Have you noticed that many people around you are complaining that their conditions are not bad, why can't they find a partner?
Especially men, once they enter the age of forty, they are very anxious, and they may only be single in this life.
Looking at the countryside, there are not a few men who have been single all their lives.
Many families, in order to find a partner for their son, empty their money bags, buy a house in the city, and also have a sum of money, and after their son finds a partner, they can buy a car immediately.
Perhaps, in order to please the object, it is also willing to send a car to the mother's house, and add a bride price.
All the conditions are ready, but the object just doesn't come, and it doesn't work for a man to go on a blind date. That's a hurry.
Look at some men of the same age, they don't have a house and a car, they also find a good partner, and then make a fortune.
Fate is always unfair, and God doesn't have long eyes and doesn't favor the lucky ones of your family.
Don't rush to blame God, don't hate and envy others, and don't complain about fate.
Before a man is looking for a partner, he should ask himself: "Why are a large number of men looking for me if a certain woman is not looking for me?"
01
Your own character is your hole card.
At the end of the Qin Dynasty, Chen Ping, a poor boy, presided over the sacrifice to the gods of the shrine and distributed meat for everyone.
Both the poor and the rich were given meat according to the rules, and everyone was satisfied.
There was an old man in the local area who passed away, and Chen Ping couldn't contribute money, so he went to help and help.
When he was helping with the funeral, the rich man Zhang Cheng saw him and thought it was very good, so he married his granddaughter to him.
A few years later, Chen Ping became the founder of the Han Dynasty.
The novelist Balzac said: "What should stand out about a man is not his horse, nor his other ornaments, but his character." ”
Man, you have money, but don't use your money to show off, you are handsome, but don't use it to deceive the little girl, you have a good job, but don't think you're a king.
Men, let alone because they are poor, should not be willing to fall into depravity, or even go to the trap and be abducted. People with poor hearts are also of bad character, and they only know how to complain and hate.
Be a person with good character and accumulate virtue. Your kindness transmits a lot of power, and it is like a ray of light to light up another ray of light.
02
The retirement of parents is a vision.
As a post-70s generation, I found that many parents of my age have exhausted their life savings to buy houses for their children.
But when children get married, they have to give money to their parents in turn. First, the parents have become poor and old, and second, the parents have no source of income and can only rely on their children. Either way, children do add a certain amount of burden.
When the working conditions of children are not good, it is even more difficult to give hundreds of thousands of dollars to their parents every month.
Looking a little farther away, the house that the parents bought in the county seat is of little use to the children who travel far away.
Parents have farmed in rural areas all their lives, and their children have been in Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou, and Shenzhen, or in provincial capitals or urban areas. The house in the county seat is idle all year round, and at the same time, the children are in other places, and they have to rent a house.
The attractiveness of the house is smaller, but the pressure of filial piety brought by the parents becoming poor is also greater.
When a woman is looking for a partner, she will definitely consider what the man's parents are and how to provide for the elderly. If parents can retire, it should be more reliable than simply buying a house, after all, it is better to "thin water and long stream" than "one size fits all".
Parents, have a vision, not look at the conditions of the moment. Especially for a son's family, relying on the son for everything in the future is not impossible, but difficult.
Parents can retire, have a certain amount of savings, can live on their own for a long time, and at a certain time, they can also help their son get out of trouble, such an arrangement is also very popular.
03
The ability to make money is a source of money.
As a man in his twenties, don't look at him dressed brightly, don't look at him who eats and drinks generously, don't look at him who has a house and a car, you have to trace back to the source, where the money comes from.
The first is the money given by parents or siblings, and the man spends it with peace of mind, which is a sign of a loser, not a real rich person.
The second is that men make money on their own and do their best to rely on themselves, although they eat food stalls and drink boiled water, they will soon have a way out, and they will not be poor for the rest of their lives.
The third type is the money that has been cheated and defrauded, which comes and goes faster, and even doubles and is lost.
A wise woman will choose the second type of man.
Ignorant women, choose whatever you want, but after spending all day drinking, you will still wake up and return to the second kind of man.
If you don't have the ability to make money, even if your parents have savings and a pension, you can't do it. After all, when a woman is looking for a partner, she is looking for a man who will live her life.
We can see that many men who have a legitimate job and have not bought a house or a car can easily find a partner, and this is the attraction of "potential" to people.
04
The cleanliness of the appearance is an impression.
Host Yang Lan said: "No one has the obligation to discover your excellent inside through your sloppy appearance." ”
When people interact with people, first impressions matter.
You may not have good clothes, but you can definitely wash them.
You can be introverted, but you can say a few nice words and listen to others with a smile.
You may have a cheap car, but you can scrub it clean and fix some unsightly scratches.
Your office isn't too big, but it can be cozy.
You can complain a few times, but then you must calm down and look at people gently.
Moderate dressing, good self-confidence, clean habits, and inner richness can definitely bring excitement to men, and when they meet each other, they can make people's eyes shine, thus generating a good impression.
05
The writer Maugham once said, "I am more interested in a man's mind than in his appearance." ”
Finding a partner is not as simple as a blind date activity and an arranged marriage by parents, but a man who can use his wisdom to support a small family in the future.
Men, whoever you are, you will attract whomever you want, and you will hold hands.
Pursue happiness with sweat and wisdom, and God will be extraordinarily gracious.
If you're single, don't ask why, ask why.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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