The smoke and rain in the south of the Yangtze River are always so lingering and compassionate, just like the relationship between men and women in this world, which is both complex and subtle. Standing on the old covered bridge, looking at the hazy smoke and rain, I couldn't help but feel a ripple in my heart. The smoke and rain in the south of the Yangtze River seem to tell a moving story, which makes people intoxicated.
"The spring water is blue in the sky, and the boat is painted to listen to the rain. I chanted this poem softly, feeling the tenderness and gentleness of Jiangnan. However, behind this tenderness, there are many practical problems in the relationship between men and women. Today, I would like to share with you some of the behaviors that made women lose their charm during the Republic of China. Perhaps, these stories can shed some light on us.
1. Arrogance and rudeness
In that era, there was a woman named Wan'er, who was born in a famous family and was loved since she was a child. However, she became arrogant and rude because of this, and no one looked at her. Whenever she interacts with people, she is always high up and dismissive. Gradually, her friends left her, and her charm disappeared. As the ancients said: "The arrogant soldiers will be defeated, how can the arrogant and rude last long?"
2. Vain comparison
During the Republic of China, vanity and comparison prevailed. Many women spend a lot of money on expensive clothing and jewelry in pursuit of superficial glamour and vanity. However, this act of vanity comparison makes them lose their true charm. Because the real charm comes from inner self-confidence and independence. As the poem says: "There is poetry and books in the belly." ”
3. Laziness and laziness
In those days, there was a woman named Lan'er, who was naturally beautiful, but lost her charm because she was lazy and casual. She spends her days doing nothing, not thinking about progress, just thinking about enjoying life. Gradually, her friends look down on her, and her charm disappears. As the proverb goes, "Hard work is the source of happiness." ”
Fourth, be careful
During the Republic of China, there was a woman named Fang'er, who was smart and clever, but lost her charm because she was too calculating. When she interacts with people, she always calculates gains and losses, and refuses to suffer. This calculating behavior wears out her friends, and her charm is greatly diminished. As the poem says: "The sea is inclusive, and tolerance is great." ”
Fifth, complaining
In those days, there were many women who complained about their setbacks. They always complain about the injustice of fate and the hardships of life, but they never think of changing themselves. This negative mindset makes them lose their charm. Because true charm comes from the love of life and confidence in the future. As the famous saying goes, "Life is like the ocean, and only the strong-willed can reach the other side." ”
6. Dependence on others
During the Republican period, some women were too dependent on others and lost themselves. They always rely on men for their lives and on their friends to solve their problems. This dependence stresses others and makes them lose their charm. Because true charm comes from independence and self-confidence. As the poem says: "Confident life for 200 years will be like water hitting 3,000 miles." ”
7. Lack of self-cultivation
In those days, some women lacked cultivation and behaved rudely. Their loud noises and spitting in public places are eye-catching. This lack of cultivation makes them lose their charm. Because true charm comes from the elegance and temperament of the heart. As the famous saying goes, "The flower of cultivation blooms in silence, and the fruit of success bears fruit in the light." ”
8. I don't know how to dress up
During the Republic of China, although some women were born beautiful, they didn't know how to dress themselves. They always appear in front of everyone in casual and unkempt clothes. This kind of behavior of not knowing how to dress up makes them lose their charm. Because proper dressing can make people more beautiful and moving. As the poem says: "The clouds want clothes, flowers want to look, and the spring breeze blows Revlon." ”
9. Serious emotionality
In those days, some women were very emotional and moody. They are always angry or sad over a trivial matter. This emotional behavior makes the people around them feel exhausted and makes them lose their charm. Because true charm comes from inner peace and stability. As the famous saying goes, "Mount Tai collapses before and the color does not change." ”
10. Lack of connotation
During the Republic of China, although some women were beautiful and moving, they lacked connotation and depth. They only know how to pursue superficial splendor and vanity, but they never think of improving their inner cultivation. This lack of substance makes them lose their charm. Because true charm comes from the richness and depth of the heart. As the poem says: "There is a golden house in the book, and there is Yan Ruyu in the book." ”
11. Disrespect for others
In those days, there were women who were disrespectful to others, always centered on their own interests, and did not consider the feelings and needs of others. This disrespectful behavior makes them lose their charm. Because true charm comes from respect and love for others. As the famous saying goes, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." ”
12. Lack of self-confidence
During the Republic of China, some women lacked self-confidence and always felt that they were not good enough and not perfect. This lack of self-confidence makes them lose their charm. Because true charm comes from inner confidence and firmness. As the poem says: "Confident that two hundred years of life will be like water hitting three thousand miles." ”
I stood on the covered bridge and looked at the misty and rainy Jiangnan, and I couldn't help but feel a lot of emotion in my heart. These behaviors that make women lose their charm may have been common during the Republic of China, but they are still worthy of our deep thought and vigilance today. Because it's only when we truly understand the dangers of these behaviors and try to correct them