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Whether a marriage is good or not seems to only affect the couple, but in fact it also involves many people, such as the couple's children and descendants.
In this regard, some people have put forward a point of view: parents are a mirror of their children, what kind of fate parents have, and what kind of fate children are likely to have.
You don't understand why parents are parents and children are children, so why do they have a similar fate? Because every word and deed and every action of parents is "imperceptibly" influencing children.
Here's an example. The husband often abuses his wife, and I believe that the couple's son will also have a temper of domestic violence, and even his personality will become more and more violent, without the gentleness of a gentleman.
This is the so-called "upper beam is not correct and the lower beam is crooked". How the upper beam is, how the lower beam will be. Once the upper beam is skewed, the lower beam will inevitably be skewed as well.
Good things don't necessarily happen from generation to generation, but misfortune definitely does from generation to generation.
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The personalities of both husband and wife will be imitated by their children.
The husband is an honest person, and the wife is also an honest person, so their children are also honest people with a 99% probability. What kind of character parents have, what kind of family education they have, and what kind of children they cultivate.
The so-called "character determines fate". The character of both husband and wife determines their fate. In the overall situation of fate, they will use their own experience to educate their children.
Children are the younger version of their parents. The character of the child is similar to that of the parents, and the fate of the child is likely to overlap with the fate of the parents.
We can find that couples with honest personalities are doing hard work at the bottom. As their children grow up, they can only work for others. In essence, it is still a "salaried person".
It's not easy to change. Especially the character, basically, three years old to see the old, seven years old to see the old, the child's character from childhood to adulthood, three views, can not be changed throughout their lives.
The so-called "wolves travel thousands of miles to eat meat, sheep travel thousands of miles to eat grass". Whether it is a wolf or a sheep is decided from the beginning, without the genes of wolves, the sheep can only be sheep for the rest of its life.
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The relationship between husband and wife will affect the child's outlook on life.
Since ancient times, we have emphasized "home and prosperity". Why does the word "harmony" mean the prosperity of all things? Because harmonious coexistence is the way to have a long-term relationship and a good life.
When the husband and wife quarrel all day long, the child will grow up in an environment full of resentment and contradictions. When the child grows up, won't he also become a person who quarrels at every turn?
Husband and wife live in harmony, you respect me, I respect you. When children see that their parents are so loving, they will cherish the quiet and harmonious time, and their temperament will become more and more easy-going, and their concepts will become more and more correct, and there will be no so-called complaint.
More importantly, the marriage relationship of parents will also affect children's attitude towards marriage. There is a saying on the Internet that some young people don't get married because they don't want to repeat the tragedy of their parents' marriage.
If the marriage of the previous generation only complains about each other, dislikes each other, quarrels with each other, drags each other down, and suffers from each other, the younger generation will maintain a disgusting attitude towards marriage.
Human beings are creatures that seek advantage and avoid disadvantage. Since there are predecessors who have demonstrated that it is meaningless, then they will not do these meaningless things.
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The resources of both husband and wife determine the starting point of the child.
In the era of industrialization and informatization, the gap between the fate of people is getting wider and wider. This gap is essentially a gap in background, family background, cognition, education, and future.
Take the "family foundation" as an example, why does the family background affect the fate of the child? Because to raise a child is to invest money. Investment may not be rewarding. But if you don't invest, you won't get anything.
Here's an example. Family A has money, and since he was a child, he has let his child receive the highest education in the city, and I believe that the quality of this child will not be bad.
On the contrary, if family B has no money and cannot provide a good education for its children, it is possible that they will come out to work after graduating from junior high school, so what is the future and future of the children?
If we fall behind in education, we will also fall behind in terms of cognition, and there will be a huge gap in the future. Someone else is a village chief, and he's still working as a coolie, and someone else is a section chief, and he's still delivering takeaways. This gap cannot be filled in a lifetime.
Resources are very important at all times. The so-called "soup without salt is better than water, and people without money are not as good as ghosts" is this truth.
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Write to the end
The class of both husband and wife, with a high probability, will be passed on to the children. The husband and wife are working-class, and when the child grows up, he is basically working-class.
Can it be changed, but the probability is very small, Liu Qiangdong has changed his original class, but not everyone can become Liu Qiangdong.
Here's an example. In a popular position, 1,000 people submitted resumes, written exams, and interviews, and in the end, only 1 person could go ashore. Who can guarantee that you will be one in a thousand?
In order for children to be excellent, both husband and wife must first become excellent. The so-called "dragons give birth to dragons, phoenixes give birth to phoenixes, and the sons of mice will make holes". Cows and horses can't give birth to unicorns, but dragons give birth to nine sons, all of whom are divine beasts.
When children are young, it is their parents who fight. As children grow up, what they fight for is the character, three views, conduct, resources, background and relationships given by the original family.