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The "fat cat jumping into the river" incident in 2020 can be said to have blown up the circle of friends, the cause of this incident was that a 21-year-old boy named Liu Jie spent 560,000 yuan for his girlfriend, and finally the boy couldn't bear such pressure, jumped into the Yangtze River, and unfortunately died.
And the truth of the matter is not that only the boy blindly pays for the girl, but that the girl herself belongs to a vain and willful person, but the boy contains all this on himself and blindly dotes on her.
And when the girl dislikes an errand messenger, everything about the relationship with the boy finally makes the boy feel very desperate, and he can only choose this way to break off.
1. Blind dedication in love.
Liu Jie is a post-00s, born in a rural family in Suizhou, Hubei, he has been very sensible since he was a child, and his family conditions are slightly solid, but for everything in the family, Liu Jie does not rely too much, but is a very self-motivated person.
After finishing junior high school, he volunteered to go to Nanjing to work, on the one hand, to share some of the pressure of life for his family, and on the other hand, to be able to create his current life.
Liu Jie found a restaurant in Nanjing as a waiter, working more than ten hours a day, which is undoubtedly very hard for such a young child, but his happiness in life is very full.
He never complained, he worked every day, just to be able to make a little more money, but the happiest thing for him was to be able to watch his pockets bulge every day.
Whenever he had some money, he would put it in the card, never coveted the income of his hard work, and had a very frugal heart.
It wasn't until he was 18 years old that he decided to take out all his savings and open a flower shop, because he had a certain interest in flower farming since he was a child, and the flower shop is also a place that girls like very much, which can be said to kill two birds with one stone.
After opening the flower shop, his life has slowly become richer, not only financially, but also has a stronger sense of belonging, and more and more of a new sustenance, and after the flower shop opened, he also met a girl named Tan Zhu.
This girl is from Xiangyang, Hubei, and she is very unaccustomed to life here when she first came to Nanjing, and he and Liu Jie have the same experience, so the two of them get along very much, and they will be together soon.
And at the beginning, their lives were also very happy, Tan Zhu was also very sensible, and did not bring any trouble to Liu Jie, but when Liu Jie gradually had deeper feelings for Tan Zhu, he didn't want his girlfriend to live too badly, and he wanted the best for her.
When he realized that Tan Zhu liked famous brands, he began to buy her all kinds of famous brands, whenever Tan Zhu saw the things he bought, he was very happy, Liu Jie was also very satisfied, for Tan Zhu, she thought that as long as she could buy what she liked, she was already very happy.
So in the next relationship, Tan Zhu was also very happy, because this kind of relationship was like a dream, but the dream always had to wake up, and Tan Zhu's mind gradually changed.
When Tan Zhu and Liu Zhuo went to play once, they met a friend they had met in Xiangyang, and when she saw the gap between Tan Zhu and Liu Jie, her eyes also changed.
After that, Tan Zhu also made some small requests to Liu Jie, although Liu Jie knew that Tan Zhu was a girl who loved beauty, so he would satisfy her, but when he knew that Tan Zhu's request had become a demand, he didn't notice it.
Tan Zhu was also very witty when she asked for it, she didn't ask for it in front of Liu Jie, but after returning home, she pretended to call her ex-boyfriend, but in the process of the call, she said what she was going to ask for.
After Liu Jie knew about it, she educated Tan Zhu, but Tan Zhu cried and said to Liu Jie: "You don't understand me, why don't we break up." ”
Second, Liu Jie spent 560,000 yuan for his girlfriend.
In the subsequent relationship, Tan Zhu still went to various shopping malls with Liu Jie as before, and Liu Jie knew that Tan Zhu was also to make him pay, so he proposed to break up with Tan Zhu, and Tan Zhu immediately agreed.
However, just a few days after this, Tan Zhu said to Liu Jie: "When I was with you, because my family's flower shop opened a lot of losses, so I asked you for this, you can help me." ”
After hearing this, Liu Jie didn't think much about it, so he agreed to Tan Zhu, but after Tan Zhu and Liu Jie got back together, she also borrowed Liu Jie's money to open a very beautiful flower shop, but Liu Jie still didn't see Tan Zhu's mind at this time.
Until one day Tan Zhu said to him again: "My flower shop has a lot of losses, you have to compensate me 560,000 yuan, otherwise we will break up, if you dare to be responsible for me, I will not let you go." ”
After hearing this, Liu Jie suddenly felt that something was suffocating in his chest, this Tan Zhu was the person he Liu Jie had loved for three years, but for his love, she only regarded it as a threat, and never really loved him.
However, the relationship between the two got worse and worse because of the entanglement of money, until Liu Jie's parents knew about this matter, and they also decided to solve it through legal means, and Tan Zhu was also very angry after learning that Liu Jie's family wanted to solve this matter through legal means.
And in an interview, she also said loudly to reporters: "I just love fat cats, I am destined to love him for the rest of my life, even if he is dead now, but I will always like him, so I did this." ”
In this incident, it undoubtedly triggered a discussion in society about the relationship between the sexes and love, which also made people see whether self-sacrifice in love is something that can be recognized.
3. Rationality in love.
Love needs to pay appropriately, but this kind of pay is not blindly giving, let alone selfish giving, each party has its own dignity, so at any time can not give up their dignity because of love.
However, in the relationship between the sexes, it is also very important to be equal, not because you are a boy to blindly spoil a girl, and you can't blindly ask for it because you are a girl, otherwise not only the relationship between the two parties will become very unequal, but also will have a certain impact on your mind.
Rationality is also a very important point in love, you need to understand the causes and consequences of some relationships as much as possible, and you can't make decisions that you will regret because of a momentary impulse, and you can't implicate others because of your own decisions.
And between the sexes, it is not a blind taking and giving, but a need for mutual understanding and tolerance, without these, then the relationship will become very fragile and vulnerable.
A person's self-worth and dignity cannot be completely dependent on another person, everyone is an independent individual, has their own thoughts, their own ideas, and has a world of their own.
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This kind of relationship is a healthy relationship and can last for a long time, so when we are troubled by feelings, we might as well try to let go and then come out, which is the real relief.