When I was 54 years old, it suddenly dawned on me that a lot of ailments were related to emotions. Women love to get angry, and the glands in the body will suffer. Men love to get angry, which is the cause of disease. As a middle-aged person, if you want to live a decent life, it is imperative not to be angry. How can you not get angry? Do these four points, easily control your emotions, and not be hurt by your emotions. Everyone's tasting.
One, be a heartless person.
I've observed a lot of people who have had successful careers, and they have one thing in common: emotional stability. The so-called emotional stability does not mean that there is no temper, but that it is the use of temper to achieve one's own goals. Instead of letting emotions attack themselves.
I remember reading the book Datang, and Wu Zetian in it gave me the deepest feeling. No matter what disaster she encounters, her first thought is how to save herself, not to live in remorse. That's what makes her so good.
We ordinary people, when we encounter difficulties, always burst with negative emotions and blame each other. In fact, the more this happens, the worse things get. When the mood is unstable, the breath will rush together, which will block the body's operation, which will form qi stagnation and blood stasis. The best regimen is happiness.
It is best for us to be a careless person in our daily life, solve difficulties when we encounter them, wave our hands when we encounter parting, and do something we like when we encounter grievances. In short, everything is not in mind. Emotions are controlled by us, not bound by them.
Second, treat yourself as an outsider.
We women always want others to reciprocate what we do every day. For example, if you do housework, you hope that your husband will approve of it. If the mother-in-law does something bad, she will be dissatisfied with the mother-in-law's behavior.
Actually, this is wrong. We women have to correct our mentality, your relationship with anyone in your mother-in-law's family is established because of your husband. Then you have to recognize yourself and you are an outsider. If you have the right mentality, you won't be careful.
Husbands and children are the same, treat themselves as outsiders and keep a certain distance, because all misfortunes come from one point, that is, familiarity. If you treat yourself as an outsider, your body's acceptance of emotions will become weaker, so if your requirements are low, your emotions will not pop out easily.
Three, focus on yourself.
People are a very strange animal, the more you want to get something, the more you won't get anything, a recent hot event, Chongqing fat cat incident. transferred 510,000 yuan to his girlfriend in two years. His girlfriend broke up, and he committed suicide by jumping into the river. In fact, this is falling into the trap of self-control.
The filter beautifies the person he loves, and the more he wants to get it, the more his girlfriend wants to run away. At this time, he couldn't help but feel joy, anger and sorrow. The meaning of life is not important, this obsession tempts him to give everything. His own focus is not on himself.
When we focus on ourselves, our growth, and our health, it is difficult for some external voices to disturb us.
No matter how old you are, put yourself in the main position, and the main road of life will not deviate. Grasp the big and let go of the small. Emotional stability becomes a habit.
Fourth, practice breathing.
When a person is nervous and angry, the breathing rate changes. Therefore, if you practice breathing, you will maintain emotional stability.
When something bad happens, emergency self-help is to practice breathing, practice breathing, and instantly restore calmness.
I used to be nervous when I spoke in public, but then I practiced breathing to achieve a level of not being nervous, and before a meeting. Keep your heart rate calm. In front of many people afterwards, they will be calm.
When encountering unfriendly people or things, practice breathing in this way, maintain the breathing rate, and the mood will slowly calm down.
After the age of fifty, getting angry is the most hurtful thing to the body, and it is futile in good health and emotion. When we reach middle age, taking care of our emotions is to maintain longevity. Share.
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