Why is the man who was found out just after cheating unwilling to break up with the mistress?
Why are many extramarital affairs discovered just beginning,
The cheating man and the mistress should have no emotional foundation, but it is difficult to separate?
That's because the cheating man didn't directly hit it off with the mistress and developed an extramarital affair.
But after a long-term pursuit, this process has paid a lot to the junior,
finally developed an extramarital affair, and the cheating man has not received much in return,
As a result, he was discovered, and he was asked to break up with the mistress, and the cheating man would be unwilling.
Because the sunk cost is too high, he doesn't want to run out of people and money.
Previously, an original partner came to Su Yue and said that she didn't understand why cheating men insisted on cheating.
This man's cheating junior is a colleague in the same company,
Xiao San took the initiative to show favor, and the cheating man accepted it and wanted to find out further.
Xiao San began to fish for cheating men, and cheating men paid a lot in order to be able to truly develop extramarital affairs.
Buy things for the junior, pick up the junior to and from work, and ask for warmth to the junior.
It took a lot of money and some actions to take a few months for the two to further develop an affair.
Because the cheating man made an excuse and didn't come home that night, the original partner became suspicious.
Just a few days after the derailment, he was caught by the original partner with evidence.
The attitude of the original partner was very resolute, and he asked the cheating man and the mistress to break up, but it failed.
This original partner said to Su Yue that she thought that this extramarital affair would be easily resolved.
On the one hand, the conditions of the junior are not very good, and they are not as good as the original match in all aspects.
This junior is five or six years older than the original partner, divorced with two children.
The money is not much, and the cheating man has been chasing the mistress for several months, and he has spent a lot of money on the mistress.
If the cheating man is really with the mistress, the financial pressure is also great.
On the other hand, the original partner felt that the cheating man and the mistress had just been together, and there was no emotional foundation.
The relationship between the cheating man and the mistress is not deep, and the original partner feels that the extramarital affair can be solved more easily.
But the cheating man was reluctant to break up with the little one, although he said that he would break up with the original partner, but he didn't take action.
At first, this original partner thought that the cheating man would do what he promised,
is still waiting for the cheating man and the little three to break up, but a week has passed without moving,
The original partner asked the cheating man, and this cheating man was silent,
Obviously, he didn't deal with it at all, and he didn't break up with Xiao San.
The original partner said that she didn't understand what it meant to cheat on a man.
did not quibble or resist the questioning of the original partner, and promised to break up with the little three.
But if it is not put into action, what are cheating men thinking?
How should the wife solve this situation?
First of all, wives have to analyze the mentality of cheating men.
Why does the cheating man refuse to break up with the mistress?
Don't think that a cheating man has pursued the mistress for a while, but he really loves the mistress.
The more cheating men can't catch up, the more they want to persevere.
The process of perseverance is bound to pay a lot, time, money and energy.
When they get the junior, they will have a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction.
These are not love, a sense of conquest, a desire to win, etc., that are the reasons why men insist on pursuing the mistress.
After being discovered, he refused to break up because he had not yet enjoyed an extramarital affair.
He paid it, and he finally got it, and it was about to end before he got back to his roots.
The cheating man is naturally unwilling, so the refusal to separate the mistress is not because of love.
Wives are clear about this and can be more effective in addressing sunk costs to solve extramarital affairs.
Secondly, how to reduce the sunk cost of men.
What does the cheating man pay for the mistress? It is nothing more than time, money and energy.
Time and energy can't be recovered, but money can still be recovered.
In fact, cheating men care more about money, which is the only quantifiable cost.
People don't pay that much attention to time and energy.
The amount of money that can be said will be more important.
The wives told the cheating man to sue to recover the money that the cheating man gave to Xiao San,
The cheating man can tell the approximate amount, proving that the cheating man actually cares about this,
As long as the cheating man shows that he has this idea, the original partner can succeed if he persists.
The original match can reduce the cost of cheating men, and he will not be so reluctant to the mistress.
Finally, the original partner also needs to increase the price of continuing to cheat.
The cheating man cooperated with the original partner and sued the mistress together to recover the money,
and then broke up with Xiao San completely, and the original partner could give the cheating man a chance.
If the cheating man does not cooperate and insists on continuing with the mistress, the original partner will tell the cheating man that he will still sue.
But to sue for divorce, the marital property must be divided, and the cheating man's contribution in the marriage will be wasted.
The cheating man himself refused to break up with the mistress because of the sunk cost.
Naturally, he is not willing to divorce, so if he can recover part of the cost, the cheating man will agree to break off the relationship with Xiao San.
At the end of the article, Su Yue wanted to say that the original partner wanted to solve the extramarital affair, and occasionally needed to stand in the perspective of a cheating man.
to be able to analyze what the cheating man is thinking, so that you can better understand how to solve the problem.
The cheating man is because the cost is too high, and the original partner helps the cheating man recover part of the cost.
And make the cheating man realize that extramarital affairs have a great price,
Let him reweigh the pros and cons, and he himself feels that it is more in his interest to end the affair.
Then the cheating man will be willing to break up with the mistress, and the attitude of the cheating man is very important.
Cheating men are willing to break up, and extramarital affairs can be solved with half the effort.
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