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My name is Lin Lan, and my husband Qin Feng and I live in a small city in the south. Qin Feng is an engineer, I am a primary school teacher, and we have a seven-year-old son named Xiao Ming. Our family of three lived peacefully and happily. Although my parents live in the same city, we don't have many opportunities to meet each other due to our busy schedules.
My mother, Wang Li, is a strong person in my eyes, and she always has high requirements for me and my younger brother Wang Gang. Growing up, I was used to her harsh way of caring, but until that day, her words made me feel chills that I had never felt before.
It was a weekend five years ago, and the weather was fine, and I took Xiao Ming to my parents' house for lunch. It was a rare opportunity for our family to be together, and my father, Lin Hai, always liked to work in the kitchen and prepare a hearty family lunch for us. My father was a gentle man who loved to cook and often prepared all kinds of delicacies at home.
That morning, Xiao Ming was playing in the yard, and it happened that my younger brother Wang Gang also brought his daughter, four-year-old Tongtong, to my parents' house. My brother and I watched the children play, bouncing and laughing. However, accidents always come unexpectedly, Xiao Ming didn't pay attention to his feet when chasing Tongtong, and he stumbled and fell.
I immediately ran over and picked up Xiao Ming, his knees were scraped, and tears welled up in his eyes. I took out the antiseptic potion, treated his wound briefly, and carried him back into the house. My father, who was busy in the kitchen, hurriedly came over and asked what had happened, and I told him that Xiao Ming had fallen, but it was not a big problem.
However, when I walked into the living room with Xiao Ming, my mother saw his wounds, and she frowned with a look of displeasure. "What's going on? how do you take care of the kids?" she reproached me.
"Mom, he just fell, it's not a big deal. "I tried to make my tone as relaxed as I could, I didn't want my mom to feel like we weren't taking good care of the kids.
My mother didn't give me that chance, and she continued to count me down. "Look at it, such a big kid can still fall like this. What are you doing? Why don't you pay more attention?" her voice became stern.
I wanted to explain, but her tone kept me from saying anything more. I took him back to the couch in the living room, sat him down next to me, and told him a joke to try to make him forget the pain.
However, it's not over yet. My mother walked up to Xiao Ming, put her hands on her waist, and leaned down to look at him. "If you wrestle like this, it's easy for you to get into a big deal. What should I do if I break it?Your mother is really, why don't you take a good look at you?" She blamed Xiao Ming.
I couldn't help it. "Mom, the kid accidentally fell, can you not be so harsh? He is already injured, you will scare him like this. "
However, my mom didn't pay any attention to me, and her attention turned back to Xiao Ming. "Wrestling is a trivial matter, but do you know how many children have had an accident because of wrestling? Why are you so careless? Why don't you fall to death?"
This sentence made the whole room fall silent in an instant. I froze in place, along with my brother and father, who were shocked by this statement. I looked at Xiao Ming, his face was full of confusion and fear, and he didn't know how to respond.
I felt a chill in my heart, I never thought that my mother would say such a thing. At that moment, a wave of anger welled up in my heart, but I knew that in my mother's world, her way was always right, and she never felt that she was wrong.
I stood up, picked up Xiao Ming, and decided to leave. I can't let my son continue to be hurt by words like this. Mom looked at me and seemed to realize that she had said something she shouldn't have said, but she didn't apologize and just turned around and went back to the kitchen. My father, Lin Hai, wanted to say something, but in the end he just shook his head and didn't say anything.
I walked out of my parents' house with Xiao Ming in my arms, and my heart was angry and painful. I knew that my mother's words might just be her mouthful, but this time, I couldn't forgive her anymore. When we got home, I told Qin Feng everything that happened, and he was also angry, but he knew that it was a problem between me and my mother, and I could only let myself deal with it.
From that day on, I decided not to go back to my parents' home. I don't want Xiao Ming to be hurt by that kind of words again. I texted my mom and told her I needed time to calm down and asked her to reflect on her words. But she didn't reply to me. She may not think she is wrong, or she may think that I am making a fuss.
But that sentence has left an indelible scar in my heart. For the next five years, I never set foot in my parents' house again. I knew that this decision could bring more family problems, but I couldn't back down. I can't let my son grow up in such an environment.
One summer five years later, I received a call from my younger brother, Wang Gang. His voice sounded a little anxious: "Sister, my mother is hospitalized." Can you come to the hospital?"
I was stunned for a moment, and my heart was mixed. Although I haven't been back to my parents' house for five years, it's my mother after all. There were a lot of unresolved issues between me and her, but I knew that when a family member was sick, everything else should be put aside.
"What's wrong with her?" I asked, with a hint of hesitation in my tone.
"The doctor said it was a heart problem that required hospitalization for a period of time. She's been asking you. My brother's tone was a little nervous, and I knew he was worried about his mother's condition.
I promised him, and after putting down the phone, I told Qin Feng's mother that she was hospitalized, and he nodded and said, "Go ahead." I'll take care of it at home, you don't have to worry. "
I came to the hospital, and my brother was waiting for me at the door of the ward. When he saw me, he had a look of surprise in his eyes, as if he didn't expect me to come.
"Sister, you're here. He said a little crampedly.
"Well, how is she?" I looked at the door of the ward, feeling a little strange, I hadn't seen her for so long, and everything in the hospital seemed extremely deserted.
"The doctor said it's okay for the time being, but you need to be careful. Sister, you also know that she has always paid little attention to her body, and she does not eat and drink modestly. Wang Gang sighed.
We walked into the ward together, and my mother was lying on the bed, her face pale and her eyes a little tired. When she saw me, a mixture of emotions flashed in her eyes.
"Lan Lan, you're here. Her voice was a little weak, but she could still hear it.
"Well, I'm coming. "I stood on the edge of the bed and looked at her. I felt a little uncomfortable, after all, I hadn't seen each other in a long time.
She was silent for a moment, then said, "I know you don't want to see me all these years. I know I've said something I shouldn't have said, but you're my daughter, how can you not come to see me for so long?"
I looked at her with mixed feelings. There seemed to be a hint of complaint and apology in her words, but she didn't want to say it directly. I didn't respond, and the scars in my heart didn't go away because of this meeting.
Seeing the embarrassment between us, my younger brother hurriedly interjected: "Sister, Mom really needs us to accompany me this time." The doctor said she was going to be hospitalized for a while, and I couldn't take care of her alone. Can you help me?"
I looked at my brother, and his eyes were full of pleading. I know that he has been making all kinds of efforts in front of his mother, and he wants our family to be reunited. But I also know that it won't be easy.
"I can come and help, but you know, the problem between me and her is not so easy to solve. "I looked at my mom in the hospital bed, and she closed her eyes and seemed to be thinking about something.
"I know, I know. But you're her daughter, and the one she wants to see most during this time is you. There was a hint of pleading in his brother's tone.
I sighed, for the past five years, I have been trying to let go of the hurt of the past, but every time I think of that sentence, my heart aches faintly. I know my mother's character, she never thinks she is at fault, and when I give my opinion, she always responds with a tougher attitude.
However, seeing her on the hospital bed, my heart softened a little. After all, she is my mother, and she also plays an important role in this family. I couldn't completely let go of my feelings for her.
"Well, I'll help. But I hope she understands that some things can't be solved with a single word. I looked at my brother, and he nodded, a smile of relief on his face.
The room fell silent and I stood by the bed and looked at my mother on the bed, with a smile on her face. "Lan Lan, I'm really happy to have you here. "
I didn't respond, just stood there, thinking about all these years of estrangement and bickering. I know it's not an easy reconciliation process, but it may be a start.
In the ward, my father Lin Hai also came, and when he saw me, a trace of surprise flashed in his eyes. "Lan Lan, you're here too. It's great that our family can finally be together. He looked happy, albeit with a hint of exhaustion on his face.
"Well, I'm coming. I nodded, still a little complicated. I know this is just the beginning and there are still a lot more problems between me and my mom, but at least, it's an opportunity, a chance to repair the relationship.
I started taking care of my mom in the hospital. For the first few days, I barely spoke to her, just busy helping her adjust her bed, or changing her water and medicine. Sometimes my brother Wang Gang would come over, and he would always try to tell as many jokes as he could, trying to lighten the atmosphere between us.
"Sister, I encountered a particularly funny thing today, let me tell you......" Wang Gang smiled as he peeled an apple and told an interesting story about his company. He wanted to use these light-hearted topics to ease the tension.
But I didn't respond much, just nodded slightly. I've always had mixed feelings, and I don't know if I should talk to my mom thoroughly, but every time I think about that sentence from five years ago, I feel alienated inside.
One day, my mother suddenly spoke. She sat on the hospital bed, looked at the scenery outside the window, and said, "Lan Lan, I know that you have been angry with me in your heart. I was talking too much, I know. "
When I heard her words, my heart trembled slightly. I was a little surprised that she took the initiative to bring up the topic.
"Mom, that sentence really hurt me, I don't think you should talk to Xiao Ming like that. He's so young, he shouldn't have been hurt like that. "I didn't look at her, I just looked down at my hands.
"yes, I was wrong. There was a hint of apology in Mom's voice, "I really shouldn't have said that." I was just...... I'm just a little anxious, you know I've been strict with you guys since I was a kid. I just want you guys to be better. "
I sighed and turned to look at her. "Mom, I understand your thoughts, but sometimes your way is really hard to accept. I don't want Xiao Ming to go through the same pressure as I was a kid. "
Mom was silent for a moment, then said, "Yes, I have a bad temper, I know. But I have my worries. When I was a child, your grandparents were stricter with me. I just want to make you better. "
I know she's explaining, but that doesn't change the facts of the past. Instead of continuing the topic, I turned around and helped her with the quilt. Mom looked at me, and she seemed to want to say something more, but in the end she just sighed.
There has been some détente in our relationship, but there are still many unresolved contradictions. Over the next few days, Mom's health gradually improved and her mental state became better. I'm starting to find that she's becoming more gentle and less aggressive than she used to be.
One day, Qin Feng took Xiao Ming to visit his mother in the hospital. Xiao Ming grew a lot taller, he ran into the ward, shouting, "Grandma, I'm coming to see you!"
When my mother saw Xiao Ming, a trace of excitement flashed in her eyes. She reached out and hugged him and said, "Xiao Ming, you have grown so tall!"
Xiao Ming ran around the ward, looking very excited. He started telling his mom about school and performed a dance he learned at school. Mom looked at him with a smile on her face that she hadn't seen in a long time.
"Grandma, I'll tell you a story this time!" Xiao Ming jumped to his mother's bedside and began to tell his own story. His stories are childish but imaginative, filling the entire ward with laughter.
Qin Feng looked at me, he took my hand and said, "Look, Xiao Ming is so happy." That's what family feels like, isn't it?"
I nodded, feeling a warmth in my heart. It was the first time in five years that I felt this kind of warmth, and I knew that the relationship between the family was starting to change.
At this moment, his younger brother Wang Gang also came, and he brought some snacks and fruits that his mother liked. He saw the lively scene in the ward, and said with a smile: "Sister, you see this atmosphere, it's very good, isn't it?"
I nodded, and my mood lightened a bit. Wang Gang started chatting with Qin Feng, they chatted about their respective jobs, chatted about some family trivialities, and my mother and I looked at them quietly, feeling a long-lost harmony.
However, in this warm atmosphere, my mother suddenly said, "Lan Lan, I actually have something I want to talk to you about." "
I was stunned for a moment, and then turned to look at her, with a complicated expression on her face. I knew she wanted to say something, but I also felt a little uneasy. I don't know what she's going to say, but I have a vague feeling that this could be a turning point in our relationship.
Mom's expression made my heart tighten, and she looked at me with a hint of anxiety in her eyes. I tried to read what she wanted to say from her eyes, but her eyes flickered as if she was thinking about how to speak.
"What's the matter, Mom?" I asked, trying to hide the tension in my heart.
She hesitated for a moment, and then said, "Lan Lan, I've actually missed you all these years. I know I've done some bad things, and I ...... I want to apologize to you. Her voice softened a lot, but with a distinctly nervous tone.
My heart was beating faster and I didn't expect her to apologize suddenly, it wasn't easy for her. Mom has always been a stubborn person, and she rarely admits her mistakes, but this time, she seems to want to make up for something.
"Mom, why are you saying this all of a sudden?" I asked, feeling a little complicated.
She took a deep breath and said, "Because I don't want to lose you again." I know that sentence made you very sad, and I regret it. I don't want our relationship to go on like this forever. "
The ward became quiet, and the younger brother Wang Gang and Qin Feng stopped talking, and they seemed to realize the importance of the topic. They stood quietly to the sidelines, leaving us some space.
"Mom, do you know how sad I am?" I looked at her, a tremor in my voice. "I took Xiao Ming to your house to let him have more contact with you, but I really can't accept you saying something like that to him. "
Mom lowered her head, as if reflecting on her words and actions. "I know, I know. She whispered, "I was so angry that I shouldn't have spoken to Xiao Ming like that." But Lan Lan, you must know that I also care about him. I didn't want to see him hurt and I was really worried about him that day. "
I listened to her explanation, and my heart was a little shaken. I know my mother's temper, she always shows her concern in a tough way, which is also her style. But her words really hurt me that time, and I needed time to digest it all.
"But Mom, you know what? I really can't forgive you. At that time, not only did you not comfort Xiao Ming, but you also said something like that, I don't think you care about him at all. After I finished speaking, a wave of grievance welled up in my heart.
A hint of sadness flashed in Mom's eyes, and she shook her head slightly. "I was wrong, Lanlan. I was wrong. I know I've always been aggressive, but you have to understand that I also have my pressure. As you grow up, I feel as if I'm losing you. "
I looked at her and began to understand her anxiety. I know that my mom was used to being in control from a young age, and she wanted us all to live our lives the way she wanted. But I've grown up, I have my own family and children, and I can no longer be as obedient to her every decision as I did when I was a child.
"Mom, we all have our own way of life, you have to learn to respect. Xiao Ming is my son, and what he needs is care and encouragement, not harsh reprimands. "I try to stay calm, I know it's the best way to communicate with her.
She nodded, her eyes full of exhaustion. "yes, I know. I'm going to change, I don't want to lose you again. I want to get along with you guys, I really want to. "
The atmosphere in the hospital room eased a little, and my younger brother, Wang Gang, came over and patted me on the shoulder, trying to ease the tense conversation. "Sister, mom already knows it's wrong, so you can forgive her. After all, she is our mother, and it is not easy for her. "
Qin Feng also chimed in: "Yes, Lan Lan, your mother also needs time to change. We are all family, don't let the past affect us anymore. "
I looked at them, then at my mother, and there was a hint of anticipation in her eyes, and I knew she really wanted to change. But I also know that this is not something that can be resolved in a sentence or two, and that the rift between us will take time to heal.
"Okay, I'll try to forgive, but I hope you can really understand how we feel. "I looked at my mom and tried to look calm. "You have to understand that we all have our own way of life and you can no longer ask us to do the way you used to. "
She nodded, an apologetic look on her face. "I will, I'll try to change. I don't want to let you go again. I know it's wrong, and I'll try. "
This conversation left me with mixed feelings. I know this is the beginning of reconciliation, but it is also a long process. There are still a lot of things that need to be fixed between me and my mom, but at least, this conversation has opened a window for us. I decided to give her and us a chance to see if she was really willing to change.
In the following weeks, I visited my mother in the hospital frequently. The atmosphere between me and her gradually became much lighter, and I began to try to relax myself and become less vigilant.
Mom's body is recovering well, and she can get out of bed and walk around. Every time I went to the hospital, she would wait for me in the ward with a smile on her face that she hadn't seen in a long time. It gave me a little comfort, and I knew she was trying to change.
One day, I took Xiao Ming to the hospital to see her. He excitedly ran into the ward and shouted, "Grandma, I'm coming to see you!"
Mom greeted him with a smile and reached out to hug him. "Xiao Ming, I miss you! What new things did you learn today?"
Xiao Ming was especially active in front of his mother, and he began to tell interesting stories from school, and also performed a few dance moves he had just learned. Mom looked at him and smiled happily. That day, the ward was filled with laughter, and the relationship between me and my mother seemed much more relaxed at this moment.
While we were chatting, my father, Lin Hai, came in and he brought some fruit and snacks. He smiled when he saw our happy scene and said, "It seems that everyone is in a good mood today!"
"Yes, Dad, would you like to try this cake? I brought it to you today. "I handed my father a small cake, and he took it and smiled very happily.
"Thank you, Lan Lan. This cake looks delicious!" My father took the cake and turned to my mother, "Look, how nice we are together!"
Mom nodded, a smile on her face. "yes, yes. It's been a long time since we've laughed like this. "
This scene made me feel a little warm, and I knew that the feeling of being with my family was irreplaceable. Although there are still many things that need to be fixed between me and my mom, at least we are moving in the right direction.
I talked a lot with my mom over the next few days. She started talking to me about her youth, and she said that she went through a lot of hardships as a child, so she was always strict and wanted us to live better. I listened to her and began to understand her feelings, and I knew that although she expressed it in the wrong way, her original intention was good.
One day, when I went to visit her in the hospital, she suddenly said to me, "Lanlan, I know that I used to be too strict with you, and I want to change. I don't want to push you like I used to. I just hope you are doing well. "
I was a little surprised that this was the first time my mom had taken the initiative to admit her mistake. I looked at her and felt a warmth in my heart. I know she's trying, she wants to change, it's not easy for her.
"Mom, I know you want us to have a better life, but sometimes you're too harsh. We need freedom, we need space. "I tried to make her understand how we felt.
She nodded, a hint of understanding in her eyes. "yes, I understand. I'll try. I don't want to keep you away from me anymore. "
The atmosphere in the ward became much more relaxed, and we started talking about some light topics. My mother began to care about my life, asked me about work, and even asked about Qin Feng's situation. I told her about our family, and she listened attentively, nodding her head from time to time to show understanding.
One day, my mother suddenly said to me, "Lan Lan, I want to see Xiao Ming more in the future." I want to spend more time with him. I know I've said things I shouldn't have said before, and I hope he will forgive me. "
I looked at her and felt a warmth in my heart. I know she's trying, and she wants to make up for her mistakes. I nodded and said, "Okay, Mom, you can come to our house more often." Xiao Ming wants to see you too. "
Mom had a smile on her face, she looked at me and said, "Thank you, Lanlan." I know I've done a lot of things wrong before, and I really want to change. I don't want to let our relationship become estranged anymore. "
On this day, the atmosphere in the ward was full of warmth. I know that this is just the beginning and there is still a lot of work to be done between me and my mom, but at least we are working on it. Mom started to be more gentle, she stopped being as aggressive as she used to be, and started trying to understand our feelings.
In the days that followed, Mom's body gradually recovered. The doctor said she could be discharged, which was good news for all of us. The younger brother Wang Gang was also very happy, he said: "Sister, after my mother is discharged from the hospital, let's have a meal together as a family and celebrate!"
I nodded, knowing it was an opportunity, a chance to reunite our family. I hope that this family can gradually return to the warmth it used to be, me and my mother
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