did not want to make progress, eating, drinking, prostituting and gambling, and in the end they were full of money and gained fame and fortune. How to say it, our circle believes in metaphysics the most, and some people spend huge sums of money to support the master, because in this circle, everyone depends on their lives.
No matter how smart, capable, and hardworking you are, it's useless in our circle.
So I'm relaxed, and I'm nervous when I'm in your state, but now, after seeing the scenery from the previous floor, I'm completely flat. If you watch the last 40 episodes of Dream of Red Mansions, you will know that there are many things, but they are useless.
Therefore, I support my baby's request that he will become an international civil servant and a judge in The Hague in the future. He wants to be a Chinese teacher and a self-media person in the future, and I still support him.
Anyway, I will leave a house for each of my children, and a survival deposit, as for the rest of the money? Speaking of this, the younger brother smiled evilly: "Let him father me, come and squander it!"
Of course, this is also a joke. However, according to the younger brother, the conversation between him and Tongtong's mother was very pleasant, which made the anxious woman relax a lot, of course, it didn't matter how much it worked, after half an hour, she began to go crazy again.
The phoenix girl Tongtong's mother, who has worked hard all the way from the small town outside the Saiwai, has always been this character. In the words of Tongtong's mother, I am a typical anxious personality, my career success comes from this, and my life failure also comes from this!
The former makes me full of fighting spirit and hard work, while the latter makes me conflicted and deformed, this is my fate, I know!
Putting down these stories, I want to talk about my feelings, in fact, many middle-class people will always exist in their hearts, two villains, one is inferiority and the other is pride. The two villains took turns to fight each other and PK each other.
By the way, there is no conclusion at all about what the middle class is.
For example, in first-tier cities, how much money is considered middle class? My brother said: As long as it is in the imperial capital and the center of Shanghai, people who do not have villas are middle class.
Because all the bigwigs he knows will lay out their own high-end real estate in China's Tale of Two Cities, which can be passed on to their descendants. But some people don't think so, they think that in first-tier cities, in addition to the existing housing, there are 10 million people who are middle class.
This is in terms of the volume of funds.
One more one, in terms of education.
Just like there is an aunt named Marilyn who lives in our community, of course, this is her stage name, and Marilyn's aunt has a primary school education. In the sixth grade, her wife was about the fifth grade, and her mother was illiterate.
But Ma's eldest son is stronger than all of them, and his education is about five plus six, plus zero. Forehead. I have been studying for a total of 11 years. Never went to college anyway. The reason why this aunt was able to live in our community was because her son opened a mutton shop, and later ran a mutton city. made a fortune. The son took advantage of the low house price to buy real estate. made a comfortable nest for his wife.
Every month, Aunt Marilyn and her family can receive a total of more than 7,000 yuan in pension. Note that they are laid-off workers, and their pensions are relatively low, but their sons still make up 10,000 yuan to their parents, so this aunt lives a very happy life. You say Aunt Marilyn, is her family considered middle class?
This is a matter of debabilitation.
Because, many of the middle class in our hospital are the "three lions", these three lions are engineers, teachers, doctors, and civil servants.
Therefore, there are many people here who don't think that Marilyn's family is middle-class, they think that the Ma family belongs to the nouveau riche.
So what is the middle class?
These people believe that the middle class is first of all to be well-educated, have a decent job, go out, be respected, and return home, not bad for food, such people are considered to be middle-class.
Therefore, some middle-class friends in our hospital often talk outside of their words, and think that I am a bit of a pity: "Old Meng, how can you call yourself an aunt? Why do you always chat with those people? I think the conversation is quite good." ”
And the people they are referring to are aunts like Marilyn who are not labeled as intellectuals.
Because they are not highly educated, they have no spiritual core and no status in society. ''
This notion is very ingrained in the group of petty bourgeoisie, who are very picky about their class recognition and are proud of it. They use various behaviors to mark their class status.
For example, drinking coffee, such as baking, for example, being able to use foreign languages fluently, and inserting words into their conversations. If you speak in pure Chinese, speak in a dialect, drink soy milk, steam buns, and finish, then unfortunately you have been kicked out of the petty bourgeoisie. Of course, without a prestigious college diploma, you can't even pick up the edge of this group.
There is no other country in the world that gives intellectuals such a high status as China, and some people even say that intellectuals should be the guides of social progress and the wild goose slaves who lead society forward. Note that the wild goose slave is a partial canon, which means that the head goose in the wild goose flock.
Intellectuals sit at the top of the pyramid in the traditional Chinese structure of Shinong business, so even if they don't have money, they belong to the ranks of the nobles!
The most shallow seal of Hou Zhi in his life, he only wishes to study quietly on a snowy night.
For thousands of years, intellectuals have been shaped into the image of fluttering clothes and students, which is their image of long shirts. It is also the confidence of many people's arrogance. However, as long as it is arrogant, sooner or later it will be counterattacked, that is, one day, the paper dart will be smashed on themselves.
Unfortunately, knowledge and money are not the same, and the biggest difference is that they cannot be passed on.
If you listen to my foreshadowing above, I guess you will be able to understand the real story I am talking about below!
A while ago, I saw Lao Li returning from overseas. To tell the truth, aunt, I walked around overseas in my early years, because of my work, I have seen many decent white-collar workers in Europe and the United States, anyway, judging from Lao Li's outfit, I know that he is in Canada, a floor-type player, just like my brother is in his circle.
Dressed in an ordinary hiking jacket and a baseball cap, Lao Li, who is tall and capable, often has a happy life of fishing and picnics in the circle of friends and getting close to nature. Lao Li went to Canada three years ago, as a high-achieving student who graduated from Jiaotong University, and as a middle-level leader of a state-owned enterprise design institute. Lao Li, this senior engineer, went to Canada and changed his career to be an electrician.
During the dinner party on China, Lao Li talked for a long time about how his boss valued him and relied on him, but everyone heard that it was still about wires and circuits. It is estimated that the unit is a cold storage or something like that.
Lao Li works there, and it is said that it is very relaxed and has no interpersonal relationships, because many times he is alone in this post. It's hard to talk to someone, but other than that, it's to get paid and get off work at the right time. Lao Li said that he was very satisfied with this.
He said that he was tired of domestic interpersonal relations, fighting for titles, bonuses, power and profit, and factional struggles in China, so it was good to do this, in his words, lying flat!
But everyone privately thinks that the most pity is Lao Li's daughter-in-law, although Lao Li's daughter-in-law is not in a tertiary hospital, she is the business leader of a community hospital! To put it mildly, she is also the person in charge of the three buildings, but her knife, after arriving in Canada, the scalpel can't be picked up.
In a nursing home, taking care of those deep patients who are lying in bed and can't move, giving them nursing, Lao Li said very vaguely, but according to people familiar with the matter, that is, a nurse, a nurse assistant, and even a nurse license, after all, Lao Li's daughter-in-law is a bit old, 45 years old, and it is difficult to take the license again.
However, there are not many people in Canada who are willing to do this job, and who wants to accompany a group of elderly people who are about to come to the end of their lives every day? Of course, we are not saying that there is any discrimination, indeed, this work scene is not very happy.
Refusing to roll, the old Li couple who lay flat moved their real estate to Canada, the housing prices here in Tianjin are not high, anyway, they kicked out seven or eight hundred thousand Canadian dollars, they bought a three-story building in a small town on the edge of most areas, like that kind of small and cute "big bieye"!
Set up an umbrella in front of the door, grill meat next to it, cut the lawn by yourself, and shovel it yourself in the snow. The life of the family is up......
Objectively speaking, couples like Lao Li and his wife, who speak good English and are in good health, it is not difficult to get a job over there, and they will not go to wash the dishes and deliver the courier. So they have taken root and lived a smooth life.
As long as you don't go to organic supermarkets and shopping malls, you can eat chicken, duck and fish. I don't go to the restaurant, it's a big deal to do it myself. So Lao Li said that their living conditions are very relaxed. And Lao Li has repeatedly emphasized that Canada is a good country with good mountains and good waters, unlike us, pesticide residues are genetically modified.
Oops, anyway, let's just follow him.
Lao Li came back this time and planned to stay at home for a while. Accompany your elderly lady well, and you will meet relatives and friends. After a long time, there are too many dinners, and Lao Li sometimes spits out a little gray tone.
In his words, hey, what is this immigrant trying to turn around? Isn't it just for the children?
Lao Li's son is a boy with mediocre qualifications, although there is nothing wrong with this baby, but he has not been able to inherit his parents' 985 head, in fact, this is normal, and having a child depends on probability.
You like our family, I have eight children in my life.
The lower limit of the education of these eight children is my five cousins. This guy has grown a big man of 1.9 meters, and since he was in the fourth grade of elementary school, the legs of my fifth cousin have never been put under the desk, and they are always split outside. You just said that such a baby is like taking bulking pills, but this academic performance is really not good, originally he wanted to go to the sports institute.
After all, the fifth cousin is a big center, although he was eliminated by the city team, he was able to go to the sports institute with this, but his daughter-in-law, Mrs. Niu, let him hit the college entrance examination, so it took a lot of effort, and the fifth cousin prepared for two years before he was admitted to a junior college. There are also sports points in the total score.
Of course, he was lucky, he studied for two years after going to junior college, and the school was upgraded, so his cousin and his daughter-in-law, Mrs. Niu, clapped their hands and thanked their ancestors.
You must know that in order to allow her five cousins to be admitted to college, Mrs. Niu, who has a very good family background, hired four personal trainers to tutor him one-on-one.
I've heard of a chicken baby, Mrs. Niu's chicken boyfriend, this is also a must!
But at the same time, I don't study at all, and I am busy with picking up girls all day long, but I was able to get a good result after a few beatings from my sister, and I took the rocket, and I got on the book of Zhongcai first. It didn't take long for him to show his face in the university, and finally entered a prestigious school, until he wore a doctor's red robe, similar to him, the sixth child. Although I didn't study foreign books, I have a proper doctorate from a famous domestic school, and I have no problem becoming a teacher in any university.
In fact, in our children, the more talented they are, the less they need to work, but the more they don't use work, the more they can show off their talents!
For example, once my father changed the phone in the service center of their unit, what car class, canteen, infirmary, zero and zero total, more than 20 calls were written on a piece of paper, my younger brother looked at it twice, and then left, just such a glance, he memorized all these more than 20 calls. So much so that it became our living phone book.
You asked me to memorize it, and I can't remember the driver's phone number!
However, God-given Lao Li's only child, the big treasure drawn from this lottery is just a "thank you for your patronage". Lao Li's child is mediocre, and even goes to high school with great difficulty, the key is the baby's learning state, and then it has reached the point where he wants to tear up the book when he sees it. In this regard, Lao Li has also forced and chickened before, but now he really doesn't dare to start, for fear of making something wrong with the baby. The child is extremely tired of school.
So when the child was in the third year of junior high school, Lao Li decided not to do anything, so he simply moved his family and went straight to Canada!
Lao Li's situation does not belong to a legendary figure in our hospital. It is said that after he immigrated to the United States, he made a fortune, and half a year after he left, the situation in the unit changed abruptly, and there were accidents one after another. Of course, such a person immigrating, at least from his own point of view, is a rigid need.
Lao Li is also different from the other eldest sister in our yard.
The eldest sister's son went to Purdue University in the United States, pay attention to the fact that it was not Purdue sentient beings, but Purdue's high scholarship, this proper engineering genius, let his widow mother, also go to the lighthouse country, anyway, I heard about it!
As for Lao Li, going to a foreign country to lie on the floor, going abroad is really a bitter wine for him.
He would rather say goodbye to his parents, give up his career, and sacrifice what he has in China, hug him from front to back, and have the frame of a small official with a driver's secretary, and would rather leave his hometown father, give up Lu Caichuan Chaoyue, be a gossip girlfriend, and tear a beautiful community.
The wind is sluggish and the water is cold, and Lao Li is gone, and he will not return. Lao Li, who dragged his wife and his son, wore a thick down jacket and took a flight to North America.
Don't worry!
That day, Lao Li drank high, and a friend and classmate of his, who was a small and neighbor, Lao He said something heart-wrenching.
He said:
For me, the country is good, it is good, not to mention anything else, Brother He, I plan to be a neighbor and a friend with you for life. The two of us have been playing together since childhood! Lao He was also very moved when he heard this, and nodded with tears in his eyes.
But Lao Li changed the conversation, and then, he gritted his teeth and said:
"But I really can't stay in the country, at my son's level, I can't afford to lose that person. In the future, if he drives a street sweeper on the main road, works as a grid worker in the yard, delivers couriers in and out, and moves things in the supermarket, I can't afford to lose that person! I'm sorry for my ancestors! My parents are from Fudan! My grandfather was born in France, and our family is a scholarly family for generations!
Now that my child is like this, how can I meet my old classmates and colleagues?
So, I gritted my teeth, stomped my feet, and gave it all up. I repositioned myself on another continent, anyway, I was fed and clothed, planted flowers and cut grass, fished and cooked, and worked for a short time, and I had no other ideas. I'm back to my roots.
Because I don't want to be at home, watching my son not wear a long shirt! I can't afford to lose that person! I'd rather he deliver pizza and sell buns abroad than be embarrassed at home.
Yes, for intellectuals, face is bigger than the sky!
Kong Yiji bent his legs, and he also wore a long shirt, a long shirt, which was his recognition of the value of his existence. If there is no such garment, then what is the point of his existence? Isn't this just a shame and a truth?
In this regard, Aunt Meng sighed:
If you position yourself as an aunt and deeply integrate with the grassroots masses and poor middle peasants, then your life will be high and wide. Relaxed.
If you position yourself as a middle-class elite and cut yourself off from the poor middle peasants, then your future is to boil eagles and crazy chicken babies, because only in this way can you pass on that long gown.
Anxiety actually comes from fear, from the fear that life KPIs cannot be achieved!
And everyone's life KPIs are different. Well, this thing. It's up to you, feel free!
