#头条创作挑战赛#
The famous writer Feng Tang, who was once invited to be the host of a reality show, had sharp and unique words, and when the program was broadcast, it immediately triggered fierce criticism from keyboard warriors on the Internet.
In the face of this negative public opinion on the Internet, Feng Tang responded indifferently: "What do those comments have to do with me?
If you think about it, there are thousands of things in the world, and there are no more than two categories: one is 'about my', and the other is 'about your'. ”
As we get older, we come to understand that life is ultimately a solo and irrelevant to others.
The passage of time will eventually reveal a true meaning:
The strength of a person's heart is essentially the meaning of six words - everything has nothing to do with me.
- What do others say, what does it matter to me?
Tang Taizong once asked Xu Jingzong:
"Among the civil and military forces of the Manchu Dynasty, I regard you as the most virtuous.
But why do people tell me about you so often?"
Xu Jingzong replied:
"Although the spring rain is as precious as oil, it nourishes the fields, and the farmers are happy with it, but the travelers are disgusted with the muddy roads;
The full moon of the Mid-Autumn Festival is as clean as a mirror, illuminating the four fields, talented and beautiful people are happy to chant poems under the moon, but thieves are afraid of revealing and hiding.
It is still difficult for the Lord of Heaven to please all beings, but mortals like me?
Where people gather, there must be right and wrong, and where words reach, there will be praise and disapproval.
Praise and slander coexist, don't mind the evaluation of others, open-mindedness is the key.
People are free to speak, and what they say is their choice, and it is the right of you and me to listen or not to listen.
So far this year, Jia Ling can be described as the most controversial figure.
"Hot and Hot" made its box office harvest of billions, and at the same time set off a wave of surging public opinion.
Those who love her highly respect it as a model of resilient feminine beauty and a model for the new era.
Those who hate her are very picky, accusing her of doing everything for marketing and dragging down Chinese films.
Jia Ling was not affected by this, and insisted in an interview:
"I will continue to be my authentic self. ”
It is difficult to reconcile, and the rumors do not stop.
No one is perfect, no matter how you act, there will always be someone to judge you.
Those evaluations are either as sweet as honey or as poisonous as arsenic.
Honey is easy to intoxicate, arsenic hurts people's hearts and lungs, neither is advisable.
Only by guarding one's heart like jade, gossip does not enter the ear, and right and wrong are disturbed and let it flow, can we live freely and freely.
- What do others do, what does it matter to me?
In Nanyang County at the end of the Eastern Han Dynasty, Zhu Mu and Liu Bozong had a deep love like the sea when they were young, and their friendship was as strong as the Jinlan Alliance.
As the years passed, the two entered their careers, but they went to different destinies.
Zhu Mu, upholding justice, serving as a servant of the imperial history, not afraid of power, repeatedly impeached eunuchs and dignitaries, clean breeze and bright festival, and famous.
On the other hand, Liu Bozong was lost in the power game, attached to the ten permanent servants, exchanged dignity for power, and deviated from his original intention.
Loyal and virtuous people, indignant both inside and outside, plotted to eliminate these eunuch forces that brought disaster to the country and the people.
Zhu Mu was concerned about the old friendship and repeatedly came to the door, trying to wake up the friends who had gone astray with reason, but they were all like stones sinking into the sea and did not make waves.
In the face of Liu Bozong's gradual distancing, Zhu Mu was tormented in his heart and could not hide his grief.
After a fierce dispute, Zhu Mu had an epiphany and wrote "Poems on Breaking Friendship with Liu Bozong", which was heartfelt and decisive, announcing the end of friendship:
"The birds of the North Mountains do not clean their wings.
Flying disorderly, restless sleeping.
Hungry for trees, full of mud.
Greed is inherent, and rancid food is eaten.
The belly is full of swelling, and the desire is boundless.
arrogant and slanderous phoenix.
Feng Fei for nine days, and you are on a different path.
Since then, they have said goodbye and gone their separate ways. "
After the poem was written, the two worlds never intersected again, and they each walked on the fork in the road of fate.
Soon, the Ten Standing Servants were finally defeated by Yuan Shao, and Liu Bozong was also imprisoned, while Zhu Mu won the support of many loyal ministers because of his noble conduct, and was appointed as the assassin of Jizhou.
The journey of life has its own mission and challenges, and no one can escape the cycle of cause and effect.
No matter how much persuasion and help you give, if it is not from your own heart, it will only be a waste of energy and self-depletion.
Even if you are close to your loved ones, the gap of knowledge is difficult to overcome.
Well frogs don't understand the vastness of the ocean, summer insects don't know the coldness of winter snow, and what is even more sad is that the difference in cognition will stimulate instinctive resistance and defense.
Many people can only wake up by experiencing the pain of their skin.
In the face of souls that cannot be awakened, the best posture is to respect their choices, be well, and focus on self-growth and the improvement of life.
After all, the first thing in a person's life is to manage himself well and manage his life with his heart.
- What does it matter to me how others live?
Increasing age seems to be accompanied by increased anxiety and panic.
Standing at thirty, with an undecided marriage, and the children of your peers around you are already laughing all over the floor, do you feel the urgency of your heart?
At the age of thirty-five, the career road seems to be stagnant at the grassroots level, compared with those fledgling but well-paid post-00s, do you have a flurry in your heart?
The cycle of years, as if every stage of life is invisibly divided, catching up has become the norm, once the footsteps lag behind, fear will creep in.
However, the long river of life is vast and boundless, can we only follow this single trajectory?
Actor Zhang Hanyu's sharing in "Heart Road" reveals another wisdom of life for us.
Until the age of forty-four, his image on the screen was mostly unknown, and he only tried his hand at "Big Shot", playing a mentally ill patient, a few lines, and a scene.
It wasn't until "No Thieves in the World" that his light as a supporting role shone a little, playing a latent policeman.
Zhang Hanyu has never been impatient, neither covets the halo of stars, nor blindly competes with others.
He knows that each actor has a unique personality and way of acting, which cannot be compared, let alone replaced.
Finally, at the age of forty-four, the corner of the valley in "The Assembly" came, opening a new chapter in his life.
"There are a lot of things that need to be tempered, and when the time is right, if I go back a few years, I may not be brave enough to meet this challenge," he admits. ”
Zhang Hanyu's attitude of "being calm and not admiring vanity" reveals another philosophy of life for us.
There is no need to worry about temporary lags, and there is no need to panic about the vacancy in front of you.
Everything has its rhythm, and blindly racing against others is not beneficial.
Measuring oneself to the beats of others will only make people tired, and navigating one's life according to the blueprint of others will eventually lead to disorientation.
Instead of rushing to achieve results and succumbing to frustration and anxiety, it is better to base yourself on the present and move forward steadily at your own pace.
Only by mastering your own rhythm can you draw your own wonderful chapter of life.
Dale Carnegie once said:
"In this noisy and impetuous world, our inner peace has become the most precious treasure.
Only by keeping our hearts calm can we unswervingly follow our principles and show a calm posture in a troubled society.
Have a serene heart that transcends the distractions of the world, and deeply understand that one's own world is an independent island, and the world of others is the same, and they do not interfere with each other.
This is not indifference, but a deep wisdom and clear self-awareness.
Let's use this to encourage ourselves, light the light in our hearts, and share this quiet power with our friends. "