When people are old, these three things, as long as one is on the table, they are all great sorrows
As the years go by, everyone will enter old age and hope to enjoy family happiness and live a peaceful and comfortable life in their old age. The reality is often not as good as it should be, especially for many ordinary seniors, who may face many difficulties. Among them, wandering, struggling and strife are the three saddest things in later life.
1. Wandering without a fixed place
It is essential for seniors to have a stable place to live, not just a shelter from the elements, but also a haven for their souls. However, in real life, many elderly people are in the predicament of having no fixed place to live because they have transferred their houses to their children prematurely.
When Grandma Zhao was young, she put in a lot of effort for her family and children, but as she grew older, her physical condition gradually declined and she could no longer do heavy work. She originally had a three-bedroom nest, but in order to vacate it for her eldest grandson to make a wedding room, she was forced to live a wandering life.
Grandma Zhao began a wandering life of temporary residence in various relatives' homes. Although her relatives were quite enthusiastic about her, the feeling of being under the fence always made her difficult to let go. Whenever in the dead of night, she always thinks of her efforts when she was young, and thinks of the home that was once full of laughter and laughter, but now she can only spend the rest of her life under the roof of someone else's house.
The sorrow of having no place to live is not only the physical wandering, but also the spiritual helplessness. For the elderly, a stable living environment is the basic guarantee for them to spend their old age comfortably.
Second, the embarrassment of having no money in hand
Financial independence is one of the life goals pursued by everyone, especially for the elderly, having a certain economic foundation is an important guarantee for them to spend their old age peacefully.
Uncle Chen is a hardworking and simple old man who has devoted his life to his family and children. As he entered his old age, he found that he had almost no savings. His pension is meager, and his children's financial situation is not good, so they can't support him much.
Uncle Chen's life has become extremely poor, and he not only has to live a budget-conscious life, but also has to worry about his health all the time. Because once he gets sick, the expensive medical expenses will be too much for him to afford. This embarrassment of having no money in hand made Uncle Chen feel extremely stressed and helpless.
For the elderly, the sadness of not having money in hand is not only the constraints and difficulties of life, but also the fact that they are not free to choose the lifestyle they want. They may forgo many of the fun and activities they could have enjoyed due to financial reasons, or even be unable to afford the necessary medical expenses. This embarrassment bleaked their later years.
3. Disputes in the family
Home is a warm harbor and the home of people's hearts. For some seniors, home has become a source of strife.
Uncle Li and his wife, Grandma Wang, originally lived a peaceful life. As the children grow up and the family expands, so do the disputes in the family. The children often quarrel for various reasons, and even affect Uncle Li and Grandma Wang.
The old couple was often involved in these disputes, and the originally peaceful life was shattered. Not only do they have to endure physical exhaustion, but they also have to face mental torture. Uncle Li has tried to mediate family disputes many times, but often in vain. He felt as if he was in a never-ending whirlpool, unable to extricate himself.
The sadness of a restless day is that the elderly are unable to find peace and warmth at home. What they yearn for is a harmonious family atmosphere and the love and companionship of their children, but the reality often disappoints them, which not only affects the physical and mental health of the elderly, but also makes them lose confidence and expectation in their later life.
4. Countermeasures and suggestions:
1. The nest is the foundation, as long as there is still a breath of air, you must ensure that the property rights are in your own name, and you must not make concessions for the sake of some needs of your children, or even use it to guarantee the loan and other stupid things. Keep in mind that this is the foundation, and once the nest is lost, all the warmth and comfort are nonsense. 2. Please be friendly to yourself, save money secretly, there is no guarantee if you don't have money, no matter how good the relationship is, it will collapse, don't worry about raising children to prevent old age, that is an outdated concept. 3. No matter how difficult it is, you have to stand on your own, and you can't live under the same roof with your children, who are just relatives to a certain extent.