Men and women are two creatures from different planets, we value feelings, and men value methods.
After experiencing countless quarrels to the point of collapse, but the other party was still unmoved, and after shedding several buckets of tears, I have been thinking about how to solve the dilemma of chicken and duck, and I have done various experiments, and I finally found the solution, which is "silence".
Don't try to make a man understand you by "talking".
It really didn't work
As women, we are accustomed to using a lot of words and words to communicate, trying to make men understand us or get more attention, but usually men either don't listen or get annoyed, and end up leaving us alone to smoke.
So I tried to analyze the nature of men, and friends around me said that there is only one main road in men's minds, and there is no other fork in the road, and one road leads to the end, only knowing "where to go", and only seeing "causes" and "effects".
For example, if you don't call your girlfriend before bed, you will get angry, and if you forget to report, it may be difficult to go out next time, and you can say that they are simple-minded.
You think you're "explaining, communicating"
In the eyes of men, it's just "mom's broken thoughts"
But a woman's heart is like an alley in Nakayonghe, cold and unprepared for sharp turns, and there may be forks in the road that navigation does not have, often entangled in the small details between cause and effect, and spend a lot of time explaining the "feeling", such as: I am not trying to force you to report, but I want to ensure your safety, and I will worry if I don't call, so that I can have a sense of security....
But the long and trivial words sound like the mother's thoughts, and if the crazy chatter of your parents will make you crazy, empty, and want to leave, then the man is about the same.
It's only useful to use magic against magic - "Silence"
From that day on, instead of wasting tears and saliva, I decided to fight magic with magic: "silence".
Don't say anything, keep your attention and dedication to him to a minimum, keep quiet today if you're used to making small talk, and if you usually take dinner and eat with you after work, just buy your own today. Do what you should have done, it's best to chase dramas until you forget the time, and don't forget to post delicious popsicles to your circle of friends.
It is only by letting men themselves sense that something is wrong that they begin to value one thing.
Induce men to "solve problems" and think about why you are the way you are, and even feel uneasy, and this uneasiness will drive them to find out why. At this time, those things that were originally regarded as complaints will be important clues to solve the problem, and they didn't want to listen to it when they talked about it, but now they will want to hear you in turn.
It's not cold violence, it's not temper tantrums
It is more effective to be quiet and use "silence" to make men actively participate in the problem
But pay attention to the fact that silence is not cold violence, not to ignore you after you say cruel words, but to give each other a little time, there should be reports and daily conversations, just to avoid unnecessary emotional consumption and angry words, before the hurricane essay is quiet, find the right time to talk.
It's not a temper, if the other party is already willing to talk to you before this, then talk, you don't need to play tricks to make him regret it more, this will only consume feelings, there is no need.
Rather than using emotions to force men to comply, it is more effective to use "silence" to make them actively want to participate in the problem.