Forty is not confused, fifty is aware of the destiny of heaven, and sixty is obedient. This is a profound summary of the stages of life by the ancients, and it contains profound wisdom. At the age of 40, we learn not to be deceived by the outside world and no longer blindly pursue illusory material things; at the age of 50, we begin to understand the arrangement of fate and know how to accept and adapt to the impermanence of life; after the age of 60, we can listen to the opinions of others more tolerantly, and our hearts are at peace, and we are no longer easily disturbed by the outside world.
In this process, "knowing the destiny of heaven at fifty" is particularly important. Whether a 50-year-old person can live the way he wants and whether he can fully control his destiny directly affects the happiness and tranquility of the years to come. And when people reach the age of 50, there are actually only five elements that can widen the gap between them.
1. Can you "shake hands and make peace" with yourself?
In life, the most difficult thing to do is to know yourself. As the old saying goes: "Know yourself and know your opponent, and you will not be defeated in a hundred battles". However, true awareness often begins with self-reflection. The key is not how to achieve the big or small, but whether we can reconcile with ourselves, accept our ordinariness, and not be inferior or conceited. Many people often doubt their abilities and complain about the unfairness of life, which only fills life with pain and despair. In fact, it is extremely stupid to define yourself in terms of money and material things. If you don't rely on the help of others, why bother? If you don't rely on the help of others, why bother with it? If you don't rely on other people's help, why bother with it? Open your heart, accept yourself, shake hands with yourself, and you will start a new chapter in your life.
2. Whether you "understand" the ordinariness of the people around you.
As we enter our fifties, our focus has shifted from the outside world to our families. A harmonious family and family members living in harmony are one of life's great blessings. Family harmony sounds simple, but it's actually not easy. Most middle-aged people have strained family relationships and can't even calm down a simple conversation. The problem often lies in a lack of "understanding". If parents do not understand the difficulties of their children, there will be conflicts in the family, and if the husband does not understand the difficulties of his wife, there will be cracks in the marriage. We are all accustomed to putting ourselves in our own shoes, but we rarely put ourselves in the shoes of others. How can such a relationship be discordant when we always demand others according to our own standards? We don't need to be harsh or reluctant to treat the people around us, and it is enough to choose to be considerate. Children are ordinary, accept the reality of their ordinary life, partner ability is mediocre, just understand their hard work.
3. Whether you have a certain "deposit".
In middle and late life, we need to rely on three magic weapons - the old bottom, the old nest, and the old wife. The so-called old bottom refers to the savings we have on hand. Families with large savings can survive each day with their savings, even if they are at risk of losing their jobs, while families with low savings have to struggle to make ends meet and have no time to rest. Not to mention, once sick, those who have money can get medical resources in time, while those who do not have savings can only sigh. As the saying goes, soup without salt is better than water, and people without money are better than ghosts. Don't think that saving money is an outdated practice. Perhaps, "deposits" are the last guarantee for ordinary people. No one will lend a helping hand when times of difficulty, but the savings in your pocket can be a lifesaver.
4. Whether the physical condition is "healthy".
"After how many things in the world, I know that peace is worth a thousand gold." It is only after the changes of the world that we realize the true truth: all material wealth in the world is less precious than physical health. Only with a healthy body can you enjoy a good life, and without health, even if you have a lot of money, it is like being in hell, and money is just sleeping in the bank. Especially after all these years of ups and downs, we will find that success is no longer the most important thing. Being able to live in good health is the foundation of life. Some people suffer from illness due to overdraft, and the money they earn is far less than enough to cover their medical bills. There are also people who have died in a hurry because of the virus, and all their dreams and hopes have come to naught. From today onwards, please take good care of your body. The healthier your body, the more likely you are to be richer and happier than others. Because you get sick less, you can save a significant amount of money for your family.
5. Whether the mentality is "sunny".
In addition to focusing on physical health, mental health cannot be neglected. The mind and body are an inseparable whole, and they complement and influence each other. Being physically strong and having a positive mindset is what really good things are. On the other hand, if the body is still good and the state of mind is negative, then the body will gradually decay. What is the mentality, what the attitude is, what it will be for the rest of your life. As for psychological problems, there is an opinion that this is an era of material abundance and spiritual barrenness. Although modern people have certain material resources, the emptiness and barrenness of their hearts often make it difficult for them to feel the meaning of life. The meaning of life has nothing to do with material money, it has to do with one's own heart. If the heart is facing the sun, even if it is rainy, you can feel the warmth of the sun, and if the heart is cold, even if the sun is shining, you can feel the cold and biting. At the end of the day, it all comes from our own inner world.