Many original partners will ask me a question, what does a man think after he is found cheating?
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Almost all men glorify their motives for cheating
may be in the eyes of the original partner, her husband's cheating is a heinous and big thing. But deep down, most men glorify their infidelity.
Mr. Wang is a man with a small career achievement, and he is also very responsible for his wife and children, and he has been married for 15 years, and he has never said a word to his wife, which is very considerate.
His wife complained that it was too hard to work outside, so Mr. Wang asked his wife to take care of the children at home, and when his wife wanted to go out to work, Mr. Wang helped his wife arrange everything.
Later, when his wife got tired of going to work, she said that she wanted to open a coffee shop, and Mr. Wang helped her run back and forth to get everything done. Even Mr. Wang's wife said that after marrying Mr. Wang, she did not experience the hardships of life.
But it's such a man, but he cheats frequently outside.
When I talked to him, I asked him about his motives for cheating. Mr. Wang said:
"I don't think I've hurt my wife because I give her a lot of money every month. She lives a life that other women envy, and there is no sorrow in her life. So what do I have to be sorry for her?
Besides, although I was out looking for women, I didn't let those women threaten my life now. My wife is still my wife, and she will be my wife, nothing has changed. I don't understand why she's so upset?
This mistress was disobedient and sent a text message to my wife, so I broke up with this mistress as soon as possible. I've done a good enough job, haven't I?"
That is to say, in the hearts of some men, if his wife depends on him for food and clothing, and he is willing to be considerate to his wife, then he is already a peerless good man, and cheating is nothing.
This shows that the man calculates the benefits very clearly, how much benefit he brings to his wife, and how much benefit his wife brings to him. The difference between the two is the cost of his mistakes. Similarly, Xiao San is not a precious object in his eyes, and men are very clear about which is more important than the other.
After listening to Mr. Wang's words, I want to reiterate one thing to the girls: most men value value and interests, and when your value is low, even if the other party is willing to treat you well, the other party may not have no calculation in his heart.
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Passion makes men impulsive, and money makes men rational
Many men will call themselves sperm worms when they cheat, and they are seduced by Xiao San, and they are fascinated for a while. Many women say that men are like this, they can't control themselves.
If girls think so, they are very wrong. Just because the sperm worm has a brain doesn't mean he can't control himself all the time. When a man and the mistress are on firewood, even if he is under a lot of pressure, he will be desperate to treat the mistress as true love.
But this kind of day is only for a while.
When the man came to his senses, the passion retreated. He will suddenly find that if he divorces, there will be nothing. If the wife knows that she is cheating, she has to be ruthless to herself, then she will lose too much.
At this time, men have two choices, either keep returning to the family, keep cheating, and keep returning to the family until the original partner is numb. Either transfer the money and gradually deprive the original spouse of the financial power, if one day the East Window incident, the original spouse will not be able to take anything away.
For a middle-aged man, career property is very important to him, it is the identification of his identity. So money and interests can make men very sensible, and even sometimes ruthless.
If the original partner knows how to operate, then the ruthless side of the man will face the mistress. If the original partner makes frequent mistakes in the operation, then the ruthless side of the man will face you.
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Cheating is all about making up for your own shortcomings
Mr. Li is a typical "empty derailment". Mr. Lee's wife was overtempered and had a chronic period of depression. Mr. Li couldn't stand his wife's personality, but there was no way to change his wife, they had been married for 15 years, and he was no longer willing to listen to his wife.
Unexpectedly, after his wife found out that Mr. Li was cheating, she changed her irritability and almost begged Mr. Li to go home. Mr. Li suddenly felt a thrill of revenge.
In this example, we can see that men sometimes cheat in order to make up for their emptiness. But in the end, a man's attitude towards his wife depends precisely on how the wife handles the problem.
If the wife can operate correctly and face the problem of her husband's cheating with the right attitude, then this matter is not so difficult to solve. Once the wife first exposes her hole cards or when dealing with the problem, the man feels that the wife is not capable. Then men sometimes really take their wives in reverse.