In the tide of modern society, the promotion of women's status is like a beautiful landscape, however, the ensuing "phoenix man" phenomenon has cast a shadow on some families.
When you watch TV series, you can often see the figure of "Phoenix Man", every time we see "Phoenix Man", we will grit our teeth and say: If you give birth to a daughter in the future, you will definitely not let your daughter marry this kind of person!
Why is "Phoenix Man" so annoying?
Generally speaking, phoenix men specifically take the only daughter as the target of mate selection, and they hope that they can completely change their fate by marrying an only daughter with a good family.
Especially for those families with only one daughter, how can we enjoy the dividends brought by the promotion of women's status, while skillfully avoiding those hidden risks and avoiding the fate of "eating out of households"?
With the improvement of women's status, the delusion of "phoenix men" to "eat the dead" is becoming more and more common
In today's society, the status of women is increasing day by day, however, the phenomenon of "phoenix man" lingers like a haze.
For those families with only one daughter, how to avoid the fate of "eating out of the household" has become a question worth pondering.
Phoenix men are looking for an only daughter, in fact, they often take a fancy to the "double advantages" of the only daughter family.
Single-child families usually accumulate wealth, and the phoenix man sees this as a "shortcut" to his own class jump.
Secondly, the only daughter, as the sole heir of the family, is of great significance to the parents, which gives the phoenix man more room for emotional manipulation.
However, this relationship is often based on inequality.
A phoenix man may expect his wife to give up her career after marriage and take care of the family at home full-time, while he takes care of the financial support of the family.
This model not only restricts women's personal development, but also increases women's dependence economically, putting them in a vulnerable position in the face of family conflicts.
They will take advantage of women's feelings and access the resources of women's families. For single-daughter families, the existence of the "Phoenix Man" is undoubtedly a huge threat.
The children raised by these two types of families love to "eat out of the household", and parents who only give birth to one daughter should be careful
Let's first uncover the two types of families that are most likely to develop a tendency to "eat out of households".
The first is the patriarchal family, which tends to pin the future of the family on the male offspring and relatively neglect the female offspring.
Children who grow up in this kind of family environment can easily form the idea of "male superiority and inferiority of women", believing that they have the right to obtain more resources and benefits from women. The second type is a family where parents are overly spoiled.
They may be obedient to their children and will do their best to accommodate whatever they ask.
Children who grow up in this family environment often lack independent problem-solving skills and respect for others, and once they realize their "special status" in the family, they may have the idea of using this advantage to gain more benefits.
So, as an only daughter family, how should we protect our "half the sky"?
We must abandon stereotypes of patriarchy.
Give your daughter full love and respect. Let them understand that gender does not determine value and that everyone has the right to pursue their dreams.
We also need to focus on communication with our daughters.
Understand her thoughts and needs and guide her to establish the right values.
When she is faced with a choice, we need to be her strong support, supporting her decision, rather than blindly pursuing material gains.
If you only give birth to one daughter, how to avoid the "love brain"?
The reason why only daughters are easy to be "eaten out" is because they are easy to fall in love, and second, these phoenix men are "clever in their means".
So as a parent who only gives birth to one daughter, how to avoid her daughter's love brain being deceived?
1. Provide support and understanding:
When your daughter is facing emotional distress, provide a safe haven and let her know that her family will always have her best back.
2. Spiritual abundance, raising a sober daughter:
Most women will have a "love brain" behavior during puberty, but as they have more social experience, the love brain will be alleviated.
In order to let her daughter get out of her love brain as soon as possible, she must be allowed to travel more and go out to see more, so that she can have a rational mind and a broad vision.
3. Establish the right values:
In the family, we can appropriately choose some books for our children, books about women's independence and self-improvement, so that our daughters can learn the importance of self-worth in the story.
4. Encourage Interests and Hobbies:
Encourage our daughter to participate in activities, we can often participate in some talent competitions, encourage our daughter to show her strengths, and let her understand that success is not only in love, but also in personal achievement.
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